Should i put my unborn 4 adoption?

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onlyme212529	If you are torn between abortion and adoption then I say go for adoption all the way. If you truly believe that you absolutley can not provide for the baby then I think it is a wise decision to give baby up for adoption. They are tons of families that would love to adopt and take care of the baby like their own. I would suggest REALLY thinking this through though,because even giving a baby up for adoption can have its repercussions on your concious and what not...so sit down and add up your total income and try to budget it with baby expenses the best you can like take out $10 for diapers a month and all other expenses that comes with baby like formula and stuff and see how much you end up with(including your rent and whatnot also) Also take into consideration that there is government help there for you too like medicaid to completely cover health costs such as doctors visits and such and WIC that provides you with formula and juice and stuff like that for baby up until age 5 I do believe. There are ways to help you out with supporting the baby such as these and there are food pantries you could go to if you really need the help with food costs for yourself. Also some food pantries have bigger branches and from time to time have diapers they can give you and bottles and clothes and also big items like crib,playpen,baby swing and stuff...look for the food pantries that are church oriented...they helped my brother out when he needed it and provided him with a crib,some diapers and clothes,and some bottles for baby. Best of Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sizesmith	If you feel that you can't provide the life for your child that you want him or her to have, then adoption can be a great thing. I strongly encourage you to get the paperwork as open adoption. The concept and actual legal terms of this are 2 different things. Open adoption to many mean that both the adoptive and biological parents work together, and the 1st parents are able to visit, and while many say it isn't enforceable, it's the visitation that's not legally enforceable. You have every right to meet, talk with, inspect the home your child will grow up in, and more. I strongly discourage agencies, and encourage you to work with someone through private adoption. Agencies strong arm many women into adopting their children out, and although there are some risks through private adoption, make sure you have a legal home study, including copies of the AP's criminal reports, and background checks. Make sure you have time to speak with the attorney and have private time with the attorney handling the adoption. They have to answer questions truthfully, or they'd lose their license. Get the paperwork open, so that way, the child can find you later on, if the AP's decide to not honor the open adoption. Although the open adoption on the paperwork is enforceable, the fact that the visitation isn't. Make sure you have a good enough relationship with the people who are adopting to know that you will always be able to visit, check on, and see the baby. I am wishing to adopt again, and I know of MANY happy adoptions. Although some will discourage you, and some will be hateful, educate yourself, and you know your situation better than they do. Many of the ones advising are 14 year olds who've never faced this type of decision. I'd love to be considered to adopt, and you can contact me by clicking the avatar. Don't let anyone bully you, and no one can make you do anything. You are in control, it's your body, your baby, and your love for him/her will always be there. Make sure you're in an adoption situation where the child can know that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angelfsu2002	Its really up to you. No one can help you with that decision. But let me tell you. There are lots of people out there that can not have a baby. If they get to adopt they would give your baby a great home. I know I would. I'm trying to adopt, haven't found a pregnant woman yet. Its a very costly process, to adopt. I don't have the money but would do just about anything (legal) to adopt a baby. My loving family of 3 really want another baby. You can do an open adoption and be able to still see your baby. At this point I'm ready to do a custody thing with an option of the mother gaining custody back one day if she wants it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

yahooisacommiewebsite	Only YOU should answer this. Ignore all suggestions from this board. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mRs GaLvAn brutally honest	if you dont think you can take care of it then yes but make sure you completely check out the family first!! and if possible still stay in the childs life Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Proud	That's something that you'll have to decide. If you truly believe that you cannot provide for the child, then yes, contact an adoption agency. I would suggest contacting an adopt agency and speaking with one of their counselors. They can help you through this difficult decision making process. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mia	I think you know best what you can handle. A child will change your life forever and for some who are ready that is the best change ever, for those who are not ready you will grow to resent your child for the loss of what could have been. Now I am not saying that you still can't do things like school and working but you will have to rearrange your schedule for your child. In my opinion a women who gives birth (no matter the age) should be ready and willing to give her self to that child. Like wise fathers should also be held to this standard. Your choice is not an easy one! Please do what is best for the child not just now but for that babies life to come. Trust me when I say that children require money, effort beyond anything you can imagine and a heart full of love to boot! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Britney M	You and only you can answer that. It could be a big mistake, or it could be a selfless act of love. Talk with family about it, and see if you could make your life better for her while you have the chance. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

