My girl friend is 19 and wants to adopt a newborn baby?

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Emily	I wish I could help more but I don't really know the answers. I feel like I need to answer this question b/c so many are being so negative! at 19 she may be mature enough for this. some are and some are not. If she wants to do this I see no reason at all for her not to! I did not become a mother till 29. I wish I could have earlier and I know that at age 19 I was mature enough to handle it, although I didn't make that kind of $$! I was never into the party thing and wanted a child that young! my cousin lived in a battered womans shelter for a while and I met a woman w/ a little girl and after a while-she was thinking of letting me adopt her child. I was 18, had a pretty good job, and she was depressed, having alot of trouble. etc... I wanted the little girl so badly but could tell she was struggling with it. I ended up helping her get some help b/c I knew she would have regretted it later if she would have given her baby up. I know I was mature enough for it! I would start with calling churches, many of them help with this, call social services, call adoption agencies, call attorneys... I see nothing wrong with a single person adopting. IF this child needs a home ... best of luck to you both. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Herbie	Nurses are not easy to live with from what I've heard from other guys. And she doesn't have the money, or a husband, or a house, and is too young. I have been thru adoption on the giving end. And Even I wouldn't pick her. Single and young is not good. And if an adoption falls thru, then you have to fork over another 20-30 grand for the next one up. Better start on making a special needs child before she starts ordering one on the internet. Just to warn you. Truth hurts sometimes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	I am 21 yr old. I am exspecting twins (a boy and a girl) I am also in the process of adopting my cousin's baby, Irene, from Ireland. She is a beautiful baby, and I can't leave her out in the cold. though most people o here think I am crazy, though I don't bucket loads of money....I stilll want to take care of them...ALL 3. I would advise your friend to follow her heart, and do what she thinks is best. hope I helped Lacey D Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Linda D	She needs to check with an 'adoption' attorney for all of the specifics. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kramerdnewf	Most countries have age restrictions (minimum and maximum) and in many you must prove that you haven't been able to have your own child for some reason. International adoptions cost about $15 - $25K. Yes countries do allow single adoptions. Your friend needs to talk with some local adoption agencies or counselors who can help her answer these questions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

h w	In the states through department of human services you have to be 10 year older than the child you adopt. HOWEVER, it is very hard to adopt a new born through a state agency. Private agencies usually have a minimum age of 25.......just start looking around as for cost........about 20000.00 for domestic or international adoption domestic adoption is usually easy to get newborns to five months. many many countries accept singles china for one but you have to be 35 and yes I have, i was married and 23 at the time Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Penny P	wonderful that she would like to adopt, but my advice would be to wait a few years. Enjoy life being a young person. Theres plenty of time to have kids, adopt whatever. You are only young once. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brin	She's far too young. Tell her to wait at least 3 or 4 years. It'll be a lot less difficult if she waits. I think even if she applies now, all the checks and counseling she'll have to go through because of her age, will take her a couple of years. Tell her to wait, get an education..considering she may not always want to be a mid wife nurse or she'll be terminated...and apply a few years later. It'll be much easier. Best of luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

NeshamaBirth	Wow, if she's making 60 grand a year as a midwife I want to know where you're working! :-) As to adoption, there are plenty of places. If you are christian I would contact CHASK/NATTHAN. Good luck to you! ~fellow midwife Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

baby doll	alot of single parents adopt and now in some countries or states even s and s can adopt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ladybmw1218	To adopt a newborn, one has to go with a domestic adoption, either private or through the state system. Costs vary hugely, state laws vary with regard to age requirements, and there are many couples looking to adopt newborns...so a mother considering relinquishing her infant would have to find a young single woman a better choice than the multitude of other hopeful adoptive parents she will be presented with. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bubba boo	It all depends on which country you would like to adopt from. They all have different rules. For example, if you want to adopt from China, you need to be over 30 and need to be married for at least 5 years. The average age for adoption from some countries is 25, and most of the time, you do need to be married for some time. Some countries will only let you adopt if you are infertile, and of certain religions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mmkkssmm	well im a mother and at 19 i think she still a child and she should wait Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pax B	Yes you can adopt at 18 but if you do not have a whole like to offer ($) it is not going to happen but if you foster it helps a lot Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

