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ELLE T	Go for it! I am 40 with children similar ages to yours. Adoption is always something I have considered doing and find that the time is right in my life. We are currently going through the process to become approved adoptors, and are looking to adopt a sibling group of up to 4 children. My older children are all behind me on this, I too can no longer have birth children due to medical problems and they know I always wanted 6 children! We may be mad, but we can't wait! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mscrawdad	You aren't off your rocker. Your going into Grandmother mode. I think it happens to everyone. Your kids are about to leave the nest. Empty nest syndrome is so common. Try doing short term foster care or volunteer to babysit for friends. In a few years grandbabies will start coming and there is nothing better in the world than being a grandma. You get all of the good stuff and none of the bad. It is heaven. I bug my kids all the time to have another baby. But they are being stubborn! I've got four grandchildren and I want to keep them all the time. The oldest is 7 and he says that I'm the "good grandma". The other grandma gets so jealous. I tease her about it all the time. She'll tell me something he did that got him into trouble and I'll tell her he only does that to her because she's not the "good grandma"! She says, "Thanks a lot, very funny." She and I are great friends and she gets me back by letting him use her phone to call me long distance and ask me for expensive stuff she doesn't want to buy for him. She'll call and say, "Good grandma, someone wants to talk to you." I always know I'm in trouble with my pocketbook! Hang in there. If none of your kids is planning on having babies anytime soon. I highly recommend short-term foster care for infants. Have fun. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Smile Foreva	If thats what you want you should talk to your husband and kids and then go from there. Im adopted but although i think its a great thing to give a child a loving home i hate being adopted i just feel so rejected i know thats not always the case but its just how i feel i dont fit in with my family, im so different to them, its like i know i dont belong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Carol x	The urge WILL go away.. but why not look at urself & work out if its a baby u want or the fact that you think you are a good parent & want to parent others? If thats the case.. be like me... become a foster carer for a private agency.... its the best thing i ever did.. it pays well... im at home all day & i know im doing a good thing! Could you do it? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jodee1kenobi	You cant turn your feelings on and off! I am 28 and cant have anymore children, I have 2 aged 8 and 6. We are just about to start on the path of adoption and I cant wait. I think adoption is a fantastic way of adding to your family. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

G H	I would consider it very carefully before you decide. But if it's what you both want and your both healthy and well and can provide a good and loving home to a child then go for it and good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ayli1984	I think it is a good idea to adopt a child. Even if you can have children yourself I feel if you can offer a child a warm loving home then do it. However you have to think hard first if you do adopt a child what will happen when that child gets to 17/18 will the urge come back. Just think about it and 'm sure you will make the right choice. There are loads of children (not only babies) out there which need loving homes. Please work out which will benefit more from you adopting them. Alot of the time older children get more out of it has no one wants to adopt them. Everyone wants babies. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sarahhhhhhh	I think that if you want to have anouther child then go for it! Its not going to hurt anyone and your not being selfish one little bit. Who cares if you could have gran kids now! Your only 38!! My mother and father didnt adopt me till late, and everything turned out just fine! Go for it if thats what you want. GOOD LUCK Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lisaweider	I think it's wonderful that you want to adopt a child, there are so many little children who need help from people like you. I hope i can do the same when my kids are older, good luck x x Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

RevR	adoption is a very good thing... there are many children who need good homes + the love of two parents.....you sound like you would make wonderful parents as your kids are older it would be great for the child to have a large family you can adopt from aother country athough sometimes this can be alot of money financially + very time consuming but in the end rewarding..... if you live in the UK there are plenty of children needing a good home.. most parents want a young baby...older children should also be considered as suitable.. I pray you have success in finding the right child from the right country God bless you (by the way I have also thought of adopting as its a very blessed thing to do!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kirbyminme	pick one and make them feel good they have been in a fosters house and has no parent they that they are loved by love him or her she will like you after 2week of love you give him or her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

opedial	How long have you been thinking of it? Maybe you are missing having the kids around, and are trying to replace that feeling, or maybe you really are ready to have another child. If you want babies around teh house, foster. It is a good thing for empty nesters to do, help a family out. Some people end up adopting their foster children, but some go home. We fostered and loved it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wundt	I know several people in your situation, including myself. My wife and I are 41 and have a child in high school. We just adopted two little boys through the foster system. I have a coworker who is older, with older biological kids, who is also adopting two kids. It is a great feeling. There is nothing unusual or strange about your feeling If you are serious, and if your husband agrees, start the process of becoming a foster parent. There is nothing that says you have to stay in the program, but it is a good way to test the waters. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

