Is it possible to give your baby up for adoption even if you have had him for 2 months?

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Nichola H	no its not two late to give him up .its nice that youre putting your baby first . there are so meany loving people out ther who can not have babies . i was adopted when i was 4 weeks old and had an ace life .we are now looking to adopt . i hope every thing works out for you 2 take care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

liquidcharm	I was given up for adoption. I'm glad my biological mother gave me up since she was not interested in raising me. (Still isn't interested in connecting in any way). By her giving me up, I had the opportunity to be with a mom and dad that wanted a baby and were great parents. So I say most any woman can have a baby, but not all women can be mothers. Since you don't want to be a mom, give your son to people who really want to be parents. I think you are making the right decision in giving him up. After all, if you were a mother, you would've connected with him emotionally by now. Instead, you're just a girl who had a kid. Good luck with your decision! :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jaime	my son was a year old when i pur him up for adoption. I wasnt quite sure if i wanted to and worked with social services who found a family i liked. it took me another year to make it official. ive never regretted it. it was a horrible experience for nyself and especially him. but i was all alone. i felt i couldnt do it right. and i couldnt. and although hes 11 now, i rarely think of him, but not everyone can push that out of their head. my mom and dad see him on holidays and tell me how hes doing and its better than i hoped. although i do cry when i hear of it i am happy i did it. on the other hand alot of women have children young and become successful. my boyfriends mom is 14 years older and if they go to a bar they card her and not him. but she had a hard struggle to get there. its up to you. i loved my son so much. and im happy for him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Athalia	You most certainly can. In fact if you chose adoption now, you will probably how more peace about it than if you had done it at birth, because now you have had time to really consider it and know that it's what you want. You can call a private agency and choose your adoptive parents, and choose ones that are willing to agree to the amount of openness in the adoption that you want, letters, photos. visits, etc, so you will know he is well cared for. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nay141414	I was adoped at 6 months because my birth mother wanted to keep me and he mom made her give me away.I am 42 and found my b/p.You shoud go for an open adoption where you pick the parts and they can send you photos.You are brave and should give him up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Landon's Mommy	It's not too late, it's just uncommon because after being with their babies for 2 months most mothers would rather die than give them up. It's very noble of you to know that you can't give him everything that he deserves. Call an adoption agency and there will be lots of loving couples waiting with open arms to adopt your little guy. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kourtney M	Yes it is still possible to do so. I feel bad that you feel the need to put your baby up for adoption, but if you truly need to, then you need to do so in the next month or so. The reason I say this is that in about two to three months, your baby will start becoming attached to you and will know when mommy leaves. It will be much harder on your baby then, than it would be now. I would find out where you need to go to in your city that you can do this. If you know of a family that is willing to take your baby and feel comfortable with this family raising him, then find out what you need to do so he is leagally theirs. Before you go through this, you need to get counceling so you know what to expect before and after the adoption and what you may go thu emotionally and mentally. Give this some thought before you truly act. I will pray for you. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sizesmith	There are wonderful people who wish to adopt all ages of children. I know, I'm one of them. Make sure whoever you choose already has a completed home study ready for you to view immediately, including copies of the criminal checks, and abuse checks. You have every right to meet them, interview them, meet their familly, look at their home, and ask any questions you might have. Make sure you read EVERY paper you sign, including the one that states how long you have to change your mind once you sign the papers. My prayers are with you, as it is not an easy decision. Try to make the adoption open, even if you don't think it's right at this time, because you'll one day want to see him growing up. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

r1chard35	Yes it is possible. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ladybmw1218	Yes, you can, but that doesn't mean you should necessarily. Do you have any family who can help you? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

momonamisson	What about support for yourself? Do you have family? Adoption is a difficult and lifetime decision. I applaud you for knowing what you want to do. Please find someone who will support you. If you choose an agency choose it carefully. So many are in it for the money. I have been around the adoption world for awhile now. I think sometimes the birth parents get lost. Adoption is a triad of birthmom child and birth family. The other thing to think about is open adoption. There are a lot of families that will maintain an open relationship with you. Praying for you as you embark on this journey, what ever is your final decision. By the way it is not uncommon for birth mom's to change their mind and parent for awhile then place their child for adoption. Hugs to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kaela S	Its not to late and i think it is great that u think like that, considering your baby in those financial and school ways. Good Luck!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Whathappened2U	It is possible to give your child up for adoption. But know that just because you are giving him to a new set of parents it doesn't mean you have to be removed from his life. You have the right to choose a family and to receive updates on how he is and even have visits if you and the adoptive parents can agree on it. I know my husband and I have talked about it. We want to adopt but we don't want to cut the adoptive parents out if they want to keep in contact. If they think enough of us to trust that we will be the parents that baby deserves, then we want this child to know that it had other parents that love it enough to make sure it had a good life. I wish you and your son the best. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