It's Kippah, Kippah the dawg	She's a "midwife nurse"? You mean a glorified CNA? No way is she any kind of nurse at age 19. A normal RN degree is 4 years. Good luck with all of that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

momof2girls	ok first let me say it takes about 8 years of schooling to become a nurse midwife. SO I highly doubt that she is a nurse midwife and second I think she should wait. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

baby	I see the other people calling you too young.I think not.I just wonder why she don't want one one her own.Their are many web sites on line to look up. cradle.com.international adoptions sites are on line too.I think some adoptions varies from $15,000 to $25,000.It easier to have one I think.No it will not be hard to find a child birth-5 months.I think India,Gualmala,and Africa.No but my friend adopted a child from Qualmala and Asia.She a single mom. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥Mommy_to_3 1/2 ♥	I would wait.She is 19.Why not wait and get married and have your own? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lovin life	Tell her to wait! Wait to have a child when you are older and with a loving spouse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Crucio	Most agencies probably wouldn’t let her adopted not at that age. Though I suppose she could go throw a private adoption but that can be extremely costly. If you did a private she might be able to meet up with a woman who is expecting that’s what my Aunt and Uncle did their lawyer introduced them to the birthmother when she was roughly 4 ½ months pregnant. China no longer allows singles to adopt. You must be married for 3+ years if it’s your first. 5+years if its any marriage after your first. Perhaps a better idea would be to research her options, see what’s out there and then adopt in 2 to 4 years Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Seotaijifan	I think getting in contact with an adoption agency would be the best way for her to get the exact information she needs. I personally think she's a little young to adopt a baby. Perhaps being a midwife is pulling on her heartstrings making her want a child. I know when I think about my neice I always am left feeling like I want a child myself. She seems to have a stable job and income but I don't think they allow someone so young to adopt. As for the countries that accept singles that's really something that goes by country to country so once again asking the agency would be best. I believe most countries require you to spend some time in said countries with the child but once again you'd have to ask a professional. I wish you both the best and I raise my glass to her for wanting to save a child and give it a new, loving home. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cassie	http://www.faithfuladoption.org/ http://international.adoption.com/(pick a country and itll give you info!) http://www.childrenshopeint.org/ are three good sites you can also google more!adoption is a great ting but cost around $10,000 Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nimo22	It's going to be very hard because of her age. It's hard for even married older couples to adopt a baby. Many countries will allow you to adopt a baby if you are single, but most of them, including China, require that you be 35 or older. I've known married couples in their late 20's and older who have been trying to adopt for years and it's very difficult. P.S.- I've never heard of anyone completing the schooling to become a midwife nurse by the age of 19, it takes a few years to get to that point. Most people graduate from high school at 18, the most your girlfriend could be unless she finished high school super early, is a Licensed Vocational Nurse, or Licensed Practical Nurse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Boo Too	It's commendable that she wants to adopt, as there are so many children that need loving homes. However, at age 19 it isn't a great idea. Get married, give it some time, and then consider adoption. It's only a blessing for the child if it is brought into a loving and stable home. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

S	You generally need to be 21 to be considered. Sometimes single women can only adopt special needs children (not that that' s bad). And newborns usually aren't available outside of this country. They are usually with a foster parent for a few months. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ale r	i think she should wait a bit longer because the adopting agencie probably wants someone a bit older but she can always get a newborn child even before 5 months i think its good she wants to adopt a child it gives a better home for that adopted child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tory	Although she makes good money, most agencies will not accept someone so young. It usually will take a long,long time for someone to be accepted for a newborn to 5 month old baby. Google "Adoption Agencies in ___________" and you will find good information and agencies. Best of luck to you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Living In Korea	Your 19 year old girlfriend is not ready for adopting and caring for a newborn baby, no matter what her heart is telling her. She is just getting started with making her future. Having a baby in her life now is akin to swimming with your hands tied behind your back. Get established with making your future, wait a couple years, then decide whether or not to adopt a baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jillian	Although seh may not me maturely too young some agencies won't let you adopt until you are a certain age. most likely 21. good for her for wanting to give te gift of family to someone who may not be so fortunate Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Laura	I would tell her to wait awhile, I mean, you need to have a large house, the whole set. I think you guys need to plan everything before you go too fast. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Skittles	She's too young! Tell her to enjoy her life while she can and adopt when she's around age 25. This should be her time to party! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No