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Bizzi	"I would LOVE to hear the actual argument for saying this is morally wrong!" You can't read? Oh yes my bad, all my truths and experiences and other peoples experiences for why it's wrong keep getting deleted.. Thats pretty sporting of you to say there.... Some kids get a good home some get a bad home... we are playing Russian roulette with children except the bullet ratio is about even... If every kid can not be guaranteed a adoptive home. Or a real stable constant loving home and a chance at a normal future... Then the kid should not be taken... if kids are ending up dead... at the hands of the parents we take them right? But if kids get killed in the system it gets silenced and covered up.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

eve	Personally I don't really see how adopting a child could be morally wrong. I can see from some people's point of view (not mine) how putting a child up for adoption could be morally wrong (although I find it hard to even write those words) -- but, I really can't make the connection to it therefore being morally wrong to save that child and provide them with a loving family and a good home. Certainly there is nothing "morally wrong" witht the child, and therefore why should the child suffer? If the reason is that if there weren't any people willing to adopt these children then no one would be letting their children be put up for adoption -- whoever thinks that really needs to take a better look at the real world and how it works. Children and infants are abandoned all the time all over the world and left to starve and die and freeze. Is it morally wrong to provide these children with love and a home? Clearly, I believe in adoption! The one thing I want to add that I think you need to look out for in your own desire to provide a family for a baby rather than give birth to one -- is the idea that you will be "saving" the child. Certainly you will and that's a wonderful thing and I applaud your reasons. However, you also need to realize that once you adopt the child -- the child will not know how "lucky" he or she is and will never feel grateful taht you ahve chosen to "save" hjm and his life in no way will reflect your generosity. He will grow up (hopefully) to be just like other children and will never know the difference between him or herself and any other child. Therefore, you need to understand that the idea that you ahve "saved" the child will no longer be relevant in your life -- and you will be a parent with a child, just like all other parents and children. That means many joys and much love, as well as ingratitude and sometimes hardships. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Crucio	Of course it’s not morally wrong, if the adoption is done right. Sure if mother has been coerced or father has not even been told, child has been wrongfully taken then yes it would be morally wrong. In an ideal world people would be at peace and Harmony there would be no wars, no hatred, no racism , no living creature would be abused, people would not starve or be poor etc, everyone would get a long and love each other , the world would be a one very big happy family. I see no reason why you should not just adopt because you know there are many children that need homes and loving parents. If that’s what you want to do I think its great. Adoption is not taking kids away from the birth parents, their birthparents placed them for adoption or the birthparents were deemed unfit and unsafe for the child(ren) to remain with them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	Why in the world would adoption be morally wrong? What are the intentions ? to cas harm to the adopted child? If that was the intentions then yes, but to give a unwanted child or abandonded child a place in your heart to call home. To give them a change to know the power of a loving family and a security, how could that every be morally worng? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mommaknowsbest	Adoption is NOT morally wrong. The Bible is very clear on what adoption is. Many times it is misquoted by those who are anti adoption because they do not understand, however, the Bible is very clear about adoption and that it is something we are to do as Christians if we are in a position to do so. There are several passages in the bible that refer to adoption and the care of orphans. alt Most often misquoted are moses leaving his adoptive status in royalty to join his biological mother. the anti adoption community points to this passage as "moses was miserable and desired to be with his real family". The truth being this is a misquoted and misinterpretation of the entire passage and story of Moses. Moses left because he learned his mother was one of the Jews that the Egyptians who had adopted him as a baby were persecuting in slavery. When he learned he himself was really of jewish decent he left Egypt and it's royal status he had been raised in to join the race of his people since they were wrongly enslaved. It did not have anything to do with hatred towards adoption. The anti adoption community also tries to tell Christian families they are wrong and in sin if they use an agency which contorts and coherces children away from mothers to give them to other families. This is also an untruth and lie. The Bible clearly approves of adoption of those children who are unable to be cared for by their life giving families by others. There are many passages in the Bible which support adoption, and when we accept Christ we become part of his family in a way similar to adoption where we can then call God our Father. As believers in God we are all in a sense adopted children of His through our faith and trust in the sacrifice on the cross. The Bible mandate specific to the care of orphans is as follows: Orphans, like all men, are made in the image of God (Genesis 1:26-27; 5:1). God takes special concern for the person and plight of orphans (Deuteronomy 10:18; Jeremiah 49:11; Psalm 146:9). The care and protection of orphans are commanded by Scripture and that command is binding upon the Church, which includes all Christians for all times (James 1:27; Exodus 22:21; Deuteronomy 24:17; Deuteronomy 24-26; Isaiah 1:17). To care for orphans is denoted as pure religion before God and, therefore, the very act is God-honoring despite any hardships or suffering that result to God's servants (James 1:27). The neglect of orphans is an abomination before the Lord and Divine judgment is promised to those who neglect, abuse and/or exploit orphans (Exodus 22:21-23; Job 24:9; Deuteronomy 27:19; Jeremiah 5:28; Jeremiah 22:3; Zechariah 7:10; Malachi 3:5). Knowingly to disregard someone in need (including an orphan) constitutes unbelief and sin (James 2:14-17). We are required to defend the orphan and be his advocate (Isaiah 1:17). Justice is demanded on behalf of the orphan (Deuteronomy 10:17-22). Christ commands that children (including orphans) be allowed access to Himself (Mark 10:13-16; Matt 19:13-15; Luke 18:15-17). We recognize that God's adoption of His elect constitutes a "best-care" model for followers of Christ (Ezekiel 16:3-6; Hosea 2:23; John 1:12-13, 11:52; Ephesians 1; Galatians 3:29; 4:5-6; Romans 8:15; 9:4, 24-26; II Corinthians 6:18; Hebrews 2:10; I John 3:1). The Biblical definition of 'orphan,' by implication, seems to be broader than some would allow today and should include those children who are neglected, abused, abandoned and/or exploited (Malachi 3:5; Ex 22:21-23; Deut 24:17; James 1:27). The Wycliffe Bible Commentary on James 1:27 supports this conclusion: "Since orphans and widows were not provided for in ancient society, they were typical examples of those needing help". V. R. Vincent, Word Studies in the New Testament says regarding James 1:27, "Pure and undefiled religion demands personal contact with the world's sorrow: to visit the afflicted and to visit them in their affliction." Strong's Concordance suggests bereaved, fatherless, and comfortless as ideas inherent in the word "orphans" or "fatherless." The above references were found at this website: http://www.epm.org/articles/missions-care_orphans.html There are also other resources about christians and adoption found at: http://www.gotquestions.org/adoption.html Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