free_spirit5230	I really feel for you because I want to have a baby more than anything.....my honest opinion, keep him because if you don't...he's gonna be on your conscience for the rest of your life....I know it may seem hard now but God doesn't give you anything you can't handle....you may think that you are alone but you aren't. You have had him this long for a reason. Just think about it. Good Luck! Things will get better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Crucio	Its not too late. One can be placed for adoption at any age. First I will applaud you for trying to parent. I would also suggest that you look into programs/services that would enable you to continue parenting. If you do this and still feel you can not parent or your baby deserves more then you can provide him then certainly if you feel its best to find an adopted family for your baby then go that way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Md. I	"Giving your baby up The process of adoption is not like it used to be, with whisked away babies, secrets and lies, however it is still a difficult and emotional process. TheSite.org explains your rights. Making the decision It is important to make sure you know all the facts about adoption in order to make a final decision about it. Giving up a baby for adoption isn't easy - for the mother or father. If you'd like to consider adoption, your doctor can put you in touch with the social service, who will advise you from there. Counselling will be provided, to be sure that you're happy with the situation, and aware of any future implications once the child has been adopted. The agency itself can't guarantee that your child is brought up in exactly the way that you wish, but it will always put the child's welfare first when choosing a suitable family. You will have time to change your mind if necessary because formal consent to adoption cannot take place until at least six weeks after the baby is born. The adoptive parents You can know as little or as much about the adoptive family as you wish. You can also keep in touch via the adoption agency or Social Services. You can wait for a suitable family before agreeing to an adoption, or transfer your parental rights to the agency who will find a home on your behalf. Once a family has been found, they can then apply for their own adoption order. When does the adoption process become legal? Although social workers arrange adoptions, they are made legally binding by the courts. The court will make sure that you are definite about your decision to put your baby up for adoption and that the baby's new home is the right environment for him/her to grow up in. The adoption is usually made legal three months after the birth of the child. Will my child ever know about me? If you wish, the adoptive parents can keep a 'life book' which tells the child all about you so that s/he grows up with a sense of where s/he comes from. Neither birth parent has the right to see their child after she or he has been adopted, although the child can get in touch with them after the age of 18. Even so, some adoptive families feel it is healthy for the child to be aware of their origins, and may consent to some contact. What is the difference between adoption and fostering? Adoption means legally giving up responsibility for your child. Fostering means that another set of parents will temporarily look after your baby, but that you will remain the legal guardian and hopefully be in a position to care for your child in the future. If, for whatever reason, you cannot look after your baby, social services will arrange temporary fostering and will try to work with you to reunite you with your child. Making a decision about adoption or fostering is a big one and you should feel able to take time to make the right decision for you and speak to organizations that can help you make up your mind." Article taken from http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/safersex/unplannedpregnancy/givingyourbabyup Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mtgtj5	no it isnt to late but the sooner the better for u both jus do what u feel is best Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fine-n-dandy	i don't know how old you are...but seems like you have internet acess so you're not totally in the ditch yet....be careful what you decide because it will have a life time affect. i was 17 and still got through school...you can do it...it sucks and its not easy but you can do it IF and only if you don't give up. i say hang in there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

