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 For all you posting answers on the adoption section how are you effected by adoption?
I see so many people here hating on the adoptive parents. I am curious how are you are all involved in adoption. Are you adoptee, birthmoms, adoptive parents. what makes you an expert. This is not ...


 Am I responsible for legal fees?
I had planned on placing my baby for adoption but backed out after giving birth. The adoption agency just told me that I am responsible for legal fees and expenses for the adoptive couple since I ...


 I'm thinking of adopting a baby. What color should I get?
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 How old do you have to be to give your babies up for adoption?
im 13...


 Pregnant 13 year old-what can I do?
My 13 year old daughter just told me she was pregnant Friday. She says she is probably two months but I won't know for sure until I get her to the doctor Monday. Obviously I am upset, I thought I...


 Would you continue with an adoption if the child might be biracial?

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A young realative wants me to adopt her child or she might abort. I was thinking about it until she said the baby might be biracial. Now I am not ...


 Do you Think it''s Rude to tell Adoptees to be Grateful?
Do you think adoptive parents should be the ones who ought to be grateful? Because they wanted a child and got one?

Why should an adopted person be any more grateful about anything than ...


 Is love reserved only for biological children?
I ask this based on a question that was previously posted (of which I am unable to read the answers as I have been blocked).
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 Just out of curiosity??
When a child is adopted, do their "new" parents choose a name for him/her or do they have a name from before that they keep?

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 What Will It Be Like Please Help! Important!?
I am working on adopting a 14yr girl who and was abused by both her parents, in every way possible. She actually ended up in the hospital because of the abuse. Anyway while she was there they found ...


 Changing the name of an adopted child?
How do you feel about adoptive parents changing the name of their child? (I'm wondering this because my fiance and I have been discussing the possibility of having one or two biological children ...


 I'm in the process of adopting two boys (11 and 12), but I really don't like one of them; what do I do?
I really like Jamie, the 11 year old, but I can't stand Jack, the 12 year old. He speaks like a baby, and plays dumb on purpose (we've caught him in the act several times). He's also ...


 In 2009, what is your reaction to seeing a teenage mother with her baby?
1. Good for her to be taking responsibility.
2. She's chosen such a hard road, but it's not the end of the world.
3. She's screwed up her life.
4. I'll bet her ...


 I want to give my baby up for adoption, but my family doesnt want me to?
my boyfriend and i are VERY young, and not ready for a kid yet. we are both 18, and we have been together for a very long time, like almost 3 years. and im 4 mo. pregnant. we both want to give up the ...


 What's your opinion on adoption?
I'm 38, and my husband to be is 45. I've had a hysterectomy so I can't have any more children. Lately, though, the urge has been there to have a baby in the house. We have 3 kids, 17...


 I was rape at 14 and i got pregnant. i had to give my son up for adoption by force. now that i am 24 i would?
like to meet him and to know hes ok but due to my mother i have no idea wheres my son at is there anyway i can look for him all i know is that the adoption agency name was bethany christian services(...


 Is adopting the only way to help starving children in need?
What do you think?
What else can we do?

I would suggest Manna World Wide, how about you?...


 I think am preg and the the father does not want it?
I think am preg and i told my boyfriend he told me to get rid of it. He said that he hates it and i have to pick between and and the baby.What should ido ?...


 How do we get our baby back after changing our minds about adoption?
I recently gave birth to my beautiful baby boy. My boyfriend and I have planned on an open adoption with a wonderful, caring, deserving couple who have been through a lot and wanted nothing more than ...


 I just found out I was adopted.?
I am 29, and never in a million years would have thought I would go through this. I am still in shock and cry all the time. I just can't believe it. I feel grateful for being taken in and all, ...



surfnerd
Is it tru that adoptees are more likely to murder someone?
i just heard this



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Daisey Duck
So you listen to a bunch of idiots huh? No one can say for sure what causes a person to kill. Most of the time it is an imbalance in their brain they do not think straight. And contrary to somes beliefs most killers have came from good homes, no abuse or anything like that. As for children killing their parents if you actually read about this most of the time it's about money or because they didn't get their own way, or a petty fight that goes too far. It is unfair to categorize any type of people. Maybe you should spend more time reading and watching the news.

