Should I just get an abortion since I am hearing about how horrible adoption is?

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tami	abortion is a life killer. let the baby live and you can have a choice if you want to see the baby regularly after adoption or not see it at all. i wish you the best of luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Erica F	no thats not right because me and my husband are loving people and we want to adopt! dont get me wrong there are carzy people out there but not everybody is the same! and its ur choice dnt let anybody pressure u! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

helponthefence	http://www.helponthefence.com Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jackie M	you can meet the people for yourself and YOU can decide if those people are worthy of that baby. i understand, having a baby turns your life inside out, it comes with responsibility, happy times, and bad times. your baby deserves the absolute best, every baby does. give that baby a chance at life. meet couples and you can judge them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

girl	Please don't get an abortion. Ignore people who say adoption is evil. It isn't. It's loving your child enough to give them a chance at life, a better life then you could currently provide. http://christiananswers.net/life/stories.html <----that's a link to stories about women who've had abortions. They regret it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Independ"ant"	I had an abortion because I didn't want to be pregnant and have no regrets. Actually, looking back I'm glad that I did. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

grapesgum	Don't you just love when people say "you can just have the baby and give it up for adoption"? The "just" in that sentence speaks volumes about the lack of real experience with surrendering a child to adoption. Giving your child up for adoption cannot change the fact that you are now a mother. I think it would be good for you to talk to a counselor about a decision as big as this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kristina	we are trying to adopt and the state goes through an extensive background check so your baby won't get stuck with "scum". having an abortion is dangerous to you...read about it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dontknow86	Do what is best for you, However don't sign anything until you have him/her and see if its still the way you feel. Good Luck ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lori A	I'm with flying monkey. The abortion never gave me all the grief, guilt, heartache, that adoption did. If your mother had aborted you??? you wouldn't know the difference. I had great adoptive parents??? count yourself lucky not everyone did. Abortion is a killer??? adoption is a death sentence. You can carry the child put him/her up for adoption and hope for the best, or you can be done with it and not have to wonder for what seems like an eternity. I'm pro choice, but when I was pregnant, there was no choice, roe v wade had not been decided. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amm0	I'm adopted and have a great family. I'm glad I wasn't aborted. However, I wouldn't know the difference if I was. I've been in your situation more than once and abortion has always been the best option. Being pregnant is horrible. Giving birth is worse. I suggest doing a medical abortion since you are only 6 weeks. There are already too many kids waiting to be adopted. Couples who only want a newborn aren't the kind of people I'd want raising my child anyways. Their priorities are a bit off IMO. Good luck :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Lauren	Adoption is not evil. My nephew is adopted. My brother and SIL couldnt have their own children and this amazing little boy came into a home and family where he could not be more loved. People spend major money on adoption and have to go through background checks and home studies. If the adoptive parents turn out to be "evil scum" then the agency and/or Child Services did not do their job. If you feel you are fit to carry to term, adoption sounds like the right choice for you. If you dont feel you are fit to carry to term (mental issues, drugs, drinking) them abortion is your option. Please please condsider adoption if you can carry that child to term. (im not a pro lifer by any means, i certainly think its your right to choose) but ive seen what adoption does for children and families first hand and think its such an amazing thing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwillow20	Have an abortion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shelly P. Tofu, E.M.T.	NO. Adoption is not horrible for everyone. It's just those who have been burnt who yell the loudest. Seriously. There's plenty of adoptees that may have some issues with wondering "why" their nmothers didn't keep them.. but who still grew up feeling loved and secure in their family.. and some even end up having a good relationship with their natural parents.. Not every adoptee will tell you they're scarred for life.. Parenting your child if at all possible is the best option Adoption is second best. Abortion is never the right solution except in cases of medical necessity. And I PROMISE you, not all adoptive parents are evil scum.. The people that imply that.. well.. it speaks VOLUMES about their own mental instability. I don't care what experience they've had.. if they can't be less narrow-minded than to realize that everyone's different, not all APs are the same.. then they have issues... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SJM	It's your pregnancy. It's your decision. Adoption does not guarantee a great life. Research has shown that infants suffer trauma when they are separated from their mothers. You haven't said anything about your baby's father. Once the baby is born, he has parental rights also. He may want to parent, and he has that right. Abortion is your choice. Adoption will require his consent as well. Emily, are you talking about your 13-year-old adopted daughter who, according to you, said that adoption was the worst possible option? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