prettynpink77	Adoption is a diffucult decision but you have to think about your baby and your lifestyle and truly whats best, if you have a strong family support system then rely on that to help you out, if you dont and you think adoption is best then really think about it and if you are at peace with your decision then go for it, I would suggest an open adoption though! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tati	i don't know your full situation but if you really feel unable to care properly for your child i would encourage you to look into adoption, I won't pretend it will be easy on you but it could end up being the best situation for the child Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anastasia's Mommy	If you are good with your money a baby wouldn't really cost as much as you would think. I was told that you would spend about 10% of your income on the child. When they are younger if you breast feed you really wouldn't be spending much until they were about a year old. Just about $50 a month for diapers. Add $20 a month when they start eating baby food. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nichola H	its so nice that you are putting the baby first . i was adopted when i was only 4 weeks old and it was the best thing my mum could have done for me . we are now looking to adopt. its not going to be easy though . but their are so Meany people out there looking to adopt who can offer your baby a loving home i hope every thing works out for you both Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Punk Bunny	i did, i have an open adoption. its fine. i get pix and letters ^_^ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mary	Hi, I know exactly what your feeling... last year I found myself young, single. and with an unplanned pregnancy. I actually made an adoption plan (I am very against abortion), and did not tell a soul (except the baby's dad) that I was pregnant. I even picked out the parents who were going to adopt my daughter. I was so removed from the baby during pregnancy, I thought I would proceed with the adoption and move on... that is- until I gave birth. Then it all went out the window. Even though I did not have a penny, a diaper, or even my family did not know... I kept the baby and now have a beautiful 10 month old girl. Yes, it isn't always easy, but it is always wonderful! You can do it! I never ever regret for ONE DAY that I didn't place her for adoption. This baby came to you for a reason. I am on WIC, and got a lot of help. If you look into the sources the others listed, you will find that the government WANTS you to keep your baby! Like I said, I did not have any thing to my name, but I made it work and you can to. God bless you, and please really consider keeping your baby. I was the girl who could not stand the squeel of babies in the grocery store, but now she is the biggest blessing in my life. If I gave her up to strangers to raise through adoption, my heart would be empty forever, and every day I would live in regret. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*Miss Maybe*	You need to look at it from all angles. Are you going to be able to support her? Financially? Emotionally? etc Will you WANT her? Will you LOVE her? Will you REGRET HER? You have to do what is right for the child, being with you, if you dont want her isnt right. She needs to be wanted and loved. Either way you could regret it. SO do the pros and cons. You are very young. Why not ask a family member, such as aunt to take her for a couple of years, she will still know you as mum, and when you are ready, you can have her back. Thats what I would do. You are not THAT young that you will be shunned. And it is best for you and your beautiful child :) good luck and keep in touch hope I helped Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jamienkori	That is a hard question to answer. You are only 19. You have a lifetime ahead of you. I couldnt imagine going through with the adoption of my son. There is NO way. You can always get help from the state. If you do go through with it, just make sure its an open adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xlinzx88x	I was 19 when I got pregnant, now I'm 20. I no longer have a job and I'm being supported by my (now) husband. My son is 6 weeks old. I see where you're coming from, but once you have your baby it is a completely surreal experience. I would hold off on even thinking about adoption. I didn't truly feel connected until they laid him on my chest, I couldn't take my eyes off of him. When I was pregnant I thought "god, we can't afford this". Now I know that if I had given him up I would have regretted it so much. Every morning I wakeup with him in my arms and I can't imagine how anyone could turn away something so delicate and precious. Hes my flesh and blood, he relies on me to survive. There is nothing like being a mother. In the delivery room he was crying at the top of his lungs, then they handed him to me and he gave me the longest stare, he knew who I was. To this day, the only way to calm him down is to hold him to my chest and let him listen to my heartbeat while I rock him to sleep. I cannot imagine how sad it would have been for him to be handed to strangers, he wouldn't have known their heartbeat, their voice, their scent, he would have been bewildered, the only person he knew would have been taken away from him. Your baby needs you, don't take that for granted. Your financial woes will go away someday and I guarantee there will be a day where you'll wonder what your baby girl would look like, what her favorite game would be, what would Christmas' have been like with her? She needs you. Don't forget that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	What's best for this child - is to stay with you. There is alot of help out there for what you need to keep this child. All those that say it's a wonderful thing for you to give this child away - 'a loving choice' - want your child - and don't really give a stuff about you or the child's emotional and psychological health. It hurts to be given away. Find a way to parent - you won't regret it. You will regret adoption and so will your child. http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jess	wow. that is a question NO ONE should answer but you. that is a huge life changing decision. maybe talk to your parents? it is a great offer to a couple that are unable to have a child of their own. but at the same time, it might be something you will regret for the rest of your life. please think about this long and hard. good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

