Im so confused about keeping or adopting!!? |
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Parents? pusshing adoption.. what should i do? |
im like 7 or 8 weeks pregnant and my mom was pushing abortion and now she is pushing adoption
idk what to do im stressing out!
im 17 ill be 18 in october and im trying not to stress
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Putting a baby up for adoption? |
Hi,
I was wondering where i could put my baby up for adoptin if my mind went that way. I'm 7 weeks pregnant tomorrow. I dunno what to do at the moment and i would appreciate it if people ... |
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Doctor refusing to provide treatment to birthmother.? |
| My OB/GYN is refusing to see me because I am considering giving my baby up for adoption and have contacted an agency who has helped me establish Medicaid coverage for the pregnancy. They have told ... |
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What can we do to take away the bitterness? |
I have noticed that there are some people in this area of Y!A that just have this bitterness within them, and they want nothing more than to spew it all over the rest of us.
I am not saying that ... |
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I dont know if I'll ever be okay...I gave my baby up for adoption? |
| I gave birth 5 days ago and I miss my son so much. I didn't hold him my last day at the hospital because i was afraid I'd take him and run... tomorrow I meet his new family for the first ... |
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Why, for parents, an adopted child is different than a natural child? |
Or is it the same? Additional Details i guess is not the same, but what is different ... |
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Do you believe that adoptive parents are glamorized and idealized? |
| I'm not saying they're not wonderful people. I know mine were. But to read most of the posts on this site, you would think they were Madonna incarnate. (Or at least Angelina Jolie ... |
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Birth Mom wants visit w/ 6mon. old adopted son, should we? |
| She wants the person who introduced us, who is her best friend & our babysitter, to supervise in our home, without us here. She lived w/us for 3 mon. before his birth, and broke our trust by ... |
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What is the "right" reason for someone to adopt? Is it a No Win situation for APs here? |
It seems that is wrong to want to parent a child that is not your flesh and blood(apparently it makes you a baby/child stealer).
It seems that it is wrong to want to parent if you are unable to ... |
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Can you do some kind of a like, "rent to own" with adoption? |
| My wife and I wanted to adopt, but kind of like a trial run rent to own sort of thing. Does anyone have like, a website or something?... |
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Gave up baby 7 years ago, is it okay to ask for pics? |
| the way the adoption agencys policys were at that time was you could only recieve pictures up until the 3rd year, and the adoptive parents were very open about that. (He knows all about me too) now ... |
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Let's put a different spin on it...if you were pregnant? |
| and in some financial hardship...like many, many of us have been...how would you have felt if your very best friend suggested that perhaps your child would be better off if you gave it up for ... |
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If your boss or best friend was adopting and wanted to keep it closed, etc, how would you respond? |
They wanted a closed adoption, went to catholic charities, lutheran services or whatever.
Would you quit your job?
Would you stop being friends with your best friend? A... |
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Is it ok to spank an adopted child? |
| My neighbour has a 4 yrs old boy, adopted when he was born. Occasionally she gives him a swat on the butt for bad behaviour, and normally I know that's ok but what if they're adopted? Is ... |
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Rather than adopt, would it be better to take in a young mom who doesn't have any options? |
| I've been to quite a few adoption web sites lately and several them are more anti-adoption than pro-adoption. These sites acknowledge that adoption is right for a select few, but they say it ... |
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Reading all this in the adoption section is scaring me out of adoption? |
| My husband and I have considered adopting someday, along with having our own kids. Now reading everything in this section has scared me to the point where I am thinking that I may not even want to. I... |
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Meant to be yours...??? |
| Recently on my blog an AP mentioned that her adopted child was meant to be with them. That her children, were "her" children before she "knew" them, and before their international ... |
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Abolishing adoption? |
This question is sparked from an earlier question regarding anti-adoption.
I am curious how many people here are not interested in adoption reform and would actually prefer adoption to be ... |
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Do you think this right? Is it a valid reason for adoption? |
A couple I know of said they decided to adopt because they were desperate to have a baby girl, they had 3 sons already, I assume they were unable to have any more naturally but I didn't ask. ... |
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Is abortion possible after 4 - 5 months old pregnancy without any risk ?
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banditqueen1980
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It's a bit late to be thinking about that now. I am pro-choice but to me that would be murder, it already resembles a baby. You could always adopt the baby out to somebody who can't have kids and will love it more than it sounds like you would.
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lost2day
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Well, it`s too late, consider adoption... You should have put this in another section ( health), why not contact a family that is desperately trying to have a child. Turn your sorrow into a blessing for someone else??? But I can`t see the procedure any different than giving birth to a live infant.. But there is risk in every procedure. I bet the would have to induce you and you would have to dilate like being in labor. It would take awhile, not to mention they wouldn`t be humane to the fetus either.