di12381	I think adoption, for whatever reason is done is a marvelous thing. Every child should be given the opportunity to have a loving home and a real childhood, even if the people they call parents are not the ones who conceived them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MJ	Adoption could NEVER be considered morally wrong - its one of the most selfless, hopeful, loving, passionate, and kind acts a parent-to-be could ever do for a child in need. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KELYY S	Morally wrong is the parents who abuse there kids, molest there kids, kill there kids, mentally abuse there kids!!!! The people that argue adoption are morally wrong!!! This folks is why we have these so called parents that will do away with there child before giving this child life through ADOPTION!!!!! So NO it is not wrong.....its only RIGHT!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jamie N	When we adopted my son in Russia, the judge and a family member cried recognizing a child was leaving there country because of financial inability to care for him, but his father later wrote a letter to the agency thanking my husband and I for giving him a loving home, He wanted to keep him so bad, but our son was a surprise and they were already poverty stricken with a teen daughter. Thank you to them for being so selfless, and thank god everyday for my green eyed little spark plug of a son. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

blank	This is a personal decision. The events surrounding an individual adoption determine whether is it ethically or morally right/wrong. Everyone has different reasons and opinions and therefore I don't believe that there is a real 'right' answer to this. Interesting though- here's a star Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

janna w	What exactly is immoral about adopting? Morally wrong is (murdering, raping, abusing,lieing, stealing, cheating) When you intentionally and maliciously hurt another person. "other kind of care?" -- like an institution? Children need a loving nurturing environment to become healthy individuals. Healthy people don't get institutionalized so why would you institutionalize a perfectly healthy child who's only need is a family? Those who argue that adoption is "bad" are people with no moral compass and too much time on their hands. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sophie	No, it's not morally wrong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Candle	I honestly can't understand how it would be morally wrong.... I think it is an amazing thing to do.... Technically you aren't taking the children away from their birth parents...some cases, yes, children are taken away, but for good causes..other causes are simply because the parents chose not to keep them...some cases are because the children lost their parents and have no other relatives.... I think adoption is a good way to have a child! More power to you! :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iknow	Some children are adopted from foster homes or because they are orphans. Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AdoreHim	how could anyone call, adopting immoral? that is ridiculous- regardless if you adopt a baby or an older child- If a birth mom knows that she cannot take care of her child, whatever the reason- would it be more moral if she decided to end her pregnancy by abortion? When a birth mother on her own, which mine did and the birth moms of my 2 children did- places her baby- a couple who could not have children have a chance to parent- and also gives that baby a chance to live. How could anyone ask a question like this- how could adoption be morally wrong? oh yeah, the world is upside down, and made abortion better than adoption. YIKES Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

janine k	IS IT MORALLY WRONG TO ADOPT A CHILD AND GIVE THEM A CHANCE TO HAVE A BETTER LIFE THAN THEY WOULD PROBABLY HAVE HAD IF THEY WEREN'T......DEFINITELY NOT.You sound as if you have lots of admirable qualities and if you ever do adopt a child i know that you will give it all the love and support that you can.To anyone out there who thinks that adoption is wrong just think about all the children who have been brought into this world who are unwanted by their biological parents and who now have loving stable families because of the adoption process.Isn't it better to be born than not as in the case of abortions when unwanted children aren't given the chance to live and isn't it better to give the chance of parentage to people who would never have had the chance to be parents if they couldn't adopt Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amii	no adoption is a amazing thing, i was adopted when i was a baby and since then i have devied to do the same as you. adoption isnt wrong, it give 3 people a second chance, 1, i kid, 2 the mum, 3 the dad. and 4 the adoptive pearants. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

