Putting a baby up for adoption?

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Love the married life!	goto your local fire department and they have a list of places that can help you with that.Dont worry about them looking at you dumb or anything cause they will see it as at least your trying to help the unborn Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

All BareMinerals ©All-Natural	Safe heaven, all police departments, fire stations, hospitals...ect. (Don't do it, you will have second guesses and it will be 2 late) (Good for you to not have the abortion!) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kathy m	I would like to say thank you for not having an abortion. You are a very brave young woman. In this confused state do you have anyone you trust to talk to or a church you could go to because they could as well as the doctor you are going to can help you find a good adoption facility for you to go to. You could also go to your local hospital and they could help you. I hope that everything works out for you. I know it is not easy, I'm a mother of three and I got pregnant with my first child at 20yrs old, I had thoughts of giving my baby up or having an abortion because I was scared. But the thought to myself there is no way I was going to go through the pain of someone ripping my baby out of me(sorry but that is what they do). Then the thought of someone else relishing in the joy of my babies firsts killed me. Remember that babies no matter what your situation is (there are many places to get help) are a blessing that some get and others are dying to have. God would never out you in a situation to fail, only to get better, therefore your child doing better. And if the father is not around or if he is you need to make him apart of the decision because you want to make sure you did everything you suppose to do, then it will never come back to haunt you with shoulda, woulda, coulda. And if does not care and ask you to do something you do not feel comfortable with, he was not the one.Life does not end it is just a new chapter in oujr book of llife. So listen to your heart. Please keep me updated with how you are doing because you want to stay healthy and mentally with it because you are a vessel with a precious gift, whether you keep the baby or not. God bless you and be safe. kathy m Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

frostycat66	Hi Anna, Putting a baby up for adoption is the most selfless act a woman can make. If you know that you can't provide for yourself or the baby the way you want to then adoption is the best answer. My husband and I are in the process of finding a baby to add to our family. We have gone through many fertility treatments, but have since stopped. God will provide the right child for us, we keep praying. We have a 2 1/2 year old son that we conceived on our own, but my husband has since had a bladder surgery that has rendered him sterile. Many women choose to abort or keep the baby, that is why it takes so long to find a baby available for adoption. I wish you all the best and may God provide you with the right answers. Please use an adoption agency or choose the adoptive parent yourself with the help of an attorney. My sister adopted her son 16 years ago through a friend that knew a pregnant 15 year old. What a blessing for our family. If you would like to email me, it is kaydee4@netzero.net. God bless you and your baby. kate Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Juliaa.	if i were u i would keep that baby cause once you get older and the baby gets older the baby will be upset and wonder who its real mom and dad is , and then when ur older you will say to ur other kid / kids i had another one but put it up for adoption , it seems a lil harsh . but in the phone book , there is a place ! and on google search adoption center or something , hope i helped ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

verot3rd	adoption is your choice in your life .but when you get that good feeling of your baby moving for the first time i personally felt love for the baby the minute i became pregnant with all my babies i have had unfornuatelly i had two bad experiences in pregnancies out of four pregnancies .i lost my first baby son born still 1 week before his due date and i had a misscariage at 9 weeks with no baby there pregnant but no baby.if i were younger i would have had more babies but waiting to late interfered not having as many as i wanted. i would take as many as god would give me.if it weren't for being cut everytime i get pregnant .c section is painfull for about a week i have 2 beautiful little girls . i just hope life inside changes your mind.because alot of women are not as fornuate as most or some women. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gemma E	first, thanks. your one of the few i hear who dont want a child but wont abort. why not have some bonding time first. see your baby. you might like it? if your not ready, and feel you will not be ready, start the proseedings now. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

molly234000	You are very brave and mature for considering an adoption plan for your baby. Not only want the best for your unborn child, but you also clearly love this baby beyond mention. What a selfless consideration on your part. After spending spending the last 1+ year as a waiting adoptive parent, I've heard/learned a lot about the adoption process and would suggest you consider speaking with a reputable adoption attorney and social worker in your area and they should be able to connect you to consuling support during this process, which I would highly recommend. I'm in WA state and could share our adoption attorney's name. If you're interested, please let me know! Good luck to you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*7 Inch Heels*	you can start looking into adoption agencies and talking to them. since it is a newborn it will be easier to adopt out, im sure you will find someone, start researching some local agencies. If you still dont have one by the time you have the baby all hospitals and fire departments do have a safe haven law you can just drop off the child and you do not have to give them an explanation. good luck :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

