WHY do people get abortions if there is an option of adoption?

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AdoreHim	You are most likely going to hear, "adoption is not an option to abortion". However, I completely disagree. Women choose abortion, unfortunately instead of adoption- because they could not carry the child to term and then place him/her in the arms of an adoptive family. However, the other side of that is two-fold. 1- so they would rather take the life of their baby. and 2- they may change their mind throughout their pregnancy and keep the baby. Both options are better than taking a life. The world tries to make these women believe that life does not begin at conception. I have counseled many women over the past 10 years who are pregnant and are considering abortion. When i ask them when life starts, very few say, at birth. If the women is let us say 6 weeks pregnant, they will more than likely say at 3 months or so. And then there are some that say- "I know that it begins at conception, but I cannot have this child, no matter what. The reason can also be DENIAL- it is better "to get rid of the baby" Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Beeeoootch	they suck poor babys its so sad people would murder there own innocent child Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

C Wood	Have you googled the topic? abortion vs. adoption ??? You can also ask Planned Parenthood. They may have a lot of information. Some women are so emotionally upset over the unwanted pregnancy that they forget to get counseling and look into all their options. There was a movie long ago that I got my church school to show for parents and teens titled "Assignment Life" and it was an excellent overview of unwanted pregnancies and abortion. Often there's a lot of pressure put on the woman to "get rid of it". cw Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

keeakek jbk	Visit radaractive.blogspot.com/2006/02/abortio... and see for yourself. Watch the video and know the truth for yourself. While abortion may seem more merciful to the child because the child will not grow up knowing he/she was abandoned, the fact is, the child does not grow up. Only God has the right to take an unborn child from the womb. One of the responders on this question said they would rather send their child to heaven. That person is admitting that it is human and has a soul, just like a person who has been born. Murder is Murder. Abortion is murder. Abortion is evil. Besides, the Old Testament says that if a person attacks a pregnant woman so that the child inside her dies, he pays with his life. God is a God of life, and He is greater than the complications of living as an adopted child. Those who get an abortion are deceived. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sophie	selfishness or medical reasons Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cmc	Abortion is very private and no one besides a woman and her doctor needs to know about it. Being 9 mo pregnant and then coming home from the hospital without a baby is a pretty public statement that you have placed your child for adoption. Unfortunately our society is not very supportive of mothers who make this choice. Also for many woman it would be easier to remove a few nonviable cells from their body, than to part with a baby they carried for 9 mo. I have the greatest respect for woman that do carry a child to term, and then place them with a family that they feel will provide the better environment for a child. However, I can't really imagine how difficult this must be for the mother. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stephanie c	MAYBE ONE DAY THEY WILL REGRET HAVING TO GIVE THE CHILD UP AND THERE WILL BE NOTHING THEY COULD DO ABOUT IT. THEY MAY FEEL LIKE LOSERS KNOWING THAT THEY BROUGHT A CHILD INTO THIS WORLD AND WEREN'T PARENT ENOUGH TO RAISE IT. I REALLY DON'T KNOW THOUGH. YOU ALSO HAVE A GOOD POINT. THAT IS WHAT CAME TO MY MIND FIRST. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

-Nandie-	some times it could be a religious things. If the women has sex and falls pregnant before she is married, she might be shunned from the family. It could also be that she is too young and does not want to tell anyone. Or she could be any age and not want to tell anyone. There is also health factors. If the women has a health problem that will go onto the baby, she may not want that. Or maybe she knows the child will be bought up in un unsafe house with family that does not love her, and if she has it, she may grow attached to it(even if she gives it up for abortion). I think it depends on the persons situation as well. I personally don't believe in it though. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Veggie Vampire	if she is unable 2 safely give birth Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

IDK!!	Some people don't want to adopt a non-viable fetus. I think as far as healthy babies being aborted, I think the was the laws are now, women who might consider adoption under ideal circumstances, are scared off. I think part of it is they have no control. Open adoptions are rarely upheld, once you sign away your rights, that's it, you may never see your child again. The child may grow up not even knowing about their adoption. If parents knew that they had some control, they may consider adoption, IDK, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bsrb666	I've been through both and honestly, adoption was a lot harder to deal with. with abortion, the baby isn't even a baby yet. when i had the abortion, it was in the very early stages of pregnancy. i could have miscarried during those stages and not even realize it, that's how early and undeveloped the cells were. just a few minutes on the operating table and it's done. about a month of healing and it's like i was never pregnant. with adoption, a fully formed and fuctioning baby is right there in your arms looking up at you. he grew in you and you gave birth to him and (probably) fell in love with him and now you're going to have to give him up. and my body is still healing from it. so many changes that can't be reversed has happened to me. so yeah, abortion is easier. way less stress on the body, fewer health risks, and no stigma of being a single mother (if you're not married, obviously) also, no worries about if your child is ok, if he died from SIDS, if the adoptive parents change their mind, if he grows up to be a good person. yeah...long winded on my part, sorry bout that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