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momofone
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Yes "Partial birth abortions" are possible in SOME states. Why though do you see this as an option? I dont understand why you would rather go through such a gross procedure and it is very risky to you as well. Why not just place the child for adoption. Let me know if you are interested...would love to adopt!!
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kitty917
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just have the baby and set it up for adoption.
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Jamie
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Why don't you just stick it out another 4 months ? Adoption seems more humane at this point.....
Partial birth abortion is the only option now.... might as well deliver it on time.
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vmarie84
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Why would you do that? At that age a lot of the baby has formed already. I'm sorry, but I think that's terrible. I hope you think hard about that. When you see that lifeless baby that they take out of you, you will never be able to change your mind.
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redpeach_mi
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no, there is very high risk. i'm not sure about it, but after that long, you would almost need a medical reason to abort the child. there are only certain states that will do it. i know kansas is one of them. the process takes 2 days, assuming you have no complications. the first day they insert this little thing to open your cervix. the procedure is the following day. it's pretty expensive, somewhere around $700.
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Let me just say that while I don't know much about the specifics of your question, I do know about abortion, at 17, I had one, I'm now 42, and not one day goes by that I do not think of it and regret it and miss that baby, don't do it, you'll never forgive yourself for it. Trust me. Take it from someone who knows.
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the Vampire Claudia
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Why did you not decide on this about three months earlier?
FYI, at this stage of pregnancy, the fetus is considered viable and no doctor will touch you. Stick it out the extra four months and (if you absolutely have to) leave the hospital after giving birth and never look back. Safe haven laws were created for irresponsible women like you.
And I should also mention that the fetus will feel pain. Not right, not right at all. I am pro choice, but not this far along.
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TARAJA
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Hi
really ..this is the adoption section...you might be writing and thinking of adoption. im sure that would be the only way now. But not abortion..the baby is now all formed, he suffers as you do, feels the same pain...this has been proven ...dont do it, you will regret it for life. im telling you for your own sake! and the poor baby
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grapesgum
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Please get in touch with a clinic in your area and get real medical advice.
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結縁 Heemei
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Why would you post this question on adoption??
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BlueBlue
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there is no abortion after 14 weeks...legally.
dude.
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~Jessica~
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The fetus is located via ultrasound, which serves to guide the entrance of forceps into the mother’s womb. A foot is grasped and the fetus is placed into a face-down breech (feet first) delivery position.
The fetus is then pulled out of the uterus, but keeping the head still inside the mother’s cervix. Surgical scissors are then inserted into the skull at the back of the neck and an opening is thus enlarged to allow placement of a large-bore suction catheter attached to high powered suction. The fetal brain is then suctioned out of the fetal cranial vault. The fetus is now dead and the delivery is completed.
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beaut
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WHY DONT YOU GO ONTO GOOGLE AND PUT IN ABORTION IMAGES AND SEE EXACTLY WHAT THEY HAVE TO DO TO YOUR CHILD AT THIS STAGE!!
ITS A BABY NOW NOT MUCH SMALLER THEN FULL TERM!! THEY CALL IT A SILENT SCREAMER !
Have it adopted at least give it that chance!!
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Diva In New York
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I dont know I have never had one but thats pretty sick to want to end the life of a perfectly formed baby and your in the adoption section . why not let one of these fine people raise it.
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At that stage of pregency abortion should only be an option if there is major risk to mothers and or babys life. The unborn child(thats what it is , a tiny human life) already has a heartbeat,limbs,facial structer and many other very real alive qualities.Any abortion at this stage will be very risky to the woman and is basicly induced labor whereas the fetus will die during bith or just after due to undeveloped vital organs.Surely adoption is an option worth considering rather than being responcible for ending the life you are carrying in your womb. You most likely will hate yourself in the future at some time. THINK ABOUT IT. You should have done it in first 3 months before the heart developed if you intended not to have it.Or better still use contraception.
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confusionismynickname
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i think there would be risks..but at 4-5 months the fetus aleady looks like a real baby,you know that i mean? im 5 months pregnant and when i first got my sonnogram,i was shocked at how baby-like it is now..if you want to have an abortion,it's your choise,and i know you're not asking for my opinion but why dont u think about it long and hard? think about what you would feel years from now when you look back to it. just a suggestion..but really,there would be health risks,i would think,if you get an abortion now..but it's still possible..
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Seems to be a bit late to consider abortion at 5 months! Consider carrying full term and adoption. Talk to someone locally, I'm sure you will be able to figure something out.
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Honey Bee
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Don't you think it's alittle late to be considering this? Are you aware how much the fetus resembles a human by now? Don't do it! (Unless it's medically necessary.)
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yeehaneeha
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Please consider going full term and just placing the child. At least you wouldn't be murdering a baby! I'm a birthmom and I am so glad I didn't even consider abortion. Do you know how much it looks like a person? It's almost to the point that it could survive. Please consider adoption!