msdarkness	it is the most admirable thing anyone can do given that there are so many children out there who need good loving families. i highly recommend it, but only if you are sure that you can give them your undivided love, and commitment. God bless you, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tracy P	l think it up to the child to make that decide when the reach it age. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Allie	I want to adopt as well, and consider it morally good. Of course, taking children away from fit parents would never be the right thing to do; but taking care of children who have no one to care for them is a wonderful thing! I have heard that it can be very difficult becuase the kids have often been through alot, but I think its worth it! I know you will be a blessing to many children! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Choqs	I see nothing wrong with your point of view. Not all children are able or should be raised by their birthparents. I think saving a child from foster care through adoption is a much better idea. Stability is so important and foster care does not provide that and at 18 the kids are on their own. Adoption is a unselfish act as far as I am concerned. JMO Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

forever5	Adoption is not taking away from birth parents because the child would not be up for adoption unless the birth parents had chosen to do so. For what ever reason they have decided that they can't raise the child. I think your decision is wonderful. There are many kids out there looking for a home and when you are ready, you will provide a warm, nurturing environment to some child that may have never experienced that before. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Máire Siobhán	I would LOVE to hear the actual argument for saying this is morally wrong! I disagree with the statement, for sure. I think it's sad that some children have parents who are unable or unwilling to care for them. It's very sad for the children, and it can leave a lot of unanswered questions for them, for sure, but you're right: It's a fact of life in a real world that some kids need loving homes. I think it's wonderful that you think this way. I would LOVE to hear the actual argument for saying this is morally wrong! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jessica300	I think giving an older child in foster care a loving stable home would be a good thing. I have some very serious reservations when it comes to infant adoption in this country (and quite frankly in other countries). I feel that quite a few things that I experienced in going through the process of surrendering my infant son to adoption were unethical. There is moral and ethical responsibility for every single adult in the surrender and adoption processes, and all too often these are not upheld. Where do these fantasies of adopting - as a very young girl - come from? I really want to know. I grew up in the 70s and remember many commercials on tv that focused on sponsoring a child from overseas. At that time, and in this context it meant sending a check for 10 or 20 bucks to help a child out. You would receive a picture of the child and a little write up about him or her and their family if they were in a family and how the money helped. I wonder, were unscrupulous people making money off of the people who were sending the 10 or 20 dollars? Did people who were in charge of the sponsoring realize that they could make money in this way? (I know that I always wanted to do this. I was influenced by how the media portrayed a situation I knew nothing about.) Is this how international adoption became big business? Did these sponsoring agencies find out that there were a lot of people eager to help/save children? Did they begin to offer the children instead of pictures, at a much higher price? Your question raises some additional questions that we should all take a long hard look at, beginning with who is making money off of the sale of children. Please tell us know what influenced you as a young woman to want to adopt. I am really curious because as a woman who lost her child to domestic infant adoption here in the US I want to know what people are being told. It seems from the advertisements that there are an awful lot of rosy pictures out there, yet in reality, most women who lose a child to adoption suffer greatly for many years, no matter what country she comes from, no matter what socioeconomic background she has. How does separating mother and infant make our society stronger as a whole? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angelsfavoritemommy	You cannot just "take" children away from their birth parents. They must have been given up at birth, promised to you before birth, abandoned, or taken away due to abuse or neglect. In any one of these scenarios, you, as a person who is willing to take the child into your home and love it as you would your own biological offspring, are giving that child an amazing opportunity. A second chance at love, family, and the "normal" life that so many of them never get to experience. I have never even heard anyone say it is morally wrong to adopt, but I assure you that whoever put that thought in your head is very misguided and nobody, especially not the child you adopt, will ever think you made the wrong choice. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Glrir	Some children adopted are orphans, in which case they CAN'T go back to their parents. I think that it is fine to adopt, but having your own kids is great too :-) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