purplerose	Honey you can get more help than you think. don't put yourself through worries when he/she gets older. Go to your towns public housing system if you think that you may not have a place to stay, you can go to the health department to get vouchers for formula, and things that you need to eat while being pregnant. You got pregnant for a reason and God said that he will put no more on you than you can bare. Get a job that pays reasonable. You may can find someone who would love to babysit. If not the daddy will be on child support to help support the baby. Please it it much thought and do the best you can. Believe me I have a cousin who just turned 20 going on her 4th child and she is doing great raising them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Independ"ant"	I would suggest that you wait until after the baby is born and you hold them. Wait a few months until your hormones adjust before considering adoption. If abortion is okay with you and your in the early stages of pregnancy, this is another option. You will regret placing your child up. There is no way around it. Statistically, almost all women have many deep regrets about adoption and almost all women have very few regrets with abortion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sara	Noo you'll regret it. Is there anyone you would be able to get help from? If so, I'd definitely keep her. Even if you don't, it may be hard, but you'll get through it. In the end, it will all be worth it. My friend's mom had her when she was 19 and she turned out fine. She said it was hard, but she got through it and she was so glad she kept her. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nicole H	noo. you'll regret it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kazi	Adoptive mom here, First of all, I would recommend holding off making any kind of "adoption plan" until after your baby is born. Right now, your unborn child is just a concept, but once you see him/her, you may very well change your mind, that is your right, and DO NOT let anyone tell you any different. You must be terrified and confused, but you do have options. What about your parents? They may be angry and disappointed, but sometimes parents can really surprise you. What about other family members or the father of the baby or even his parents? Again, you might be surprised at the wealth of support they may wish to offer you. If not, there are other services you would be entitled to throught he government for financial support as well as places to go for emotional support. I don't where you live, however, Planned Parenthood would be able to get that info to you. I wish you (and your baby) the best of luck!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

•♥•Grogan•♥• •♥•Girl•♥•	I wouldn't. You may regret it. The girl who said that as long as you breast-feed is right. And cheap diapers aren't that much money. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sunny	Read this: http://rondidondi.wordpress.com/2007/10/24/my-days-without-poowee/ Adoption blows, read more: http://www.nancyverrier.com/pos.php http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org http://www.origins-usa.org http://www.motherhelp.info/index.htm http://www.babyscoopera.com http://www.bastards.org/bq/babb2.html Adoption studies: http://crimemagazine.com/07/adoptionforensics,0919-7.htm http://darkwing.uoregon.edu/~adoption/topics/psychopathstudies.htm http://www.angelfire.com/or/originsnsw/wendys_pres.html Books: The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier Lost and Found: the Adoption Experience AND Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness both by Betty Jean Lifton The Adopted break Silence by Jean Paton The Girls Who Went Away by Ann Fessler Adoption: Uncharted Waters,by David Kirschner Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self by David Brodzinsky Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Freckle Face	NO. Financial difficulties come and go but children are forever. http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/ http://www.sedoparking.com/singleparentcentral.com http://www.keepyourbaby.com/ http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf Something you should watch............ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scy6uf2MZEI Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

IDK!!	there are tons of great mothers who are 19 and YOUNGER. If you age is the only reason, then I would say, it's probably not a good idea. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP	Ok, First I would like to say that I know EXACTLY how you feel. I was 19, had just broken up with my drug addict boyfriend, and I had just used up my last occurance where I worked for the next 10 months. I was lost and scared, and on top of all of that, my mom was going through a REALLY hard time with her abusive (now ex) husband. This of all times was not a good time to be pregnant! I didn't make much money, I still don't. But I have a 10 month old son now, that I could not imagine having to give away. Finances are tight, but he is fed and clothed. I am going to school at night to be a nurse, I will not always be struggling financially. If I had chose adoption, were would I be once I have money? I would be without a child. I guess what I am trying to say is that adoption is permanent, your situation isn't. There IS government assistance, and you can get child support. I am blessed to have a wonderful mother who helps me out. I have family that fights over who gets to babysit (which saves a TON of money!) Remember, you don't have to buy everything new, the second hand stores have really cute stuff in great condition for CHEAP! I co-sleep. That will save you about $400 on a crib. There are dozens of websites that show the benefits of co-sleeping if you want to do a Yahoo! search. If you breastfeed (which is sooooo much better for both you and baby!) then food is free for your baby, Also WIC provides more than enough formula. Most importantly, would you give up your family for material things? That is what you would be asking your child to do. Your child knows NOTHING other than you. At birth, they are VERY aware of who mom is. Your child wants YOU! Children are not born blank slates, and even though your heart was in the right place, your child will most likely feel abandoned. It sounds to me that you ARE capable of raising your daughter successfully, IMO that is in the best interest of the child, even if finances are tight. If you need to talk to me more, PLEASE don't hesitate to e-mail me, I am on here to help. Also, here are some GREAT links: http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_facts/adoption_damage_to_children.html http://www.originscanada.org/adoption_vs_abortion.html http://www.originscanada.org/adoption_coercion.html http://www.origins-usa.org/Default.aspx?pageId=69300 http://www.angelfire.com/or/originsnsw/wendys_pres.html http://www.keepyourbaby.com/ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwillow20	You might regret it, it might take 2 weeks, 2 years or 20 years but some day you are going to regret it. You will cry a lot, especially on her birthday and when you see a little girl with her mommy, you will think, what does she look like, is she happy and why did I give her up? Why didn't I try harder to keep her? I am talking from experience, because in 1972 I gave my daughter up and I can tell you it's a hurt that never heals. You will never "get over it". It can really mess you up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

babiigurlPt2	hey u disz ur cuzin steph speakin... and i know ur going thru a hard time rii now but God isz guna help make da right decission. Eather way i love u and no matta wat im always here for u. AND DA WORLD IS NOT GUNA END IN 2012 SO STOP SAYIN DAT!!! lol Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No