:]]	Im 40 weeks pregnant and found a loving family for the baby. Im giving mine up for adoption. I went through an agency. adoption law network. they have a website you can go to, and get all the information you need, and pictures of different eligible families willing to adopt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fotomama	You are actually to be applauded for making such a mature decision. You are a courageious young woman and you are right...adoption is a far better option than abortion. Here is a website that can put you in touch with a not-for-profit organization that specializes in adoptions. They also have counseling and some other helps. They are a very good, very credible organization and they are not high-pressure. All the very best to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Angela Q	You definitely need to check out every adoption agency in the area before making your decision. Find out what kind of services they will offer you. They make a lot of money on an adoption, they should be willing to cover your medical expenses, for instance. I remember reading an article in the paper years ago about a young woman who was giving up her baby. The agency charged her for their services in addition to expecting her to pay all her own medical expenses. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cmc	Check out the local adoptions agencies, talk to them and be aware that many will pressure you to place your child for adoption. Try to find one that sincerely wants you to make the right decision. Also the only real decision should be made after you've given birth - even if you've matched with a family prior to that. You can always change your mind BEFORE you sign the papers to relinquish - then it is final. Take your time and check out your options. Any couple/family you do choose should also know that it is your decision to make, and that you have the option to change your mind at any time. I am an adoptive parent, and know that it is very stressful for waiting parents to deal with this, but it is really the only way for you to make the right decision for you and your baby. You can look online for "waiting families". People post their profiles with various agencies, and you can get an idea of who is out there. Of course the profiles only show the good parts so make sure you check things out and that you are comfortable with the agency and family. Also it is very very early in your pregnancy, and realize that your own feelings may change drastically. You can keep adoption in mind, and do some homework, but you really have a very long time to make your decision. All the best to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

~HOLLY~	Anna no one should put you down for wanting to give your baby up for adoption! That is a very mature and hard thing to do so I give you tons of credit. Where do you live? You could look online or you could even try finding a couple yourself. (like juno!) I think you need a lawyer too. Good luck with whatever you decide. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

melody304	is there a family willing to adopted your baby? if so i would tell you to go that rout, I adopted my great niece and its worked out well for us. shes 6 now and im so glad we went that way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Slick	Hi Anna, No one should pass judgement on you for doing what is right for you and that unborn child. Only you know if you are able to provide for this child. My husband and I had lots of trouble conceiving, but we were finally blessed with a baby. We often think about adopting a child. I think giving your child up for adoption is the most self-less thing a person can do, because you are thinking purely of what is best for the child. There are plenty of people out there who are unable to have children and that would make good parents. Contact an adoption agency, there are lots out there and talk to them to see if that is truly what you want to do. I wish you only the best of luck! If you ever want to talk, please feel free to email me. marse623@gmail.com Marcie Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Marnee	You should be able to google adoption agencies in your area and you can actually have appointments and pick some good parents. You can also look under adoption services in the Yellow Pages. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Linny G	You could, but adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.Your baby deserves to be raised by his or her natural mother. YOU deserve to be a mother to your child. If it's a lack of money, you can get aid, and child support. You do NOT have to give your child away. You will miss him or her terribly, and it will hurt for the rest of your life. Many young women have children and are so grateful they never gave their child away. You can do this! Your baby will miss you for the rest of his or her life and ALWAYS miss you. DO NOT BE FOOLED BY ADOPTIVE PARENTS WHO SAY THEY WANT AN OPEN ADOPTION AND THAT YOU CAN SEE YOUR BABY. Open adoption is NOT legally enforceable in ANY state. They say this to get your baby, then when it comes time to make the first visit with your child, they say no. BEWARE, THEY LIE. Make sure you read this - and learn the truth about adoption - http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pd... http://www.thegirlswhowentaway.com/ http://www.nancyverrier.com/pos.php http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org http://www.origins-usa.org http://www.motherhelp.info/index.htm your baby already knows your voice and loves you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mystical	LDS Social Services - you can meet the parents or not - you call the shots - parents must be married, good, well-adjusted people. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Andrew N	Contact an adoption agency in your area. If you decide to give up your child then you can at least meet his/her adoptive parents to make sure you approve. I was supposed to be adopted but my mom chickened out after I was born...I wish she didn't. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sundragonjess	You can either find a couple that is interested in adopting your child and they can take the child from the hospital, or you can go to an adoption agency and they will find a couple for you. Adoption is definately better than abortion! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LPnerd	As an adopted child myself, I applaud you! I had the best parents in the world. My birth mother was 15 yrs old when she had me, much to young to raise a child, in fact, I would say anyone younger than 22 is to young to raise a child and do it well, but that's JMO. Here is my advice to you sweetie. Knowledge is power, so gather as much of it as you can. It will help you make a good choice for both you and your child. A good place to start may be the social service dept at the hospital you would deliver at. They have knowledge of the law, the rules, and the good people to help you as opposed to the Bad people that will scam and steal, and use you and your child. There are so many good people waiting to have a family, make sure you find them. Don't stop there, call every hospital in your are and ask the same questions, compare the answers and see which lawyer or agency keeps coming up as a good guy. This will take you a while, and that's ok, as it will give you a chance to think things through. Don't let others pressure you, this has to be your informed decision, all on your own, along with the father, if that's possible. If not, let the agency or lawyer help with that part. Take your time, do the work, and trust yourself. I promise, you will know what to do. I think giving a child up, the right way, if your not ready to assume 18 yrs of responsibility, is the most selfless act of love you could give your child. Good luck to you my dear. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kiki	Best of luck to you in whatever you decide. I was adopted by a wonderful family when I was 6 days and it was the most wonderful gift I was ever given! Though I've never met my biological parents (and have no real desire to do so) I'm thankful to them every day for making the choice they did! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

