Should I put my unborn up for adoption?

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Jacey	There are hundreds of family's out there, who would love to have a child to raise and love. This is a very hard question, If you honestly think that you will not be able to make it with another child. It would be best for you to put the baby in the arms of someone who can care for it. No child should be put in danger of being uncared for. I will keep you in my prayers because I personally could never give up my children. I would turn to churches for help. I would work five different odd jobs if I had too if that meant keeping my children. Go get help from the government, and do not be ashamed. It is there because, people need it. Good luck Sweetie. I wish the best for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cat	Sounds like it would be best for the child. The really question is can you live with it? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Z	girl u answered your own question...try to find a couple who is ready, able and willing to have child. There are a lot of people out there who would love a child but can't have their own, you could be the person to change their lives. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pooh Bear ♥	Ahh honey. I understand where u r coming from and I think that if you have a family member that is used to babies or would like to have one. You could let them take care of the baby. My cousin did this. But idk. Good luck with everything. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Courtney P	Crazy situation...Your stuck of course you don't want to give your baby up but yet your not financially stable either. You do just need to go with your heart or maybe look into open adoptions...so you would be able to at least be in her life...I'm sorry you are in this situation but I agree with the lady above go with your heart...Good Luck Sweetie!! ♥ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Blair	It depends... do you see your financial situation becoming more stable in the future? If so, maybe you should keep him and hold it out until things get better. They may be hard, but once things are better you'll be able to give him everything you want. If you don't see this happening, maybe the adoption would be best. Alternatively, do you have family members who can take care of him until you're financial situation improves? Good luck with whatever choice you make. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sophia W	only you can make that decision because your the only one that knows if you will be able to cope with the choice you make. but if you need anyone to talk to then get in touch with me because i am going through a similar situation and am also concidering adoption. just dont feel forced into anything that you dont want to do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AdoreHim	First of all I want to commend you for not aborting your baby- you yourself said that you want what is best for your baby- that is very unselfish- not a lot of women think that way. I am kind of partial to adoption, so I am adopted and have 2 adopted children- however that does not make it the right decision for every birth mom. Don't think about this very moment- think about the future. Would you be able to live with yourself if you placed your child for adoption? How would it effect you? By the short story that you told , to me it seems a great idea for both you and your baby, however, I am not the one that can make this very important decision for you. If you feel like talking, email me if you can- I have counseled women in your position. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tori♫	Your child always comes first you dont wanting them getting hurt so if you cant afford of take care of this baby you need to give it away to somebody who can you might regret your desion by not knowing your child but you need to do whats best for it, it will help you too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

emma	Iwould make a list of pros and cons. be realistic. There are all sorts of support out there for new borns and single mums so am sure you could cope financially if you did decide to keep the baby. On the other side of the coin, what sort of things would u want for this child? Can u provide these things? Really all a child needs is love warmth and security. Do your research find out what is out there and then make your decision. I wish u all the best. Emma Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

A Twilight Guy	HOLY CRAP NO! WHAT IN THE HECK ARE YOU THINKING? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Josh	You know what, i cannot really make a judgement. This is a very hard decision and I know it is extremely difficult and most likely stressful. My biggest advice would be to ask God. Maybe you are not religious or spiritual. But God is a loving God and He can guide just begin to ask him. Tell Him "I don't know what to do!" Get a bible and start reading and keep praying for that answer. I know it will be the best thing you could do! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LadyMoon	Thats up to you, and its very unselfish of you to think of your baby's future instead of just opting for abortion, but are you sure you will be able to relinquish your own child so easily? Its your baby! Your situation will improve - things won't stay bad forever and your little one would love to stay with his/her mummy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