realmom lese	Good that you don't care about open adoption, because it does not exist. It is a boldface lie that agencies use to lure in young pregnant women. I would not advise adoption. I would keep my baby or get an abortion. Adoption is a life of loss and grief for mom and child. Emily: That is your grandchild that you are pushing your daughter to give away. The regrets are going to take you to your knees one day. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

drkangel210e	Look, some people on here advocate abortion instead of adoption because of the hurt it can cause. I'm living the hurt, and I still thank my lucky stars that I have the choice of whether I live or die. If my birth mother had aborted me, I would never have experienced all of the good this world has to offer. Yes, I have some pretty serious emotional problems, but I still live a great life. I'm married to an amazing man, I went through college and did well academically, I have great friends. The battles I've fought with myself have given me perspective and empathy. Thinking that I could have been dead makes me shudder. Also, not all adoptees suffer from attachment disorder or have emotional problems. Some are very well adjusted. Why assume that your child with both have emotional problems and will wish that they had never been born? Let them make the choice for themselves. We all decide to continue to live, one day at a time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AdoreHim	I am both adopted and an adoptive parent, and I am very thankful that my birth mom placed me for adoption, instead of aborting me. A lot of people here will say that saying that you are grateful because you weren't aborted is ridiculous- NO I DON'T THINK SO. The birth moms of my 2 children, had people in their lives that were pressuring them to abort, and those adoption. I don't think that I am scum of the earth, because I could not have my own children, and wanted them. I was never scarred for my life, and either are my 2 kids. Taking the life of your baby, would be better than adoption? Please!! Don't take the life of your baby. It seems to me that you have decided that there are only 2 options for you- abortion, or adoption. Please don't abort. I am a person that could have been, and would not be here today if I was. If you want to talk some more, you can email me, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Crucio	You need too look into your heart and decided what you want to do. Don’t let some people who post on YA or any other forum board decided for you. They are not you and you are not them what they might do might not be what you want to do. Understand that nothing in life is guaranteed it is true that some people adopted have ended up in not the best families, just like some people have been born into not the best families. Adoptive parents can be abusive just like natural parents can be abusive. Being adopted does not guarantee one will have a better or worse life nor does staying with ones natural family guarantee a better or worse life. Natural parents divorce, go through hard times. Adoptive parents divorce, go through hard times. Either way you deiced to go abortion or adoption you could have regrets later on. Of course not every woman regrets getting an abortion, not everyone regrets placing their baby for adoption but some do and you really don’t know which way you would fall until it’s happened. There are some adoptees who have admitted they would rather have been aborted. The key word is some not all adoptees wish they had been aborted. I am glad that my natural mother had me and I have not been "scarred" if anything I was scarred by the fact my biomother poisoned me in utero. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

icehockeymom7	Adoption is not an evil thing. There are many people on here who will tell you it is not evil. It is almost always best for a child to be raised by her natural mother....best for both of them. But there are also situations where this is most certainly not the best thing. All adopted children are not screwed up, that is a terrible stereotype. And all adoptive parents are not evil scum. There are some outspoken people here who have their own opinions based on their own life experiences. That does not mean they represent every adoptee's life experience. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