--->KAREN<---	hi if u want to give ur baby for adoption u can give it to me and my husband we have tried to get pregnant with treatments and no luck please if u are interested contact me by my email karenqueen91@yahoo.com and tell me its u from yahoo what state are u on???? we would take good care of ur baby and give it lots of love we can make it a private adoption and when u give to birth u sign some papers and giving up ur rights and we will take him Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP	Ok, I just want you to know that I kow how you feel, I have been there. I was 19 when I got pregnant and I had my son one month before I turned 20. I am certainly not trying to be rude, but I must wonder, why are you wanting to relinquish you child? Is it because you are single? So am I, and let me tell you, it is NOT as bad as people make it out to be. Now, I DO have the support of my family, and that helps a ton, but I am still the one that provides the support for my son, I am the one that raises him, and I wouldn't have it any other way. If you are wanting a "Two parent home" for your child? Remember, that the divorce rate is out of control, and more than likely, yur child will end up being raised by a single parent anyway. Then what? You loose a child, your child looses his heritage (and YOU, which is all he really wants anyways) all for a situation which is no better than he would have had anyways REMEMBER! You will not always be single! THIS IS TEMPORARY!!! Is it because you are young? Honestly, 20 is not that young. It is an extreamly new development that women wait untill their 30's to have children. I am almost 21 now, and let me tell you, I am a wonderful mother. I love my son more than anything. Age is only a number, you CHOOSE to be a good or bad parent! REMEMBER! You will not always be young! THIS IS TEMPORARY!!! Is it because you are in college? So am I. I am in Nursing School. I go to school at night, so my mom or my aunt can watch Jayden. Going to school while being a mom is not that bad. So you have to move your schedual around a little, so what? I promise, it pays off in the end. Being a mom is SOOOO much more fun than getting drunk every weekend at a frat house. And guess what, you can STILL party sometimes, you just find a babysitter for the night. I have never met a woman that became a mother and COMPLETELY gave up having a little fun every once in a while. REMEMBER! You will not always be in college! THIS IS TEMPORARY!!! Is it because you don't think that you will be able to support the child? I thought that too. I had to move back in with my Mom, I got on Medicaid, WIC, and other government programs. You will get AWESOME scholarships and Grants for having a child. I will end up oweing next to nothing for school. You child does't want a fancy nursery, name brand clothes, and a trust fund, he wants YOU! You are ALL that he knows, and ALL that he wants. A baby is accutely aware of who his mother is immediatly after birth. This is the modern world, people will NOT allow you and you child to go without basic necessities. There are second hand stores that have REALLY cute stuff for next to nothing. REMEMBER! You will not always be struggling! THIS IS TEMPORARY!!! I really hope you do your research (and that does NOT mean asking adoption agencies what they think, they make money from separting you from your child) I also hope that you do not make a decision untill after your baby is born. There is NO rush, why don't you try to parent him for a while? At least then you will know... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

