Is it ok to spank an adopted child?

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a healing adoptee	I'm adopted and i got spanked occasionaly as a child. I really don't think it harmed me. I mean i didn't grow up to hit people or be hateful. So, if an adopted child is suppose to be like a couples own child, then whatever forms of displine as long as it is not abuse, they can give a child. There should be no double standards. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom	treat them as you would your own child... by the way, to those who don't believe in spanking, the Bible says, spare the rod, spoil the child... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rachael	please dont look at him as "adopted" it makes it so cheap. he is their child, it makes no difference how he came into the family. to treat them different than a bio child is wrong. they are the parent and they need to parent. you obviously dont have much exposure to adoption, and thats ok, many dont. the first thing to remember is they are a family, adoption is nothing more than an alternate path. not an excuse for special treatment. thanks for asking before you automatically assumed something and formed a wrong opinion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amie M	Why would you ask is it ok to spank an adopted child??? Are they not just like other kids???? We have a two year old and you know what we do spank her and make her sit in time out. An adopted child needs to treated justl like a child that isnt adopted. A swat here and a swat there isnt going to kill a child. There is a difference of spanking and beating a child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

no one here	Dear Miss Yes It is OK I know a few people that has adopted children and I praise them for it so I do not see why not a pop are too on the bottom never hurt any one OK Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Crucio	If that’s the way someone wants to discipline their child then yes. Being adopted shouldn’t make a bit of difference. There are people who don’t believe in spanking period wether the child is adopted or biological. However again that if that is the discipline method the parent(s) decided for their children. Think for the people who have both natural and adopted kids. “Sorry honey Bobby was adopted therefore we don’t spank him he’s just gets a time out. But you were born to us so you get spankings when you do wrong.” Foster children I can more understand even more if they have abuse in their history. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stacey p	an adopted child is there own child no different than if she would have given birth to him and shes had him since he was newborn.......so its more of a question if its ok to spank your own child or not......and i say a little swat now and then is ok Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vmarie84	Every child should be spanked if it is necessary, but I see many people saying adopted children are the same. Raising an adopted child and the feeling they have are not the same as biological children that you raise. That is a misconception if you ask me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tike	in order to make the child feel as if they are "part of the family" then i say it is ok to swat them when they deserve it. if the child has brothers or sister say they are biological then they get a whippen and the adopted one doesnt that is going to single out the adopted child and possibly cause problems amongst the siblings in the long run... good luck to them and do whats best Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Darvocet	i was adopted, and trust me, I got spanked. why do you think adopted kids should get treated any different then their not-adopted siblings? Thanks for making me feel so different from my non adopted brother. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kimberley C	The child is her child.... when the adoption for formalised that baby because her own and has the same responsibilites and rights as any other parent. As for spanking.... I'm not sure it is ever right but come back to me when my 3 month old gets older! Mandie - She already said the baby was adopted at birth so probably hadn't gone through what you did (I assume you were talkign from personal experience). I agree that older children who are adopted may have been through some extremley tough times but each case is individual. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mandie c	ok i am adopted and no i think that it is wrong..........if you knew half the **** that kids go through to the resons why they are adopted then no you would not be spanking them.........honestly that could make things worse for that child.......... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Colleen N	I think it is wrong to spank a child period. I can't believe that parents are ok with causing physical pain to their children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Morgaine	I don't see why a child, adopted at birth, would need to be treated any differently then a child born into a family. That makes no sense to me. I personally don't think spankings are the answer except in cases when the child is putting himself/herself into a life threatening situation (IE walking out into traffic after being told not to leave his/her parents side...a spanking is a physical reminder of what COULD happen if they were hit by a car) but if you feel its okay for children born into a family, can you explain WHY you think its not okay for an adoptive child? A child is a child is a child. I am sorry but they should not be treated any differently in this case. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lori A	Methods of parenting aside, treat them like one of the family. If you do or would do that to your other kids, do it to them. No special treatment. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cam	The child should be disciplined just like any other child in the family. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sammi	it is the same. it doesnt matter Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mommy2squee	OK.. gotta say, there are situations where it is right to spank. Especially when they are too little to really understand the "whys" of behavior. NEVER spank when you are angry, but if the alternative is to let a child be hurt, and badly, I believe a well timed swat can save a lifetime of grief. If your toddler is reaching for the hot stove, smacking his hand or butt will save him a serious injury. Grabbing him as he makes a run for the street after being told no. and paddling his butt might just save his life the next time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DawnRenee	It's wrong to spank a child - period. It's an immature and illogical form of punishment. Hopefully people educate themselves about childhood development and a little bit of psychology... and as a result discover better ways to deal with parenting dilemmas (and life problems in general) without hitting or harming others physically. Even dog trainers no longer recommend swatting your dog while training them... yet morons out there still "spank" their children to "train" them. Ridiculous. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jim	I think in some jurisdictions there may be laws or rules forbidding the spanking of foster children or of adopted children. In that case it is NOT "ok" to spank them. You would need to be more "creative" in finding ways to punish them reasonably and yet effectively. . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

