Poll: Are you for adoption, against adoption, or for reformed adoption and why?

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Oxl	Adoption is infinitely better than killing the baby (abortion). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Atypical	If you have ever seen or experienced first hand our nation's CPS system you would have no choice but to support adoption. I would not wish that on any child or adult for that matter. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vis	I am for it.. there are to many children in this world that needs loving homes and all want babies..but the older children are left out..if i were to adopt i would ask for a older child..around the age of 7 to 11..but would consider a older one that i had foster for a few years that came up for adoption.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Helena B	adoption is not great. pppl who dont know needz 2 shut the efff up. against it cuz I was molested and beaten up by my dad and me mum did nuttin2 stop it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

9 lb baby boy!!!	okay i am being honest when i say that some peoples answers can be very irratating. i am all for adoption. and let me explain..... i don't agree with the icky side of adoption when people are selling their kids to get money or any of the other stuff i have heard about, last time i check all that kind of stuff was illegal and so technically that would not make it a real adoption. if adoption is don't correctly i believe it benifits not only the parents who can't have kids but the kids who need a mom and dad who are there to support them. i see moms all the time come in to a store in the middle of the winter and they are dressed better than that baby, that just makes me want to take that baby away and say what the heck are you doing lady?! some people are not fit to be mothers or fathers. and not because they don't have enough money or anything but because they just don't care about that baby. ive known moms whos babies are in the NICU and are specifically told not to do something and they do it any way and that baby is brought into the ER dead. i am the oldest of 6 adopted siblings all but 2 of us were adopted when we were babys and i know and believe that if i wasn't adopted i wouldn't have survived. i am 20 and i am always with my parents. i know they love me and care about me just as much as if i was their own. ..... i know some kids get adopted into bad homes and get hurt even more, but that is when other people and that kid need to step up and say what is happening to them. there are more kids being adopted into healthy and loving homes then into bad ones. and kids now adays just don't care either, so even though they are adopted into a home that is what they use to dream about when they were in foster care they just care about themselves and they don't appreciate what is being done for them. the world now adays is so bad and more crap is happening to the young people then it use to and maybe being adopted into a good home is what they need to be able to live a healthy life to make it some day in this sh** of a world. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Randy B	I'm for adoption, both international and domestic, when required and I'm also in favour of reforms as well although a few of them would be ones others here would not necessarily agree with. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

yeahright	For adoption For keeping families together when they make that choice if possible Against facilitators and "big" sterile adoption house machines For adoption reform and against abuse, drugs or repeated unstable choices of parents who have kids. More (how about any?) adoptive parent counseling both as a couple and sep (I've seen too many women take over the whole thing and their husbands look like they are along for the ride and not really have any understanding of what's going on or their role in it). Counseling should include spending time with working through adoption case studies, spending time with adult adoptees, other parents who have adopted in an open, closed and scenarios similar to the ones they are pursuing. There should be required reading along q and a. Dear Birthmother letters: against. Open records: for. Open adoption: for. For profit agencies: against. Transracial adoption: for. International adoption: against. Fathers rights: for. Fosterparenting: for--but not in its current form. Too much abuse going on...too many kids being shuffled and not enough resources/case workers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