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Fidi
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no

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jm1970
No, it is not true at all.

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Rainia W
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I doubt it... most adoptees are taken out of a bad environment and put into a good/better one, instead of being raised in an unhealthy environment. So I would think they would be Less likely to murder someone. That is unless they were taken out of the environment too late (aka being adopted at 17).

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Still Me
Hello! It's not being adopted that causes some maladjustment and mental instability among some adoptees. It's being abused, neglected, and moved from pillar to post in their biological homes and foster care.

If you compare the children placed through private adoption, private agencies and were infants and toddlers when adopted, those numbers pointing to mental strife are far less than the general (non-adopted) population.

You have to be be very careful with statistics.....everyone knows they are easily manipulated to support the hypothesis in question.

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Ali
No, I am adopted and i do not want to murder anyone... A lot of my friends are adopted.. So this is not true

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Dill
Huh?

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swayisonline
at first I was like 'oh my God what is this person talking about' then after thinking about it I reconsidered, i don't know actually... there is some evidence that implies that this may be true but at the same time it is more likely that it is not the adoption that caused the spike in stats but the problems surrounding and experienced by the child for example being in care or victims of abuse. interesting....

but no i don't think i'd be more likely to murder someone just because i'm adopted

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the only Dikshunaree
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it all depends on the parenting. If the child is adopted at a later age, and was abused, even moving into a wonderful new home can be traumatizing. This doesn't mean that they will murder somebody. The chance of that is even lower if the birth parents gave up the child at an early age, better if the (birth) parents still keep in touch. If you are considering adopting, just be the best parent you can be. When adopting a small child, explain to them about their adoption as soon as they can understand. If adopting an older child, just give them lots of care and love. If their (birth) parents are a) still alive, and b) not a criminal, see if you can contact them, (it might help a child understand that they weren't given up for adoption because they were not a good child, it had to do with their family). Any way, adoptees are not more likely criminals, as long as the parents are up to par, as with any other child.

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KirBirty906
ABSOLUTLY NOT! IT IS YOUR CHOICE HOW YOU RAISE YOUR CHILD SO YOU MAKE THE DECISION!

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Nickname
Well, actually no, because they are taken in to a good enviorment when they are adopted.

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Wilma Duckie Deene
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This seems to me to be like when the media is desparately trying to get something sensational on a murderer. It is not enough to say that a person murdered another person, they need to find something to distinguish this person from another killer. So they will dig and whoa, discover that they are adopted, former Eagle Scout, Quaker, you name it. More labels at work, in our sick labelling society.

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AdoreHim
questions like this remind me of the reason I left this section in the first place- I just came back to see if anything has changed- NO THEY HAVEN'T

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Halo Mom
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NO

The only group of people of children that group up to be murders are abused children

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Cam
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I've heard someone mention that here before. I don't buy it though.

What a terrible and rude answer by the car salesman.

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Canadian,Eh?
are you THAT gullible.....

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cruzgirlz3
I always wondered why my mother locked her bedroom door at night.

Just remember there are about 303,000,000 people in the US. A tiny percent are killers. An even tinier amount are adopted killers. The stats are also skewed because they don't differentiate between different types of adoptions ie foster, step parent, at-birth. The number of adoptee serial killers is so small based on the U.S. population it is statistically irrelevant. We are talking about, what, 70 people out of 303,000.000?

The news sometimes can make it seem like crazed adoptees are running around killing their parents. The fact is serial killers are rare. Adopted ones are even more rare. So, rest easy, you are not likely to kill or be killed by an adoptee.

It amazes me how adoptees themselves love to perpetuate this stereotype. lol!

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oopsydaisy
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In true british style, I think its a load of BOLLOCKS (testicles) Oh look, I am adopted and have a sense of humour!

