What do you think of adoption?

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pansyblue	Yes. I was adopted. Adoption isn't a perfect cure all. But a mom that is too young or otherwise unable to raise a baby does the baby a favor by letting ppl more able and ready to adopt her child. Parents who keep their children make decisions that hurt or give up things for their children. That's what a parent does. They try to do what is best for that child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Joyce C	I dont think giving your baby up for adoption is a terrible thing, but I personally wouldnt do it. I think all the struggles you will have to go through will make you a strong and better person in the end Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CrAZy_P!NK ♥	no! that's so mean! If you didn't want a baby then why did u make one? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

owness	yes i would rather give my baby away thn have an abortion......let it have a better life if u feel that u cnt take care of it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ekcool	i think adoption is the best choice. your helping your babys life and your helping the couples life who desperatley wants a babys. its a win win situation Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amber	Yes, because there are lots of women who can not get pregnant and would love to adopt a baby, you could even try to find a couple that will help you through the end when you have the baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

slinkywizzard	That would be a very caring and kind thing to do for a baby that you could not take care of. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cizzy	In a heartbeat. There are so many people out there that can't have children and want to adopt. Adoption is the better way to go than abortation. I've done it when I was 16. If you're the one in the situation, feel free to email me if you need someone to talk to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Whyld in the willows	I was adopted. I feel that if I hadn't been given up by my parent then I wouldn't have the life that I have now. You might think of open adoption if you are too young but want to know that the child is well taken care of. Being a parent is about knowing what is best for your child. If being a parent when you are too young and you are not capable of taking care of the baby, adoption is best. Give a baby a better chance to thrive with a set of parents that will love and provide better than a young mother could on her own. I know many adopted people. We thrive despite the beginning of our lives. We have loving parents that CHOSE us. There is nothing wrong with loving a baby so much that you give that baby up for a better future for both of you. Good luck. Hope that helps. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

janimal	I don't think anyone can truly answer this question unless they are in that situation. I don't know what it is like to get pregnant at 15. I'd like to think that I would have kept the baby and done the best job I could raising it. But honestly, I don't know what I would have done. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Liz H	I really admire people who give their baby up for adoption so that it will honestly have a better life and not just because they don't want it. I personally could never give away my child. I will struggle and work as hard as I have to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

F.L.I.R.T.Z	I WOULD NEVER GIVE MA BABY ALLWAY OR FOR ADOPTION I JUS THINK IT S WRONG KILL A BABY WHO HAS NO FAULT OF WAT UR MISTAKEN WAS IS NOT HIS FAULT ITS JUS WRONG KILL A KID IN UR BELLY WHO UR GIVEIN BIRTH TO ND BECOME A MOM BUT ITS JUS WRONG TO DO DAT Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

smiley	I would give it up for adopition for a better life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cilla	Nope...i'd probably keep it if the baby daddy helps out Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Scribles	yes Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hey Girl Hey!	YES But I think I would regret it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

simplynah	a lot of people that are adopted may be better off financially in the end, but emotionally, they're very....[ ] so..no...i don't think having to deal with "wondering who your "real parents" are" is neccesarily a "better life" Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

babystar2013	WHY???? Do you feel you have to? In my opinion i say NO WAY. Because if your planning to have a baby and you pregnant with another one.And you give that child up.Your birth child Will probably feel resentment torward you when it grows up.Might say something like"Why'd you give me up and not her/him".So if I were don't give it up.Children or a gift. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

