Is asking a pregnant woman if she wants to give up her child "socially acceptable" behavior?

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Regina L	No it's horrible... But I'm ashamed to admit I've thought it a few times! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chelsea s	No. That actually happened to me. A friend of mine's mother gave me a note written on a napkin while I was at work asking if she could adopt my baby. I don't think there is any way she could have known I was already putting him up for adoption. I hadn't told that friend about it because we hadn't really spoken in a few years. She just asked. She took one look at my belly and asked if she could have it. Its like asking someone if you could have the shirt off their back. It made me feel terrible, even though I had already decided upon adoption. I'm glad I didn't even consider it, because she ended up in a woman's shelter shortly after I had my son because her husband abused her! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hmc	definitely not acceptable Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AdoreHim	It is NEVER appropriate to do that- I am adopted and also have 2 adopted children, and I would have never asked a pregnant woman that question- unless they personally told me they were considering adoption first. I use to counsel women in crisis pregnancies and they would be considering abortion, then and only then would I suggest considering adoption- Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dave F	No. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

~&hearts;lexii&hearts;~	That is inapropriate. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Erin L	No, it is absolutely not acceptable. If I remember right, most people who answered that question thought that it was horrible, so I don't see that "many" think it's acceptable. But, as for the people who do rationalize, minimize the horribleness of, excuse, or accept such behavior, I just can't for the life of me understand how. It just completely blows my mind. It's not just rude, it's not just in poor taste, it's not just bad judgement. It's completely horrible and predatory. eta: Gotcha Tish. There are definitely too many who think it's okay. I wasn't trying to question your rationale. I understand it's not an isolated thing, I just hope that it's not the majority of people who accept this type of thing as okay. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jennifer L	No, of course not. It's completely inappropriate to solict for adoption like this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

My Three	no Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jessica B	I don't think it is nor should it ever be socially acceptable. I feel really bad that people have stooped to that level and don't see what is wrong with it. I had to go on fertility medicine in order to have a child. If someone would come up to me with one of those cards, I don't know what I would do. People should not make assumptions about your life because you don't have a wedding band on (I am married, but my fingers swell and I am not always able to wear my ring), or think that because you are a certain age or working in a certain job that you are not able or wanting to take care of your child. I saw your response to the question that was asked earlier and I couldn't agree more. I don't go up to them and ask for anything. I don't believe a child is a possession and if they are starting out as thinking that the child can be just solicited for like that, they would not be the type of person that I would ever consider giving my child to in the first place. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

βuййii's α∂∂iстiой→яiiсκsтαя	No woman let alone a pregnant woman should ever accept such a vile, inappropriate, unacceptable, offensive conduct as such. Who in their right mind would do such a horrible thing to try and take a child away from it's mother, whilst she's still pregnant. Oh my goodness my blood is boiling. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwillow20	The only way it would be acceptable is if, the pregnant woman was wearing a T-shirt saying "Please adopt my kid". I don't think that is ever going to happen. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Blossomo	That's shocking! That takes some audacity and extreme rudeness to ask a question like that. What kind of freak asks that? Might as well say "hello, I noticed you're a breeder, are you interested in human trafficking?" So no, I don't think it's acceptable behavior. God, I hope that's not a trend. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Santa's Lil' Helper	I found the entire story disturbing. Especially the advice where the attorney suggested it is is easier if they could find their "own birthmother"!!! Ironically it is illegal to solicit for sex in the US but soliciting for a baby is acceptable....WTF? ETA Laurel J : "It's like walking up to a woman wearing a wedding ring and asking her to let you know if she ever plans to divorce her husband so you can have him." ---- LM@O!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Freckle Face	No its not. I do not support this behavior at all. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather Leigh	Sure, why not... And why not start asking Parents with more than 4 kids if they want to get rid of a couple. Hey, lets ask the Dugger family for a half dozen of their kids. Since she is pregnant with # 18, I am sure she won't miss them Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

baby boop	NO, this sounds like soliciting. you must want to get beat up by a pregnant woman? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Torrejon	Let me put it this way... I got impatient with my husband last night....because I set down the piece of pizza that I was eating to take a sip of water and he asked me if I wasn't going to finish it could he have it. While I was pregnant, I freqently left my wedding ring in my jewelry box because my fingers swelled unmercifully. I would have exploded like a hormonal atom bomb on anyone who asked me if they could have my baby! And if I'd had the sense in the moment, I would have called the police. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

a healing adoptee	no it's not. So far the ones that wrote those answers are not defending themselves. maybe it's because they now see that maybe they should of choosen their words wisely. when it comes down to it, that couple was desperate for a baby, and this has clouded their judgement. they just weren't thinking that a card left to a pregrant woman could offend someone. I hope they learn from this and if they want to adopt, do it by legal means. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

christine m	Rudeness is never acceptable. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

red&sassy	Are you serious? I would call the police on them for trying to solicite.... or something to that affect. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MamaKate	Miss Manners would be having a cow! It's just plain rude! **See my answer to the previous question for other thoughts on this! I loved your answer, Tish! As always you rocked it out! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Irish	No, it's totally unacceptable, ignorant and nervy. Our world seems to view human beings as commodities these days. This has come a long way in my eyes as I have seen two worlds. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jessica	i would be mad if i was asked that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Laurel J	Egad, NO! That's horrible. It's like walking up to a woman wearing a wedding ring and asking her to let you know if she ever plans to divorce her husband so you can have him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xlinzx88x	No. Pregnant women will never accept that behavior as acceptable. Its a slap in the face for someone to assume that you don't want to love and cherish YOUR child and be the parent that you are meant to be. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Maddie	I would have freaked out if someone had come up to me when I was pg & asked that... I do know of someone who was pg with her 3rd child...a neighbor of theirs who couldn't have kids of their own, actually asked her if she would allow them to adopt that baby...seeing she didn't have any problem conceiving...and could easily have another...of course she said no... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather B	No, it is not acceptable at all. I've heard reports from expectant mothers being approached in shopping malls and other public places by women propositioning them for their baby. What's the deal with this? I've actually seen a woman almost salivating when they heard a work colleague's daughter was pregnant - her first question was "I want first dibs to adopt the baby, put in a good word for me" I nearly hurled. There was never any mention of adoption, it was just assumed! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LilLegs	Wow, no it's not acceptable. It's very weird and creepy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Thankful3	Not appropriate.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wholelottacats	No, not socially acceptable in any way, shape or form. But, encouraged in private, attorney or facilitator-led adoptions. I'm sure it's practiced by the same people who post on here looking for "situations" and don't understand why others get so upset. More than a little frightening that there are actually people who don't understand why this would be insulting or offensive to someone. How could a pregnant woman not take it personally? They've got to be left with the "What is it about me that says I wouldn't want or couldn't afford my baby?" Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No