Adoptees are no more likely to murder anyone, then the little old lady next door. Where people get these stupid stats from are beyond me. They seriously need to get a hobby. Its all in the upbringing.

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Britters
If there is any legitimate research to prove this, it is most likely a correlational study. This means theres no control of the groups (because it would be unethical if they really did think there was a chance). Also keep in mind that you cannot draw conclusions from these. They just show relashionships

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Sophie
I've heard this too.

Interesting input Phil.
Does the article state what percent of these children are from foster care or adopted as babies?

I'm also interested what the statistices are for abused children vs nonabused children and each group's likliehood of violent behavior.

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Nancy Jayne
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I want to kill lots of people but I dont think it has anything to do with me being adopted. Wait,....do normal people even want to kill other people or is that just me....? Im just joking. a little, I think adopted people have a lot of hurdles to cross, maybe more than others, and many are likely to have chemical imbalances from being mistreated as fetus, infants, children but I dont know if you can specify murder and adoption just like you cant say becuase Im hispanic im more likely to eat tacos. One has nothing to do with the other whether its true or not. I do love me a taco though....

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a healing adoptee
there has been research on this and some studies support this theroy. i feel it depends on the person, because i''m adopted and i have no hankering to go out and kill alot of people.

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Heather B
You may find this book interesting reading:

http://www.adoptionunchartedwaters.com/bookreviews.php

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Santa's Lil' Helper
Gosh after watching the OMEN I was concerned about raising the Anti-Christ.....now I might be raising a serial killer?
Darn and we were hoping for a pro soccer player......well she could always whack the competition.

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Lori A
Don't quote me but this came up a while ago and the study said that they were 17% (I think) more likely than non adoptees, but adoptees constitute a small percent of our population so it basically makes the figures look worse than they actually are. And if I remember correctly it is usually directed toward their adotive parents. BUT DON'T QUOTE ME. I can't find the question to post it for you.

Thanks Phil.

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Noah's Mommy & Marine Wife.
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You shouldn't believe everything you hear.

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Warrior Mom
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Before you believe something like that you need to research it and get scientific data. That's a very hurtful thing to say, just based on something you heard.

ETA: You know, I just realized who you are. You make a habit of asking obnoxious questions on this site. Do you do that on all the YA categories, or is adoption just your favorite one to pick on?

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Adopted Jane
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So what will you do now that you have heard this ? ask everyone you meet if they are a adoptee first and if they have heinous intent ?

And NO I dont want to kill anyone

I think you will find that its to do with how they are raised, if they go from foster home to foster home,or are abused and so on..

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PhilM
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"The FBI estimates that of the 500 recorded serial killers in U.S. history, fully 16 percent were adopted – an incredible statistic, considering that adoptees represent only 2-3 percent of the general population."

"Aside from the serial killers, Paul Mones, a defense attorney and expert, who wrote the book When a Child Kills, reports that adoptees are 15 times more likely to commit parricide (kill one or both adoptive parents) than biologic children. Among adopted children who have killed both of their adoptive parents, I have personally examined and/or testified for: Patrick Campbell (Darien, Conn.), Patrick DeGelleke (Rochester, N.Y.), Matthew Heikkila (Somerset, N.J.), Daniel Kasten (Ronkonkoma, N.Y.) and Patrick Niiranen (Portland, Ore.). (Most of these cases, with my forensic evaluations, are described in detail, in my book Adoption: Uncharted Waters.)

"In addition to the serial killers and parricides who were adopted, there have also been many cases of adoptees who killed strangers, such as Jeremy Strohmeyer, an 18-year-old high-school honor student, who was plea-bargained by star defense attorney Leslie Abramson (of Menendez case fame) to life without parole, for the killing of a 7-year-old girl in the restroom of a Nevada gambling casino during the Memorial Day weekend of 1997."

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Torrejon
All the really good serial killers were adopted.

That is why every one says, "Oooooooh, YOU're adopted?!" and follow it by a long, uncomfortable silence.

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Margot Tenenbaum
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Yes, it's true. All of you...be afraid. Be very afraid.

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