Should adoptees be seen and not heard?

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Carnie C	nope -- i walk into a room and you know i'm there!! ;) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

icehockeymom7	Of course not. No one should be seen and not heard. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

person.	No...why? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Renee	No. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Laurel J	Hell no. We own our stories. We benefit from telling them whether anyone listens or not. But nobody will ever listen if we stay quiet. Nothing will ever change if we accept the idea that we are perpetual children who should be perpetually grateful. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sizesmith	No, and as an AP, I'm thankful that they aren't. It helps me to be a better adoptive parent. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

HarleyEmoRock	NO! HELL TO THE NO!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Juss_me	Oh my, what are you saying? I can't imagine. I had a situation years ago that caused me to have to give a dear child of mine up for adoption. I know that she is loved dearly by the family she is now with. Let me tell you that I made sure of that. I know that people that need to part with children for whatever reason, as well as those that adopt them... Have no idea of what you speak either. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Carol c	...as if that would ever happen??? LOL But of course not - if more people would hear what they have to say - perhaps this dysfunctional adoption system could be changed. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

soulsearching	no - they should be a part of the family with the same rights as anyone else. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MTC_005	Absolutely! They should keep their mouths closed and just be lucky to have a home. No abuse could justify them speaking out against their new owners...uh...parents. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Haley	no Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kitta	At the church I used to attend, the adopted people would be asked to stand up and display themselves whenever it was time for funds to be raised for the church adoption agency. Of course, no one ever asked them anything about their lives, or their opinions. They were just supposed to stand there. So, I would say, for the money gatherers, yes they were to be seen but not heard. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

myst1998	It certainly comes across that way... especially if you are open and honest about how you feel about your own experience and it doesn't agree with the "ponies, pools and rainbows" view of adoption many deluded individuals hold... And yes, my poor daughter isn't even allowed to make her own decisions about what she likes and wants to do... her adopters paid for her well they can damn well dictate her life to her too can't they? (Sarcasm) But in her case, yes, she is a trophy piece, not a child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cindy B	No of course not. I adopted a little boy 3 months ago. I take what you say on here into consideration. Some people on here are just plain mean though, and that isn't going to change anything. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Randy B	Um, of course not. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

monkeykitty83	Of course not. Adoptees, like everyone else, should be able to speak freely, and should be listened to. However, being "heard" doesn't always mean being agreed with, so just getting out whatever you want to say is no guarantee other people will go along with it. Disagreement should not always be assumed to be silencing. I definitely think adoptees have the right to speak, of course, just as anyone else does. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Freckle Face	Dear Phil, For every 1 person that thinks this way...... there are at least 3 of us listening and learning in silence:) If someone tries to silence you......uh um, SCREAM LOUDER!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

inmate#5	no Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anha S	It seems that way a lot of the time doesn't it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥♥Rita♥♥	NO WAY!! I am listening.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwillow20	You have a lot of great answers here Phil, cough cough, ok, NO, you must be heard, the world needs to know the good, the bad and the ugly. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dan B.	they sure would like that wouldn't they? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sunny	Well, that WAS the original agreement. Don't you have your copy of the contract, Phil?! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Flying Monkey #073177	Of course! All we need to be happy is a pony, a pool and buttloads of koolaid! As long as those basic needs are met we have no real reason to open our bitter yaps about anything! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather Leigh	Many seem to think so around here. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	Apparently! Keep that voice strong Phil. I'm one of your greatest fans!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Looney Tunes	Yes, dressed in their Sunday best with a freaking smile on their faces.... ...and standing in front of the the foster kids who should not be seen OR heard...... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tish_part deux	of course, phil...just like any other "purchased" product. /sarcasm. seriously, i'm beginning to believe so. especially those who wish to tow the party line of "breeding for others who can't is the best thing in the worldl!!!" Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cantstopLinnyG	I sing like a canary. I said that while cocking my head and doing a circle snap. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SJM	Yes, and Simba should feel horrible about returning to his family after Timon and Pumba raised him. What a betrayal. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No