R.M.G!	If given a choice, between Adoption, and Abortion, I'd hope people would choose Adoption. I think giving an unborn child a "chance", is better than denying them any chance at all. What is "reformed adoption"? I've never heard that term before. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jim	In general, I am pro adoptions. It takes a special kind of person to adopt a child. I do have concerns when I sees these rich people going to China to adopt rather than to adopt a child from here. Nothing bad about China it is just that it does seem like people over look the thousands of children right around us. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Justin W	100% completely against the idea. I don't know why, but I just can't love someone else's child. I don't ever plan on it either. The only genetic material I plan to support is my own. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Darlene L	I am all for it. I would like to see the costs go down though because it is expensive. My husband was adopted at birth and we are looking into adopting Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aaronelguapocr	I support adoption because I believe it's a family-based model of care that provides a loving family to children who are orphaned or abandoned. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mom to Foster Children	I am for adoption out of foster care - IF and only IF there are no family members who can step up to the plate and take over where the parents can't. I am also for reform and support for adoption and for first parents whose children are in foster care. I support the man who will regain custody of his son today when we go to court and petition that our little man go back home to live with his daddy today at 10:30 - that is what I am for. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kookooberry	What BLW_KAM said. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kateiskate	I'm against transracial adoptions. I'm against international adoption. I'm against closed adoptions. I think the Foster care system as it is should be totally revamped and reorganized into a better system. I believe in legal guardianship. It's honest. And you get to keep your OBC. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Teresa	I am for functional families- however they may come to be Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mei-Ling	I am against certain forms of adoption because they are not always necessary. People delude themselves into thinking that it is always necessary, and since we will never live in a perfect world, adoption will always be necessary. That may be true, but that does not mean we cannot find a way to decrease the amount of adoptions. I think I'll quote what a Korean blogger once said on this issue: "Obviously, in a perfect world, there would be no need for adoption of any kind. And equally as obvious, that perfect world is unlikely to ever happen. Whatever it is that keeps people from being perfect, whether human nature or original sin or whatever you think the source of bad-ness is, will keep the world from being perfect. Unfortunately, many people take this admitted impossibility as justification for relying solely on our current reactive and short-term solutions. As in, “But what are we going to do about the children who need homes right now? Children are languishing in orphanages as we speak, while people all over the world are desperate to adopt them. Why do you want to deny these children the homes and opportunities that they so deeply deserve?” Well, I actually don’t want to deny them homes; I’m just critical of how and where we’re finding these homes, and whose interests are ultimately being served. It’s also why I’m hesitant to advocate ending international adoption without alternative supports and societal infrastructure in place. But based on the outcry that occurs when anyone so much as breathes the phrase “ending international adoption,” many people don’t understand that there is a huge difference between ending adoption by abolishing it overnight, and ending adoption by eliminating the need for it. While the conditions and situations that lead to adoption will never completely disappear, that in no way gives us license to stop working towards that ultimate goal." I am not against how families are being built. I do not think adoptive or prospective parents are evil. But I do think we should stop and seriously evaluate as to WHY and HOW these families are being created and at whose expense - either through profit or by emotional means. Do I think adoption can be ended in the near future? No. But that does not mean we should give up trying to end it and spare thousands of mothers and children UNNECESSARY pain. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather B	I'm for the best interests of the children Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

celtic.piskie	I am for doing what is truly best for the child. Not selling them according to how 'valuable' they are, discounts available because they're disabled, black, male etc... I'm for helping women care for their children. I'm for helping children find a safe, loving home, when that home is not with their parents. I am completely against women being coerced into giving up their children for a 'better life' with 'better parents'. I am against anyone thinking they have a right to another persons child because they cannot conceive. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Opedial	I am for reform and think adoption should only be for those who really need it, and should all be done through government agencies who will ensure that adoptive parents are PRIDE trained and that most adoptions occur from foster care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	REFORM - the adoption industry in the USA is a money making nightmare - and needs total reform. AGAINST - most types of adoption - as too often adoptees have their identity and prior life erased - only to please the adults in the situation. Adoption is supposed to be about the child - but far too often falls well short of that goal. Babies WANT to grow with the mother that carried them - and the family they have genetic links to. That's how nature intended - and there should be far more emphasis in this world to help families stay together - instead of trying to rip them apart to fill adult needs - instead of caring most about who it effects the most - the CHILDREN. FOR - only when it's absolutely needed - no coercion - no profit - no fake birth certificates - no lies - no closed adoptions (unless absolutely necessary - but even then - some type of contact with the first family is always best for the child) - no erasing of an adoptee's identity - no guilt trips about being grateful for a life they didn't ask for - no rubbish. An adoptee has to lose so so so much for adoptive parents to be happy - and then they're told to be grateful about it!!! PFFFTTTT! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