One Love	You should just have the kid and give it up for adoption. All adoptive families aren't like that, you can even talk to different couples and get to know them before you let them adopt your child. They also have open adoptions, so you can still see your child whenever you want, or the adoptive parents can send you pictures or whatever. But you should NOT get an abortion, give your baby a chance at life. Like I said, you just need to find a good family and get to know them to make sure they're good people. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ryssee	That's not true about adoption. There are so many good parents waiting for kids to adopt. But you still might find that's not the best option for you. Get with some social service groups in your area (your doctors office can point you in the right direction or just google pregnancy and your city-all sorts of links will pop up). Read up on them, talk to lots of people, and make your decision from there. At six weeks you have time to make an informed decision. The decision is yours. Many people will give you their opinions and might even say horrible and nasty things to you, but this is your situation, and only you can decide the best option for you. Fortunately, if you're in the US, any decision you make is legal (in most states anyway), which is why we're lucky to live here. Good luck to you. It's tough out there when the people who should support you don't, I'm so sorry to hear that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Life is a highway	Um, seriously? Don't let a few bad apples spoil the whole pot. Adoption is INFINITELY better than abortion. Think of it this way...if your mom thought she couldn't give you the live she wanted for you by any means, would you want your life anyways and make what of it you could...or would you rather have died? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Theresa	i think you need to get some more info on adoption. my brother used adoption. and his daughters new familly is amazing! they evenn right to us evrry once in a while. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Binka	DON'T EVER LISTEN TO SOME ONE WHO SAYS ADOPTION IS BAD. I was adopted and I am so so so so happy with my life and family. I cant even express how grateful I am that my mom didn't kill me. Adoption is defiantly not worse than death. If the kid ends up in a foster home that is fine too. only about 3% of foster homes are abusive. Plus they have much stricter laws for people who harm a foster care child. Abortion also causes many health risks for you that they don't mention. Just research online the health risks of abortion. Please don't get an abortion. The baby will be so grateful when he or she grows up. edit also who would you believe a kid that is 13-17 in an adopted home or one who has gone through those rebellious years in the adopted home. There are a lot of young adopted kids on here and of course they aren't going to say its great because the parents are most likely doing a good job raising them. Kids hate being punished, grounded ect. They think their parents are the worst for it but once they break out of that phase they will realize how wrong their accusations were. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MamaKate	Dear Missy, Adoption is not a guarantee of either a good life or a bad one. You have no way of knowing what will happen. Parenting, adoption and abortion are NOT the only choices you have available. Guardianship (temporary or permanent), co/shared parenting are also options. "I cant form normal relationships with people so I wont have any "bond" that will break my heart." At only 6 weeks, I have to question this statement. Often women feel differently after the hormonal changes of pregnancy and motherhood. You may find that you change your mind about this if you do decide to carry to term. If having more support would make a difference in your feelings, there are also hundreds of programs to assist with parenting through both the government and non-profit organizations for education, housing, food assistance, medical care, parenting support, respite care, grants, etc. You are the only one who can make this choice. I hope that you will make it after getting honest information about ALL of your options and their possible effects on both you and your child from multiple reliable sources and decide for yourself what you can live with and what you are willing to deal with/do/risk for both yourself and for your child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

acesbutterfly88	I am adopted and my cousin is adopted. Yes i love my biological family but my adopted family is the best family i have ever had. They are wonderful people. I am so glad i got to live my life instead of being aborted. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Snick	You will regret an abortion the rest of your life. There are plenty of wonderful adoptive parents out there. YOu just have to search and make sure your baby goes to a decent family. There are tons of people who can give your baby a good loving home that are not able to have children of their own. People who have lots of money, time, and the ability to raise a child in a loving home. Please rethink your options before you choose abortion. Wow lots of trolls on this site, whats with all the thumbs down?? geeza Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Angela	you should do what is best for you. dont worry about what other people think. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jackie B	It depends on who you talk to. I think I'm somewhere in the middle. My adoptive parents aren't horrible, but they aren't saints either. I have had my share of issues and have gone to therapy but I feel like I'm in a good place in life right now. I don't know if my mother was a young innocent girl or a crackwhore, my guess is neither. Adoption isn't objective by any means. First moms here want to save you the heartache of relinquishment, or at least will be 100% honest with you. Adoptees want to let you know what might be in your child's future. And adoptive parents can be as wonderful or horrible as any other parent. The point is to give you pros and cons so you can be fully informed. In the end, it's your choice to make. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xlinzx88x	Do you really want to go through 40+ weeks of pregnancy only to give up your own flesh and blood? If you can't bond with anyone, why haven't you gotten an abortion yet? Your baby is an embryo consisting of two layers of cells from which all the organs and body parts will develop, your baby is smaller than a kidney bean. If you plan on getting an abortion, do it now. The ideal situation would be for you to love and parent your baby but if you can't, I would just get an abortion, everyone is better off. http://community.livinglakecountry.com/blogs/eagles_eye/fetus-6wks.jpg Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No