HOTCHICK2783482	Im not sure if your religious but god will not put more than u can bear. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mamalanda	honestly if it was me i wouldnt i couldnt i just dont have the heart but at the same time you think well will my child have a better life but you know there are so many places you can go for help there are people out there that can and will help you with your kids try not to stress it like the person way above me said try taking your child to your mom or dads and have someone you trust look after him it ould really help you get on your feet and if your ot already go out and apply for government assistance it wont hurt you oly help you they can also help you with housing if you talk to the right people just talk to someone about it and you will get through this thats a promise alot of people think the best way out is the adoption or abortion thing but you ar the one that will have to live with the guilt the rest of your life you know so think about what i said if you need to talk to someone im here just email or IM me gd luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LucasGrabeelfan	NO Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

beezy	i would suggest that if you have supportive family they can raise the baby for you becasue i dont think that you will be able to live with the fact that you gave your child up for adoption, but really its your call and you can only make the best judgment for yourself not anybody else. goodluck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sduhfuiefh	well personally i think it would b really sad if you gave up your unborn child especially considering that child already has a sibling (your one yr old) it may be a struggle im not saying it wont be easy but i think its manageable..things could possibly turn around in your life in the next few years and then you might really regret giving up your baby...please look into places that could possibly proivde you alot of support....family,womens havens,unwed mothers shelters...even if you have to get welfare...usually they can put you in touch with places that can help you even get you into school so that you can get yourself a better job after the child is born..i dont know.(not sure where your from so i cant give specifics)..ultimatley its your choice....im a single mom and all my closest friends are single moms so i can sympathize...but it really sounds like even you feel you would be making a big mistake by doing this TTC MOMOF 3 you are disgusting for trying to exploit this young girls confusion/anguish in hopes of furthering your selfish search for a baby!!!!! shame on you!!!...if your looking ot adopt take an ad out in the newspaper!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

allcurledup53	I am going to pray for you and your baby! I know either choice will be hard for you and only you can make it! God help you and give you peace! Linda Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Taylor Brione B	This a question that you really have ponder on your own. If you really want your baby you can make it work. I know it is used to be highly frowned upon but you can get government assistance until you get on your feet, and they have it fixed to where no one will even know. Then once you get on your feet, get off the welfare. My mom has six kids-me included and when she lost her job, she got unemployment and food stamps and got the mortgage reduced. Then within six months she had everything back together. She got off the welfare. You can do it too. You sound like a law abiding citizen who doesn't scam off the government.But if you really feel that you can't make it work, you can give your baby up for an adoption. And if you want to still have a relationship get an open adoption. Whatever you choose I am sure it will work out in your favor. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

casttostrangers	In adoption you can never guarantee that child will be more financially secure. I was adopted by a couple married for 21 years. By the time I was 2 was being raised by a divorced amother on welfare. Adoption does not always mean an amazing life.Life happens and money situations change in the blink of an eye Keep your baby. We all have a laundry list of problems. They come and go through out life. Time will pass problems will change. Adoption never passes or changes. I believe in the struggle is when we do most of our growing anyway. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Grace M	LISTEN..No one here can make that inportant decision for you. Just follow your heart not yahoo please...And goodluck to you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Boy	I think you should keep it. You'll regret your decision if you don't and you'll always miss him. A kid needs his mother when he grows up. But I don't think that asking strangers on the internet is the best decision. You should talk about it with your family and make the decision yourself. Don't rely on strangers. I hope that you will be happy with your decision. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gorgeous Girl	I don't think you should put it for adoption.Maybe you can give your child to your parents till you have a job and a home and then you can have your child back.You could also live with your parents till you have a job and a place to live and your parents could help you take care of the baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	Adoption is a long term solution to am often short term problem. Make sure you read this - http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf I've missed my mother every day of my 39 years. I had a great adoptive family - but they didn't look like me - act like me - have talents like me - and that was very very hard to grow up with. Babies and children need to know where they came from. This baby only knows you - and only wants to stay with you. Where there's a will there's a way. Put you heart and soul into finding a way to keep this child - if you can. I believe only children that are in danger - should be given away. As being given away - hurts - no matter what the reasons the adults give. I wish you all the very best. ETA: there are ABSOLUTELY NO GUARANTEES in adoption. I know far too many adoptees that ended up in abusive homes. Just be very very aware. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Independ"ant"	Well I think all the brainwashed church kiddies on here are wrong as well as their selfish parents encouraging them to think adoption is the best option out there for struggling single moms. Jesus would be rolling over in his grave over the way these people think. Get public assistance. You paid taxes into it, so don't think its wrong, alot of it will be your own money anyway. Go to your church and ask them to help you out financially and tell them that your not placing your child up for adoption. Many should be willing to babysit for free. Get an attorney and sue your babies daddy for child support. Watch how fast he'll find a job to keep his butt out of jail. Don't ever give up your child because someone else wants what they can't have. It will be tough for a few years but if will be tougher if you place your child with some AP that doesn't care if your child see's you again. That unfortunately will most likely be the case. There's plenty of resources in the states to help you. Keep your family together. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwillow20	Things seem very tough for you right now and I feel for you. I would never counsel a pegnant woman to give up her child, because I gave mine up and I know how awful it's been. In the end it's your decision, but I want you to know that you will never get over it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather Leigh	The problems you are listing are only temporary but adoption is permanent. There are programs to help you financially until you are able to work again. Please check with you local Depatment of Human Serices office. They can tell you what progams there are to help you. Best of luck to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mom lost 66	adoption is not the answer every child is a blessing to you why do I say this it is because I lost a child to adoption in 1966 which is now known as the baby scoop era for the rest of your life you will walk around with a hole in your heart looking in peoples faces to see if you see your child it took me have of my life looking for my son I did find him 9 years ago I missed out on his whole childhood and it really hurts my child was stole by adoption open adoptions are bull **** the adoptors can and do close the adoption in time after may a few month to a few years please think twice about what you are going to do their is help out their but they don't want to tell about it because your baby is worth money to the agency or lawyer and a life time of grief and heartarch for you please think twice mom lost 66 bse 66 SENIOR MOTHERS ADOPTION ACTIVIST COALITION Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