myst1998	100% AGAINST (and proudly so, why anyone would support a system that is so corrupt and cruel beats me), time to use our imagnation to come up with a solution for children who can't live with their families... and not to provide children for adults who can't have what they want naturally. Good on you for looking into Foster Care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP	I am for adoption reform, because the current system sucks. Adoption should never happen unless there is abuse, neglect, or parental death with no capable familial guardian Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Excited for my next ultrasound	I am not for any of it. I plan on keeping my child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DevonChaos	I am all for a reform. I think that agencies get away with too much, and it is just wrong to profit from the sale of children. I think that many people who claim adoption is a wonderful thing to help children are probably not themselves adopted. While there are a few adoptees who are happy with their situation, there are many who are not. We are treated like second class citizens. I have no access to my original birth certificate. I have no access to my genetic and medical history. I have sealed documents that involve me that I am not legally permitted to see. I was raised by strangers, none of which I ever really bonded with. Adoption is there to help children, but in most of the cases, the child is the last person considered in the matter. Adoption isn't here to help the infertile live out their life long dreams of raising children. Adoption isn't here to let people have ethnic children because of a trend in certain circles. Adoption is here to give families to children who don't have one. Adoption somehow has become a way to separate children from these families. The emphasis needs to be on family preservation. Not agencie$ finding way$ to market children to the hige$st bidder$. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SJM	I fail to see the need for adoption. There are children who need permanent homes, but I don't believe adoption is the best legal method to provide them. The only reason permanent guardianship is not plausible is because the powers to be do not recognize it as "permanent" enough. Although some insist adoption is preferable to aging out of the system, it is not a guarantee against it. Adoptees can and do end up aging out of "the system" despite adoption. Adoption is the childhood version of the witness protection program, and in most cases, it is overkill. Most children who are adopted do not need their identities hidden for their own protection. No person needs their identity concealed from themselves. Adoption is designed to cater to the needs of adoptive parents. Their needs should not supersede the needs of the children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kristysearching	As much as I hate what was done to me by an unethical agency, I know that there is a place in this worl for adoption. THERE MUST be extreme reform. There must be more done to support young mothers, but there is a time and place for adoption. It must be done correctly, honestly, as a last resort and it must be open. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PhilM	Against adoption. This is not a position I've arrived at quickly or rashly. For years, I was more ambivalent about adoption. I've become increasingly of the opinion that adoption is wrong, always, and that we continue it simply indicates a lack of creative thinking in our society. I do not believe children should stay in abusive or neglectful situation. Nor do I think children don't deserve love and affection. I just think the institution of adoption has become hopelessly messed up. It screws with children. And I think we need to think of better alternatives. That said... I am not opposed to people who adopt. I am not opposed to people who support adoption (in some ethical forms). I am not opposed to first mothers who relinquish their children. My opposition is reserved for the institution of adoption, and for society as a whole (and certain members of it) who refuse to see the dark side of adoption. I am opposed to some of the attitudes out there (whether among adoptees, APs, or FPs) and would like to see them changed. That doesn't mean I want everyone to agree with everything I've said. But I cannot accept the conclusion that adoption is simple and good. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BLW_KAM	All of the above. For - when it's necessary Against - when it isn't necessary Reform - open adoptions enforceable on APs, all private and agency adoptions subject to the same pre-assessment review, original birth certificates made available to adoptees when they reach 18 & no for-profit adoptions Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥♥Rita♥♥	I am for adoption where thousands of dollars are NOT traded for babies. I am against predatory adoption where agencies seek out and prey upon young mothers who are scared to death and where babies are traded as commodities on the open market. (I realize that is not always the case.....but sure hear a lot of stories re: such). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

HappyMomAnna	I am for family--and making sure every child has a family. I am for reforms mainly in the way we bind adoptive families together. There seems no real need to amend a birth certificate, when I was married my name was made the same as my husbands and we didn't need to change my birth certificate. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No