Is adoption an alternative to abortion?

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Agent J	It is an alternative to abortion. It may not fit for everyone, and there are certainly problems with the adoption process, but the child will be born. The problem comes with trying to decide whether the quality of life that child will have is worth saving; I don't want to start any arguments, so I won't give any opinions about the issue itself. But yes, adoption is an alternative, just the same as delivering the child and keeping it is an alternative. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

littleJaina	Adoption is not equivilant to abortion, but it is an alternative to abortion. When a girl comes up pregnant, there are three things she can do: Parent the child, Abort the fetus, Give the child up for adoption. She has to choose one of those three things. Thus, they are all alternatives. If a woman knows she doesn't want to parent, then she is left with two alternatives: Abort/Give up for Adoption. If a woman knows she wouldn't want to abort, then she is left with two options: Parent/Give up for Adoption. If a woman will not give a baby up for adoption, then she is left with only two alternatives: Abort/Parent. Thus, if you have a woman who knows she does not want to parent, then abortion and adoption are the two alternatives. They are obviously very very VERY different options, but she can do either - and if parenting is taken out of the equation (since we're talking about a woman who doesn't want to do that) then she MUST either give the baby up for adoption, or abort the fetus - since there isn't any other option once she's already pregnant. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lucy Burb	I like to think so. I can't speak for every instance, as no one faces the same issues. I have several friends who are on waiting lists to adopt, one couple have been on a list for two years. I think life is preferred to death, unless quality of life is an issue. If there are birth defects, not all, but some present awful living conditions for the baby. I think you have to present your case in order to have the pros and cons appropriately addressed. To address the comment by another poster...giving your child up is a huge gift. To love your child that much that you would give it away rather than pretend it never was, that is very hard! I knew a girl who had an abortion, and she STILL cries on the due date and the abortion date. She has a very hard time living with her decision. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tsunami	yes it is. there are so many people out there that would love to have a child they can love and bring up and this is change for you not to have an unwanted baby die for in vain. take care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Helena	Absolutly. I'm adopted. giving someone life is a wonderful thing. i would have been aborted but my birth mother chose to let me live. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JediMaster	no Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Alyssa's mommy	Let's think of it from this view: If you abort, you have to pay the bill and live with the guilt. If you give birth and give your baby up for adoption, not only will adoptive parents pay your medical bills in full, many will pay your living expenses while pregnant as well. You will have no guilt knowing that you gave a couple the most precious gift that they were desperate for. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

:]]]	no. i think adopting is even worse because you should feel gulity that you cant even take care of a mistake you did and have to hand down a baby you created. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

whatever	Peeps are going to make a decision based on MANY variables in their lives. I cannot speak for all women who have been faced with an unplanned pregnancy, but I am sure there are some women who would NEVER think of abortion, then there are women who wanted one and then changed their minds and then chose adoption, and then there are some who decided to keep their child and never considered either option. So in short, is adoption an "ALTERNATIVE" I would say for the most part probably not BUT I do see it as another "OPTION" for a woman to consider if they wanted to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Still Me	Just the facts. My answer: YES. Why do I say this? Having worked with pregnant women in PPH, hospitals, clinics and agencies for 30 years, I can tell you that of those who did choose adoption, about 60% considered abortion first! And if adoption had not been a viable, accessible option? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jaime	of course it is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bessiedarlin	What are the choices? keep the baby adopt the baby abort the baby Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

!?!pessimist!?!	no i dont think so Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

R	For some women it is. Some people who become pregant and don't want the baby consider all the all the options, abortion, adoption, keeping the baby. My friend who gave her baby up for adoption did so because she was 18 and was not ready to parent for a myriad of reasons and she did not believe in abortion. Yet another friend had an abortion because she was not ready to parent and the dad left her high and dry. She felt that adoption was not an option that the feeling of knowing that her child was out there with out her was more painful than abortion. Long story short for those who don't want to parent adoption and abortion are their options Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Look Away, I'm Hideous	it depends on how you feel about it. do you want the dad to know? is it morally wrong in your opinion? I know it is not an easy thing to deal with although i am a man. it is personal for every woman Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Adoptionissadnsick	NO I think abortion is preferable if you don't want to parent. As someone else here often says - abandonment sux. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather B	NO. They are entirely different decisions Abortion = a decision not to go through with a pregancy Adoption = a decision not to go through with parenting Huge difference Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