myst1998	OMG... to all you PAP's get a life and stop trolling for babies! It is illegal to ask for a baby that is called soliciting and offering to pay for a child?? That is sick, sick, sick! Anna, you are only in the first stages of pregnancy, not even past 12 weeks yet so right now I would stop worrying about what to do in 33 odd weeks and just focus on getting on with your life. Just enjoy your pregnancy, the wonder and miracle of growing a baby inside you - it is truly an amazing experience. If you decide nearer the end of your pregnancy you want to place your child for adoption then I recommend doing some thorough research into the realities of adoption and don't buy into the crap of lovey dovey wonderfulness that everyone will go on at you about. Adoption ain't grand. It isn't loving. It is traumatic to your baby regardless of whether he/she will think so when they are grown. Yes, there are caring people out there who want your baby but you are not responsible for what others desire or want, you are responsible to YOUR baby. Even if you choose adoption, you will always be a mother and your life will change forever. No matter what you are told, you life can never go back to being what it was before. Don't do anything before you have your baby, it will only place more pressure on you if you decided adoption wasn't the best for you. All the best. Enjoy your pregnancy and getting to know this miracle. Books to consider reading: "Secret life of the unborn child/baby" by Thomas Verny Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier Websites: www.keepyourbaby.com http://www.exiledmothers.com/index.html http://www.originsnsw.com/ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1	better than abortion? and how would you know this? i was given up for adoption nd it's the worst thing that ever happened to me. i would rather have been aborted. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jamie's Mommy	i dont know were to go but dont go to bethany, they are not good people end just want to make lots off $$ off you, Dont plan on using the safe heaven law (droping the child at a fire station or hospital), if you going to give your child to another family its really nice to be involved in the proccess of finding a family and getting to know them. you will feel really good about yourself and your roll in this world. You will feel like you changed the world. If you drop of your child at a fire station or hospital, you will fell like crap, like a horrible mother. In the end you will have the same result but your mental state will be so much different. good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

yeahright	Ignore the haters and anyone who tells you they want your baby on here--they are on here and I would be very careful. Be careful, take care of yourself physically/mentally and do yourself and your baby a good turn by doing some research. This isn't something you should decide on lightly. There are ethical agencies out there--we did over 6 months of research before going with one and it makes difference-- And I agree--it is better than abortion. Keep your chin up. PAPS who are phishing--you should really be ashamed with the phishing/trolling--what you are doing is WRONG. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SJM	Children have two parents, not just one. It's not just 'your' baby. What does the baby's father think? It is his decision also. If for some reason, the two of you decide not to assume responsibility for your child, please don't drop the baby off at a fire station. That is extremely degrading. The people here who are suggesting it's a good idea would not want it to happen to them. They're baby hungry, and they prefer the kind who has no chance to ever connect with its biological roots. If they really cared about the children they covet, they would not suggest doing this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

:)	First of all congratulations for considering adoption. It is a wonderful thing to do and there are many loving family's who would love to adopt a baby. From your photo you look young and it is a very brave decision to consider/decide to give your baby away to a family that is in a better situation to raise a baby. It does not mean that you are not a good mother or won't be one someday. It just means that you realize you are not in a situation to raise a baby or give your baby the life it deserves. You are thinking like a very mature young person. It will allow you to continue to finish your education and become and adult with out the pressures or raising a child. There are different types of adoptions and with some open adoptions the family will keep in touch with yo as the child grows. In other adoptions you have no contact at all. You are also allowed to meet the family's and decide which parents you would like to chose to raise your baby. This is a very special gift that a mother can give there child~ a mother's unselfish love. To love your baby so much you want it to have a better life. You are still early in your pregnancy and have time to look into everything about adoption. Most importantly it is a decision that YOU need to make for yourself. Some people may not agree with it or may put you down for it. But dont let anyone make you feel guilty for doing such a wonderful thing~giving life to a beatiful baby and giving it to a loving family who truly is ready and wants a baby. Also~the safe haven laws mentioned are as a last resort for an unwanted baby. It is better to go thr an adoption the legal way and have choice in the family your baby goes to rather than feel guilty for leaving your baby after it is born. There are laws in place to protect your rights as a mother and no adoption is final until its finalized. Just because you look into adoption does not mean you have to give your baby up for adoption~so keep that in mind. Let your doctor know also~they can recommend places for you to go to have your baby adopted. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No