audrey c	be careful what you choose now may haunt you later on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dovebar24	Yes you can still put your baby up for adoption. But can you honestly see your life without him in it? He knows and loves YOU. Your baby needs you. And you need him too. I'm an advocate for adoption. But in your case, I say don't do it. Think of all the time you've shared with him. The way he responds to your voice. How only you can soothe him. How you feel when he's in your arms. That is priceless. If you do decide to go through with this, it'll be your biggest regret. One that will haunt you the rest of your life. I've been where you are. Not knowing what to do. Or where to turn. But I kept her and things are better. They always get better. You may not feel that way right now. But they do! Just get on your knees and pray. Cry out to God! He hears us. He will see you through this trial. Pray for direction. He'll put someone in your path that will help you and your baby get through this thing together. If you never believed or prayed before, now is the time. All that's required of you is unwaivering faith. My heart aches for you. But I believe that God will help you. You can do this! Always remember that God gave this baby to YOU. He is your miracle and blessing. An untimely blessing? Yes. But an amazing blessing nonetheless. Square your shoulders and keep going. You and your son can make it! Together! You're in my prayers. Dovebar24 Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xlinzx88x	thats nice. give him two months to bond with you, you're all he knows, but now he'll know the meaning of abandonment. great mothering. take responsibility or stop having sex. to him it doesn't matter how well off another family is, what matters to him is that he has his mother, the only person who can provide him the comfort and love that he needs. thats what he deserves. don't try making it sound nice. the state can provide help. you can get free medical care for him, free groceries and even free daycare. and hello, what about child support? go to social services and apply for aid from the government. your financial situation is temporary, giving him to strangers is permanent, he'll never forget that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cocolux	Yes, you can still place your son up for adoption. Best of luck girl, stay strong Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sam22254	You made it so far. Look I don't care if half of these people say you can have a open adoption that's bull s---. You are going to be wondering all your life about your child. There are plenty of help out there for daycare. clothes, food etc. what make you think your child would be better off with strangers that look good on pictures and there good answers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

poohgirl	i cannot believe all these baby hungry people are telling you to give up your son. fact is, you're a terrible person if you do that to him. it will traumatize him for the rest of his life. he is bonded to you, you'll wreck him. imagine your son crying his little lungs out all night because he doesn't know where you are or why you aren't responding to his cries. do you really want to put him through that? you're his mommy. put him before you. take a break from school and raise that baby, things will get better. but you'll ruin his life if you get selfish and give him up so you can have all the luxuries in life. get off the computer and give that baby a hug, let him know that you'll always be there with him because YOU ARE HIS MOTHER! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kavasa	Yes, you absolutely can. I think you are extremely brave for keeping your baby and giving birth, and also trying the best you could to give your son a good life. I can understand how hard it must be to be in your position and commend you for trying to do the right thing. There is a family out there who would love to have your son, and will give him with a wonderful life. I happen to be someone suffering from infertility and it's women like you who give women like me hope that we can one day have a child, even if not biologically. Here is a website that will provide you with the help you're looking for: http://www.adopthelp.com/ Best of luck, honey. I'll keep you and your son in my thoughts and prayers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dayle	Yes, it is possible. You have been given some excellent advise from some of the responders, think about it long and hard, before you make this life changing decision. I wish you well!!!!!!!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hismomma	Yes you can. If thats the way you feel there are lots of couples that would love to except your child in their home. You can try an open adoption that way you will get to see pictures and know who your child is later on in life! Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwillow20	Just to clear up one poster answer, no you can't just drop him off at a fire station or a hospital. He would need to be under 3 days old. If you were to drop him off, that would be abandonment. I gave my daughter up in 1972, I have always regretted it and she has suffered too. We have been in reunion since 2001. Giving your child up hurts you in so many ways, sadness and depression, but only you can know what is right for you both. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dawn666annapolis	yes you can. you both deserve a chance. call your local adoption agency they will gladly help you. http://www.bethany.org/ i used these people myself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

April D	I hope you discuss your fears with a doctor or a mental health worker. You could very well be suffering from postpartum depression, which CAN be treated. Often times even the most seasoned mother has these thoughts of her very planned baby. It would be a tragic thing to have you give up your baby and the 'clouds' clear from your mind, and suddenly you realize you DID have the will and means to provide for this precious child, but you have legally already given up that right. Please talk to SOMEONE before make any final plans. GOOD LUCK! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	Really - he deserves - YOU. Check out these sites for help. Get your act together. You can find programs to help you finish school - and this is probably just a temporary problem. Adoption is a long term solution to an often short term problem. He wants you - and doesn't need diamonds and pearls. I've lived adopted for 39yrs - and being given away by your mother - HURTS. Kids need to grow up around those that look like them - act like them - and have talents like them. You can do this. Have faith in your self. I'm wishing you and your baby boy all the best in the world. http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf http://origins-usa.org/Default.aspx?pageId=51995 http://www.singlepregnancy.com/ http://www.keepyourbaby.com/ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No