England Auden	Hello =] Interesting assignment. I'm a 17 year old adoptee and I would personally, should I become pregnant in a situation in which I could not or did not want to bring the child up myself, I would opt abortion. That may sound rediculous coming from someone who was obviously born to a mother who faced that situation and chose not to abort me but I wouldn't put a child through what I've dealt with all my life given the choice. I think I've had a very positive adoption experience and tend to look at my beginnings through some strange optamistic haze but in the back of my mind always lurks the possibility that my bio father was abusive or addicted or incarcerated or a rapist. I've never met my BM so I've never been able to ask who he was. And I wouldn't wish the thought you might have come from someone so awful on anybody, especially not my own child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

100% Englishh	There could be lots of reasons Because the mother would have to go through a pregnancy and her family and neighbours may find she is pregnant and then she would be critised for having a child adopted? Because a teenage mother might not feel emotionally able to cope with a pregnancy and might not want family to find out? Because a mother might not want the child to contact them later? Because they may think it better for the child to not feel regected or unwanted when they found out they were adopted? There are many many many reasons Good Luck with your assignment Hope I helped X Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

R	Well for many they don't want anyone to know they were pregnant in the first place. I had a friend who was raped and she could not keep her rapist child. She did not tell her family about the rape so if she was pregant there would be to many questions so she choose abortion. Others the idea of a child of theirs living out there without them is worst then adopting them out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Julie R	"Twins Due..." gave some great and very reasonable answers. And I agree with those who say that there is really no comparison, because abortion terminates a pregnancy and adoption terminates a child's relationship with his/her mother and family, and terminates a mother's (and her family's) relationship with her child. My personal reason for getting an abortion 28 years ago? I was adopted at birth, and my adoptive parents could not accept me for who I was. They compared me with their natural son from the moment my personality began to develop to the moment they died, 40+ years later. I did not want to put my potential child through such a hell. I considered the abortion a "mercy killing." I find it extremely frightening that there are so many wannabe adopters who feel they have some bizarre right to someone else's child - they seem to feel that women who abort are depriving them of "their" potential child. People like that have mental health issues that sorely need to be resolved before getting anywhere near children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Blether T	I was sexually abused by my father for a lot of years. I became pregnant and it was my father that was the father and grandfather of the child i was carrying. I was not sleeping with anyone else i was 15 years old. I had an abortion as i had no other option. I couldn't carry this child then give up for adoption i just believed this would not be fair on that child IF in later life he/she got in contact with me. How could i explain all that? I also was not given much of a choice anyway from my parents at the time. It's the hardest thing i have ever done in my life, but i still believe i have done the right thing. It was maybe selfish of me too, but i don't see it that way. This is why i chose abortion and not adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Felicita1	Adoption and abortion are not related in that the decisions are several months apart. A woman during the early stage of pregnancy can choose to abort or carry her baby to term. However, only after she gives birth and has her baby in her arms will she truly know if her baby is wanted and loved or not, especially if she has been ambivalent about or psychologically "dissociated" or 'detached' from her pregnancy. An unwanted pregnancy does NOT mean an unwanted baby. That is a myth that it does. Along with the myth that unplanned pregnancies are unwanted. 48% of all women will have an unplanned pregnancy by the time they reach late middle age. 50% of all children born were "unplanned," even in marriage. A mother should first give birth and then spend time with her baby, while her baby is "real" and not just a "theoretical possibility." Bonding does occur from conception onwards as oxytocin rates rise, but a greater part of it occurs right at birth due to birthing and lactation hormones (huge spike in oxytocin, prolactin etc.). Only then can she really make a real decision about adoption. Adoption is a legal institute created to provide last-resort homes for unwanted, unloved, and orphaned babies. If a mom loves her baby, she deserves the support she needs to keep it (Article 25 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights). All humans have this right, because we are human beings and not dogs, sheep, or plankton. Why do women get abortions? Often because they are desperate and have no viable means they see to raise a baby. What to decrease abortion rates? Provide a government-sponsored free and universal contraception program such as they have in the U.K., celebrate and legitimize ALL pregnancies and not just those of older married women (shaming and blaming all other women for "getting knocked up"), and provide adequate financial support to ensure no child grows up in poverty, daycare and parenting centers in all colleges and universities, and job training for moms whose children are in school. Then, you will bring down abortion rates. Other nations can do it, so can we. International abortions rates: United States, (1996) 22.9 per 1000 women England & Wales ( 1996) 15.6 Canada (1995) 15.5 Switzerland (1996) 8.4 Germany (1996) 7.6 Belgium (1996) 6.8 Netherlands (1996) 6.5 The link (below)from the Guttmacher institute has more information as well. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwillow20	Having given a baby up for adoption, I can tell you that it's a hurt that never heals, you live with the guilt of giving your baby away. You wonder where she is, how she is, even if she is alive. I have never had an abortion so I don't know what it feels like or how a woman feels if she has aborted. But with abortion some think, ok it's over, know one ever has to know, but putting the baby up for adoption, well it's never over and you don't have closure. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mia's mum	why do people give their child up for adoption when there is the option of abortion? i think its a personal choice. ome women feel they cant look after the child they are carrying, but they dont feel they can go through the whole pregnancy and then give that baby to complete strangers. some women think abortion is a "quick fix" that one operation in a clinic and the problems gone, as opposed to spending 9 months carryiang a child you know you cant keep. i guess its much of a muchness really Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sunny	See, I look at it the other way. Why would anyone give a child up to strangers when they could have had an abortion?! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cruzgirlz3	Basically, with abortion no one needs to know. All options are difficult, but our society treats girls/women who get pregnant under difficult situations HORRIBLY. They are labeled, berated, blamed, for their predicament. I think many choose to remain private so as to avoid the humiliation they will go through by family, friends and society. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tish	because abortion is a decision to not be pregnant. adoption is a decision not to parent. the two are funademtally different. also, pregnacy is not a simple 9-month ordeal where one has a few labor pains, pushes out a kid and skips off to the prom. ps. i'd also advise you to include the link to the question and answer with your paper so that your instructor can see how you derived at your conclusions. pss. it's not cool to ask others to do your homework. ;-) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aloha.girl59	Abortion and adoption are not really related. When a woman finds out she is pregnant, she first decides whether or not to carry the fetus to term. If she chooses not to, abortion is her only option. If she chooses to carry to term, she then decides whether or not she wants to parent the child. Some women just do not want to carry a child to term; therefore, they choose to abort the pregnancy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