scowlcaptain	I think adopting is one of the most giving, charitable things you can do with your life. How could giving a home to a parentless child be anything but good? It seems like a worthy and commendable thing to do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Becky B	That is NOT morally wrong, it's right!!! I was adopted, and if I hadn't been, I would be living with a drug addict mother in a trailer in bum-ville. That would be fun! (NOT) and 2 more things: 1) The mothers give up their children by choice for their child and their benefit 2) Not adopted children go into foster care, which is NOT FUN!!! you move around from home to home until someone else (can't be the foster parents) adopts you. Or in the case of China, you die, or are kicked out for being to old. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

K S	Wow what an amazing question. I can understand the morally wrong aspect. People are so focused on "me, me, me" when they want a baby. After working with counselors you see both sides of adoption. It is one thing to adopt an unwanted or abused child, it is quite another to adopt an infant. I would estimate that 95% of birthmothers give up a child for financial reasons. Is it wrong to be poor? Is it okay to take advantage of the poor? Why is it wrong to sell a baby, but there is an entire economic empire built on selling babies (and yes, adoption attorneys and private adoption agencies and places like Catholic Social Services make a ton of money). Then there is the entire issue of "crisis pregnancy centers" masquerading as medical clinics, but are really evangelical church sponsored businesses persuading women to adopt instead of abort. They make up names like "post abortion syndrome", but you never hear of "post adoption syndrome". Perhaps because they drop the women as soon as they sign adoption papers? Which is more painful? To mourn the loss of what a child may have been? Or what a child actually was/is? As far as you being financially or emotionally stable enough to adopt, especially an unwanted or foster child? You are well on your way by trying to see deeper into this complex issue. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LaurieDB	It's never wrong to offer an orphan a home. It's wrong to make a business out of separating children from their families solely in order to give the child to another family for profit. If you want to adopt a child from foster care who has no family -- go for it. These children need families. Meeting with a mother who hasn't even delivered yet with the expectation that she will give you her baby is wrong. She needs the opportunity to know for sure that this is what she wants to do. This pre-birth matching business doesn't allow for that. For every first mother who truly feels she made the best decision, there is at least one who wishes she hadn't have done so. If you don't believe that, you aren't listening. The cost for adopting a child who actually doesn't have parents is very, very nominal. The cost exists with agency/attorney adoptions or with international adoptions. Adopt a child from foster care in your own country. You won't have to worry about huge expenses and you'll be doing what adoption was originally meant to do -- provide families for children without families, not provide children for people who want them. Adoption has become perverted from its original, real intent. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	If your desire is to look after a child that no longer has a home - such as one already in the foster care system - and you allow the child to know they're adopted & to know all they wish to know about their history - then the adoption is needed and warranted. This case is looking after the best interests of the child. If you wish to talk an expectant mother out of mothering her own child - solely because you think you'd be a better mother - then I disagree with your intentions. This case is looking after your own best interests. Psychologically & emotionally - a child is far better off with bio family - if no danger is imminent. Just my honest opinion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No