yesstarfree	their is nothing wrong with adoption .if you really want a baby and your husband want one go for it if your sure. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Love Angel	I'm considering adopting myself. My husband and I want kids, but we haven't been so lucky in that area. I think it's beautiful to adopt, especially in a loving home.If your wife wants to do it then I say do it. Your three blessings are grown and moving on, open your heart, mind and home to a child with no place to call a home.......Good Luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

in COGNITO *	Are you forgetting something?.......GRANDBABIES! You're hopefully a few years away, but they will be more that happy to be the object of you need to spoil. Mi Abuelita was my rock! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*JaneDoe*	No, your not of your rocker. I say if you mentally and physically (your husband too) ready then go for it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lexi	i acually think adopting is better than birthing. i wont want to bring a kid in this world cuz the earth is getting so messed up. why not use th kids with no family that need a family. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Landon's Mommy	I think adoption is a great idea! You should seriously consider it! Good luck! :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AdoreHim	My opinion of adoption is wonderful- since I am adopted and have 2 adopted children- I am very thankful that I had a great experience- so of course I would recommend it- there are many children out that need a good home- and it sounds like you are ready to open your heart and home to another child- go for it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

scorpio_queen_2003	my mum had my sister at 46!,we were all adults.if you and your husband feel strongly enough to adopt then why not?.it could take several years to get a baby,but there are plenty older children looking for a home. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lisa092500	I am 27, my sister is 25, and my brother is 10. Kids are awesome (I have 2 of my own) and if your husband is feeling the same as you, you should look into it. The older kids would learn alot from having a baby in the family... My little brother is only 3 years older than my daughter, and I tell you, if I wouldn't have had the experience with him, I would have been clueless when I had my own. Nevermind the fact that there are countless children in this country that need a family... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bluewonder	at 38, you're not off your rocker for wanting a little one, but i suggest a test drive, try foster care for a while, if after running ragged caring for a toddler again you still want one, look more into adopting, if it turns out to be more than you remember, then just relax and wait for the grandkids, you could just be have "empty-nest" feelings Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

goingmad	It depends on what hubby thinks as well. I would say go ahead, but be sure you want to as there is no turning back. I think I lost points by editing but had to come back to tell this 'Trouble' person not to be so despicable - a child is a child - and that is that! You adopt if you want who you want and from where you want. OK? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jessica B	I am 24, my brother is 27 and we have three adopted siblings who are 5, 6, and 7. My parents were foster parents for many years and this sibling group came to the home and eventually were put up for adoption. My parents did not want to see them separated from each other, so they adopted all three of them. It was an adjustment for my brother and myself, we were used to having an adult relationship with our parents and suddenly we were back to having kids run around the house and take over our old bedrooms. Now, a couple of years later, I couldn't imagine our lives without them. I think that doing foster care is hard and very emotional. Some of the situations that the different children come from are just horrible. However, before you do anything, talk to your children. My brother and I were used to having the foster children around, but it was a whole different ball game when my parents talked about adoption. We at first thought they were crazy. But now we know better. Good luck. I hope like others here you will think about the older children that need a good home and not just about an infant. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

J	if you want to look after another child, go for it, there are too many unhappy ones out there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Medium Dave	You're young enough to give a child a good start, if that's what you choose. Give it a little time - if you still want to adopt, and your husband concurs, there's no earthly reason why you shouldn't give someone a happy home. My hat's off to you. It's a wonderful thing you're suggesting. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mikey's Mommy	Most likely you are suffering "empty nest" syndrome and the urge will pass. My step-mom said she is going through this now because my brother and I are moved out and married and my sister will be leaving for college in the fall. She says she'll miss the noise and people in the house. That's probably what you are experiencing as well. If I'm wrong though, and this isn't a phase, I don't see anything wrong with giving a child a loving home! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Daisey Duck	My mom was 36 and my dad was 42 when they adopted me and I was only 2. My brother their bio son is 11 years older than me. So I see no reason for you not to if that is want you want. I personally had a good life being an adopted child. And I highly recommend adoption to people who desire to do so. Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CLYDE55	Try to adopt a disadvantaged child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather B	I think what you are feeling is natural empty nest stuff As an adoptee I would love to see kids in foster care adopted and given a loving home, but so many of you are demanding babies, I find that part of your story very sad for the kids who are waiting- please consider them too Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No