marilynmisfit	in most cases. but there are no absolute answers when it comes to things like that. it depends on why someone is getting an abortion in the first place. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hawaiian girl	I say no Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amyburt40	No it is not an alternative. First a woman must consent to the sex. If she gets pregnant, she must decide whether or not she wants to be pregnant. Then she must decide whether or not she wants to parent or place. Abortion is one of the frist decisions she makes in the process. After she chooses to continue the pregnancy, I would say the point is a mute one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

forever WASD	Yes it is. Even thought I support pro-choice, in my state there's a law called "safe-haven" where you can drop off an infant to any hospital to be cared for with no questions asked. The more choices the better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mommy2squee	It can be. It was for my son's mom. The problem with both of these things is that they have long reaching effects on the people whose lives they touch, that no one is ever warned about. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iyer	not at all Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sugarbritches	no, why go through the pregnancy to give up the child? You have a child out there somewhere raised by someone else? Have it(and keep it) or Don't have it at all. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rere	Alternative, yes indeed it is... A substitute no it is not. And i don't look at those as the same because adoption is another option next to abortion, however it is not a replacement. There are plenty of couples not able to have children that would love to be their with an expectant mother to see them through the process, so in my opinion it is a very good alternative to abortion. Because you can remain in contact with the family if you so choose and there isn't as much of the 'what if' factor that goes along with an abortion because there is no turning around from a decision like that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lala	I think we should all have abortions!!!!!! jk My ethics teacher said that in class as a joke to explain the extreme liberal view on abortion. I think it is an alternative but c'mon, the world is overpopulated already and let's face it, you cannot force a women to have a baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gaia Raain	Ok, just my experience...up until maybe a few months ago, this was the list of choices I heard whenever talking about unwanted pregnancy: abortion adoption figuring it out I understand (only since recently) the reasoning for believing they should not be on the same list. However, if I had gotten pregnant at, say 13 years of age, those would have been the options presented to me. I would have ruled out abortion right away because of personal beliefs, but it would have been on the list. I'm undecided right now, and I'm looking forward to the conclusion to this one! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Freckle Face	No no no! I do not like the two totally different categories being tied together. Abortion has nothing to do with Adoption Adoption has nothing to do with Abortion Its insulting. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

globar	It is an option.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Robin	To Moo, SADLY...there are far more orphans than there are (prospective) parents WILLING to adopt...(orphans, that is). In answer to your question, "Yes & No". That's fairly decisive, isn't it? At 16 when I discovered I was pregnant (despite the use of birth control), I scheduled an abortion. As an adoptee, I couldn't fathom the idea of adoption & having 2 holes in my life - not knowing my first mom & not knowing my child. In my mind, I would have had an abortion first. Her father & I decided instead to have her & get married. We never discussed adoption. Our only decision was to have her or not. The pregnancy may have been unplanned, but she was a wanted baby!! ETA: The BEST alternative to abortion is BETTER SEX EDUCATION!! Not just "egg meets sperm", or "condoms vs. pill", or "just SAY NO! : )" but real & comprehensive education that includes emotional & other consequences, birth control failure rates, VD, alternatives, how to say no, avoiding compromising situations...getting out of comprimising situations...yada yada yada...Things I WISH someone had taught ME @ 16!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Romany	I say no. If you don't look at the question with a personal agenda (pro-life, pro-choice, I would, I wouldn't, etc.) but follow the statistics in the US - the vast majority of unwed pregnancies end with either abortion or single parenting. Only a small percentage end up voluntarily relinquishing. So it seems the alternatives are abortion vs. "keeping". Relinquishing for adoption is a very distant third. For something to be an alternative - you would have to be more likely to choose B (or to choose C), if A weren't available. If abortion weren't available - would someone be more likely to relinquish or to raise the child? If adoption weren't available - would someone be more likely to abort or to raise the child? If they couldn't raise the child - would they be more likely to abort or to relinquish? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No