K	he CAN have an amazing life with you, his mom. you WILL find a way to pull through Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sacyaslildoc	If you are all ready thinking that caring for another child will be a burden for you and for your unborn child, then the kindest thing you can do for this child, and yourself, and the sibling of this child is to give this child a better life by placing your child up for adoption. Today adoption is so open, no longer taboo, and such a gift to the parents YOU can choose for your child, that you can even have a say into how much contact you can keep with this child and his choosen parents. This is wonderful because you as the birth parent do not spend days, months, years, wondering how and where your child is, how he is doing and how he is bonding with his new family. As a young mom (age 13) i was forced into giving up my child and in those days, i had no say, and no idea where he was, who had him, what kind of life he had, etc., but because GOD is great ----- many years later, my son found me ---- he had a wonderful life, so much better than I could have ever given him, and such wonderful parents ----- he was so blessed, and I was so thankful. I got to know him after he had put out a search request in our local newspaper ---- he stayed in the same city he was born in and actually we had fiqured out through time lines that he and I had actually been in the same hospital as I was during the same time period.!!!! We have a great relationship now and I am so thankful that he was given the life he was because, I know it was not a gift I could have given him had I kept him. Adoption is so different than it was thirty years ago ---- you can meet and have a say in the type of parents your child will have, you can keep in contact, you can have as little or as much contact as you and the adoptive parents decide what is good for everyone involved. Please remember however that you Must let the adoptive parents set some of the limits also ---- but just knowing who has your child, and who his parents and family are, will give you such a sense of relief it is not even really possible to put it all down ---- only to tell you that this will give you such a sense of peace. Please do the right thing by this child you are carrying, and give him the best life you can, give him to someone who can raise him in the best possible circumstance. You will also be doing your other child a favor, because you will not be trying to 'divide' all of your time, resources, abilities, between the children, and the struggles will be less dramatic for everyone you love, especially your children. Think about the joy you will be giving to loving parents who are not able to have natural children. There are many great sites on the internet for adoptions ---- if you are really stuck, as to where to go, then go to a site like Dr. Phils site and he can direct you to sites that he supports but there are a lot of great sites out there so you should not have too much trouble. Do this baby, and you a favor, and let this child have a chance you know you can not give to him ---- it does not mean you can not know him, or even have a part in his life just be aware of the feelings that the adoptive parents will have and need and all will work out great for everyone be brave, be strong, be willing to risk your own feelings to give your baby the best life he can have you will get more blessings out of this than you can even imagine if you just have the courage to do the best you can for this baby speaking from experience Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No