the archer	I never spanked my children and I don't approve of spanking any ones children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

minimickimichelle	There are so many variables to spanking and none of them are adoption. An occasional swat may or may not be effective as a disciplinary measure, but adoption has nothing to do with it. Legally, once a child is adopted, they are a part of that family, good, bad or indifferent. Only foster children are protected from any type of corporal punishment or discipline. However, different states/counties/locales have different ways of handling these situations. Anyone who sees a child being abused should report it. Just be sure that it truly is abuse...because false reporting can really screw up a lot of lives for a long time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

grapesgum	I do not think it is okay to spank any child. There are MUCH more effective ways to discipline children - spanking is a lazy cop out. Specific to this situation: 1) Did this woman have a home study or any parenting training? Was the adoption private or through an agency? If an agency, was it one of those Christian organizations that advocate corporal punishment (yup - they are out there)? 2) Are the "birth" parents in the picture at all? What do they feel about this? If I were considering relinquishment, the first question that I would ask is whether or not the adoptive family approved of corporal punishment. If the answer was "yes", that would be the end of the conversation for me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dory	Spanking any child is wrong in my eyes. How does one expect to teach positive behaviors by hitting a child? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LaraSue	I think it's wrong to spank ANY child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Erin L	No, it is not okay. Well, I don't think it's okay to ever hit a child. But, I do think it could be different with an adopted child. With bio children, when they reach the age of discipline, they have enough history and enough experience with their parents meeting their needs that discipline will not destroy attachment. With a child who needs to learn that their new parents will always take care of them, hitting them doesn't help the child learn that. Perhaps, if this child has been in the family long enough, he is securely attached and it is no different than any other child. At any rate, spanking is simply ineffective for any child. edited to add: I know of some homestudy agencies who will not approve a couple to adopt if they say they plan to use spanking as a discipline technique. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tish	personally, i don't think it's right to spank any child. adoption should not be a variable. -IMO, i find it amazing that in 2007 with the plethora of child development resources and internet parenting sites that adults can't manage to find a non-violent means to get their toddler children to behave. i have to agree with grapes... most times, it's not about esculating misbehaviors, it's "a lazy cop-out." Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sam22254	Spank Good question. I was brought up getting spanked everyday and then it got worse. So when I had children I decided to go about punishment different, time out and take things away etc and my children grew up great. That's what's wrong with the world violence . A child is doing something wrong hit the child so what are they teaching him. I don't think it matters if the child is adopted or not. No-one should lay a finger on another one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jenm	What a completely bizarre question - what difference does it make whether or not the child is adopted? Why would you have different rules for adopted kids? I wouldn't think it matters at all! So if you're against it, you're against it, period - or if you think a 'swat on the butt' is okay, then it's okay, regardless. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

momof3boys	It is against the law to spank a foster child but once they are adopted that isn't the case. Adoption means that child now is your neighbors child and they can raise him just like she would her own biological child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Andraya	An adopted child is suppose to be the same as any other child. If this woman sees fit to beat her kid's butt then she has that right. Obviously I don't agree with corporal punishment for children, adopted or bio, but whatever floats yer boat right? I personally don't hit children, my own or others, again that is just me. Setting a double standard for adoptees is just silly. Be it something positive or negative they have the right to be treated the same as any other child in the family. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No