grapesgum	Women get abortions because they don't want to be parents at that time in their lives. Adoption does not change motherhood. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jhowrides2night	I would personally choose the abortion because I think life sucks and I wouldn't want to throw my DNA into the world without my personal protection. The last thing I would want is for a child of mine to be influenced to be an asshole like the rest of the world. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Vertigo	I think in some ways, giving up a baby for adoption would be even more traumatic than having an abortion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥♥Mum To Superkids♥♥	Because abortion is an alternative to carrying the baby to term. Adoption is an alternative to parenting. It's really apples and oranges so why would someone compare the two as options? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥Summer, Chris & Catrionas mom!♥	Hi, I think, Some reasons are: * Giving a baby up for adoption is harder. Abortion is thought to be 'easier' * They may have been raped and being pregnant with his baby is a reminder everyday that they have been raped. * They have been through adoption themselves and know it is hard on the child that is adopted out. * They may be a teenager and if they were pregnant, they may have to drop out of school as they would be ridiculed. * They do not want to get emotionally attached to the child as they fear that they will end up keeping the baby. * They are pressured into it by family members and/or friends. There are many more reasons, but there are a few. Good luck, Hope this has helped. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

deleted	I know abortions are hard, but in my eyes, adoption would be harder. It's harder to say goodbye once you've seen the baby, and this child will grow up knowing you abandoned them, etc. There are so many strings attatched. + There are plenty of kids up for adoption, far too many. Why introduce more? they will likely end up in a unhappy place. I'd rather send my child to heaven. - Not that i ever would. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amanda	They don't want to push an 8lb baby out of their vagina after carrying it around for an agonizing 9 months to then give it away to someone knowing they will feel horrible about not being able to care for it on their own! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crazychickizback	Reason 1- She doesn't want anyone to know about the pregnancy Reason 2- She doesn't want the pregnancy to interfere with her life (school, job, ect.) Reason 3- She just wants to make it go away and forget it ever happened Reason 4- She's afraid that the baby will be born and she either wouldnt want to give it up or it would be harder knowing the baby was out there somewhere than there just not being a baby at all. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No