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dumplingmuffin
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no the risk is very high
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Patriotic Latter Day Saint
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i know people who have been adopted and are grateful. it sounds like someone here had a bad experience, but that's not everyone. the death the baby suffers at this point is very painful. their hearts race when it happens. my neighbor delivered at 5 months and her little boy is totally healthy. i know it is rare to deliver that early with out problems, but it's possible so abortion can't be justified. please consider letting someone who can't have one of their own love yours.
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Crucio
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wow you should have thought about this before you got so far a long. There are always risks in any medical procedure. Why did you post this in adoption, it should have gone in medical health or something.
Roughly 4month baby in womb
http://www.3dpregnancy.com/static/pregnancy-week-16.html
Roughly 5monthy baby in womb
http://www.3dpregnancy.com/static/pregnancy-week-20.html
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tish
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most states will not perform a legal abortion past 24 weeks. and the risks associated with the procedure increase with the length of time you are pregnant.
please get in touch with a family planning center, like planned parenthood or your local health department's family planning clinic to assist you with your options.
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iluvnurd
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why oh why oh why would you ask a question like that in the ADOPTION section? People here are either adopted, birthparents, or looking to adopt. As an adoptee, I'm honestly insulted. Half of the people on here are desperatly wanting a baby, and you come asking how to kill one?
If you had done your research, you'd know that after the first trimester, abortion becomes increasingly cruel and painful. By 5 months, the baby is too big to simply suck out.
Look up partial birth abortions, saline solution, and dilation/curettage. I'm going to go into graphic detail here, but you asked for information. If you dont want to know or you cant handle it, dont read any farther.
Partial birth involves delivering everything but the head of the baby, inserting sissors into the neck, and using a high power vacuum to suck the brains out of the live child. Saline solution involved injecting the amniotic sac with saline, which burns the outer layers of flesh off the child. You'll feel it thrashing around inside you while, at this gestation, while its dying. Dilation and curettage is when the doctor uses an instrument that looks like pliars to rip off parts off the child. They fish around until they find a body part, twist, and out it comes. Eventually they get most of the baby out, but sometimes they accidently leave pieces behind.
It has been recorded that sometimes a baby survives the abortion. Sometimes the doctor slips during a partial birth and accidently delivers the whole baby. When this happens, its a huge liability to the clinic. Doctors have been caught beating newborns to death with medical instruments, placing them in trash bags to suffocate, tossing them in buckets of water to drown, and leaving them alone in closets for hours without medical attention until they die. Go read the book Lime 5, its full of documented cases such as this.
Since you asked how long an abortion takes, Im assuming that you dont want to be bothered by a long proceedure. You think that having something forcibly removed from your womb is a quick, easy thing? Women have been maimed and killed during abortion. Again, read Lime 5.. Potential problems can include have baby bits left behind in your uterus, which can lead to life threatening infection. Also, having your uterus punctured by the scapel or by bits of sharp bone. If the abortionist doesnt notice, its possible to have your intestines sucked out through the vacuum. It's happened many times in the past and will happen many times in the future.
If you're already 5 months pregnant, you're probably showing. Why not give your child a chance at life? I think its a little bit careless to wait until 5 months gestation to get an abortion. 4 months from now, you can give a childless or infertile couple the baby that they want so badly. If you dont want it, someone else will take it into their home and do the very best they can.
Did you know that sometimes babies are born at 23 or 24 weeks and survive? The official age of viability, I belive, is 26 weeks, but babies have been known to survive as young as 20 weeks, though admittedly, that is rare. It is quite common now for a 24 weeker to survive and grow into a completely healthy child.
I have a feeling that I'm going to get all kinds of negative rating, which is fine with me. Anyone can google the different types of abortion. I know that they're is some controversy over when an unborn child begins to feel pain, but if you look at pictures of aborted babies, you'll see. You can actually watch videos of abortions being performed. You can watch an ultersound while an abortion is performed. Look at the baby while its being killed and tell me it doesnt hurt. Either way, most experts agree that an unborn child can feel pain by 5 months.
So hate me if you want. I've done my research and I know my stuff. If you dont want to know, dont ask next time.
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tat2mom1
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I don't know the answer to your question. I would like to believe it is not legal. If you don't want your baby, contact me!!! My husband and I want to adopt, we have a 3 yr old and I am not able to have anymore children. We would love to take this blessing off your hands!!!
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Heather B
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Why is this in the adoption section?
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My3Boys
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In most places, by that point it can be illegal, and disgusting.
Of course there's risk.
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HooKooDooKu
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There is no such thing as a medical procedure without risk.
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Michelle
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Abortion without any risk? Risk of what? Death? Yes, your child will die. The risk of death to your baby is 100%. The abortionist will locate the child by listening for a heartbeat to confirm that there is a living baby and then kill it.
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