maverick	I dont think I would because my family would help and I would work my *** off to keep him/her. Older people who have children could ask themselves the same question. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sara Life is so unlike theory	u will regret it and the child will grow someday and discover he is adopted and will hate u forever... think twice before u do something like that. and never forget to discuss that with the fathers child. best wishes:) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lillie	No. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bite_m3h	no. i think that baby would have a better life with me-his/her real mother. i will face the consequences of my actions and work as hard as i can to give the best life for my baby. i will not give up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ღyesღ	Now that I am not super young anymore, if I got pregnant, I would take care of my own child (I'm 24). However, I used to say that if I got pregnant when I was younger I would definitely contact an adoption agency so that my child would have better opportunities. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sunny	"Better life"? I was taken from my mother and her wealthy, educated family and raised by pretty sucky parents. My afather had 9 dependents, and we were pretty poor. NO extras for us whatsoever. Education was not valued, but mocked. Adopters are not more special than people who give kids up for adoption--they're mere mortals, too. So, no, I would NEVER give a child up for adoption. I'd do whatever it took to keep my baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tish	hi lil sis... (that was actually what my uncle called me years ago.) before i answer your question, i'd like to post one: -how many of the people who are so quick to jump to the "hell yeah, i'd give up my kid" do you think have actually been pregnanat and placed in the situation? not too many, i'd venture. now your question: i did make an adoption plan for my son, 16 years ago. i was young, scared, in college and told by everyone around me that giving him to strangers was better than raising him on my own. two weeks before his birth, i changed my mind. my son is now a very handsome, bright and mildly self-centered 16 year old whom i couldn't imagine my life without. now, does he have a good life? i would say yes. do i have the same lifestyle that the adoptive parents had 16 years ago, today? yes, i do. was he neglected and abused? no. i think the whole, better life argument is suspect because often what we see as a better life, is just people who are older, married, have money and appear to be better parents. now grant it, raising him as a young single mom in college was not easy. but it was doable. and the sacrifice was worth it. i actually shared with him my adoption plan recently. he said, "i'm so glad you didn't give me up!" now, knowing what i know now about my life raising my son, would i have made the same choice??? absolutely! ETA: laurie... you rock, lady! thanks for having my back. but, honestly, i think the whole thumbs down thing is funny, in a sadistic sort of way. i really didn't come on this forum to default to the "adoption...what a loving choice" banter. primarily because i know (from personal experience as a woman who MADE AN ADOPTION PLAN) that it's complete bullsh!t! hence, i actually expect nothing different. and IMO, the people who thumb me down, do so because my voice is one they would rather have silenced: the feared evil birthmother who changed her mind! or they just think i'm a sarcastic, ornery smart-as$...both of which have a ring of truth to them... muwwahhhhhh!!! ps. when did this board become co-opted by the cast from "high school musical- 2?" i feel like i'm reading comments from barbie and skipper... come on people, please!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LaurieDB	Giving up one's own flesh and blood is so HUGE! Age is not always the brick wall people think it is. My grandmother had her first two by age 15. Her parents made her give up the first one. She actually eloped with the father who was freshly out of the service when she got pregnant the second time (laws were different at that time,) out of fear she'd be made to do the same. But, she didn't stay gone long. Her parents convinced her to come home and her father had the marriage annulled. But, she agreed to this only if they let her keep her baby. They did. The baby was my mother. My grandmother married within a few years and they had a child with her husband. She had a good life with her husband and children until she died in 1999. I want to address some of the issues I've seen in answers given. The first is this idea of a "better life." Well, people seem to forget the adoptive parents are just human beings, too. They really don't have special parenting abilities above natural parents. Some are good parents and some are bad parents. I've known plenty of adoptive families of both varieties. I've known a number of adopted families where the children were abused or the parents were alcoholics or they lost their financial means or they got divorced. A lot of adoptive parents these days are single anyway. They are human beings and the circumstances they are in at the time of the adoption do not always remain. Sometimes circumstances get better with time, and sometimes they get worse. This is no different from parents who keep their children. Some are good parents and some are bad parents. If it's age that is the issue, the chances are much higher that circumstances are going to get better, because the parents will get older and most likely more mature. Lots of people work and go to school while raising children, adopted or not. They put their kids in day care, adopted or not. No one can be certain that their child will get a better life if placed for adoption. The other issue I see a lot is that of the "two choices" theory. The two choices being adoption or abortion. Well, what about the choice of raising the child???? If this can be done, then it's really the best option. Keeping families together is a rather optimum situation. Remember, too, that despite what some folks think, after an adoption finalizes, it's very, very, very rare that anyone can contest it and win. This is a decision from which there is no turning back. An adoption is only open as long as the adoptive family says it's open. An open adoption agreement can be canceled by the adoptive parents at any time, with no legal recourse for the natural parent. This is the law. At that point, it becomes a closed adoption and the natural family and adopted person may never see each other again. Personally, I would do whatever I needed to do to keep my baby. This is something I've always known. If there was a way to do it, I would have. After all, this is my child and I am his or her mother! There are no guarantees in adoption just as there are no guarantees when someone raises his or her own children. EDIT: I just want to add that I've seen some thumbs down for Tish. I really don't know why. This is a woman who had the courage to turn around and say, "I want to raise my child." The she did whatever it took to give him a good life. He is now well and they have a good life together. How is that deserving of thumbs down. What she did took courage, honor, strength, determination and hard work to be a good mom for her son...and she did it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather B	No I would never give away a child of mine, ever. There is no guarantee an adoptee will have a 'better life' what could honestly be considered better than feeling the closeness, comfort and love of your most favorite person in your little baby world - your own mother I think it's a shame that people consider material things to be 'better' than the love of a natural mother Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Adoptionissadnsick	As an adoptee, I wish my mother would have returned me to god rather than give me to strangers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ	There is no way i would be pregnant for nine months , go through the pain of having a baby then handing it off to strangers even if i did not have any money. How does anyone know that they are really giving their child a better life? How does anyone know about the adoptive parents really cause appearances are deceiving. This is my opinion and i am entitled to it just like you and others but before i would see a baby of mine go to anyone else i would have an abortion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Doodlestuff	No. First of all, it is a fallacy that the baby will have a better life. Many adopted children are also victims of abuse, divorce, poverty, and instability. NONE of the agencies review parents for mental stability, did you know that? SO, don't make the decision based on the baby having a better life because there is no guarantee that it will happen. Make it based on your ability to be a parent. Keep in mind that unless you live in a very poverty stricken area, financial problems are usually only a temporary situation. MANY women have given up their children only to be financially secure within only 3 or 4 years. Make the decision based on whether you want to be a parent. A lot of young girls have no desire to be a parent for years, if ever. Child shouldn't suffer for it. Finally, no matter what the a-parents or agency promise you, it's all up to them. Once they have that baby and the paper signed, you are of no more importance. If they decide two years down the road that there will be no contact, there won't be. Happens very often. I applaud the a-moms on Yahoo!Answers who do their best to keep things going for the b-mom and child, but they really aren't the norm. They are the BEST. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	NO - I'd fight to make my life better for the child - and keep the child. I was adopted - I've lived adopted for 38 years - and I would NEVER give away my own child to strangers to care for. Adoption does NOT guarantee a better life - only a different one - with loads of identity & self worth issues for the child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No