Im pregnant and 17 and i want 2 know if im making the right decision, by giving it 2 adoption?

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Katie G	I had a baby when I was 17 and giving her up for adoption was the best decision I ever made. I'm in an open adoption and I am still able to see her and she knows I'm her birth mother. It will be difficult but giving your baby what you can't is the ultimate sacrifice. And sacrifice is what parenthood is about. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

World_Traveler	ABSOLUTELY! You are doing the BEST thing for your child. Remember, although most of the other answers forgot this, this is not about you! It's what is right for the child. The best situation for a kid is to be raised by a 2-parent family. Adoption is the most unselfish thing you can do. It might be nice and happy and cute for you to have a kid, but that is not the ideal for a kid to be raised by a mom who is on welfare and every government program imaginable, and who dumps him in daycare 10 hours a day so she can work 2 jobs! You need a LOT of support to raise a kid and you have a lot more growing up to do. But-make your decision and stick to it. Don't change your mind after the adoptive family already has the child. That is cruel and I have seen it happen way too many times and it's devastating to the family. You are being loving and compassionate to your child! You go girl! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dark_Fire_Angel	Hey girl this might not be the best advice and i'm sure i'm ganna get plenty thumbs down for this but that's ok cause you wanted advice. I'm a birthmother who has a open adoption and ppl on here when they say its a gamble they are right its up to the a parents whether or not contact. I have contact with my little girl who has some awsome parents. If you have no help besides your bf then yeah there is fincail help but it's not lasting. They don't look at your age they look at your income and if you and your bf get jobs and your income is higher than what is the reqiurment then you got no help anymore. Wic only lasts until your baby turns two. People say oh your not going to be broke forever well my mom was a single parent and we arn't broke but yeah we still stuggled even when i hit 18. I'm not trying to scare you into adoption and saying you cant do this you very well could. But if you and your bf are going to do this then you need to look at what you can and cannot have because once you have a baby your life if not your own every choice your make is for your baby. They need more than love and acceptance they need food shelter and medical help because trust me daycare costs about what you'd make a burger king a week and with all those kids there your childs ganna get sick. Mines 2 and so far she had to have 3 surgurys and she has this constant running nose from daycare. Again it's all about your choices if you both choose to parents thats great adoption is not for everyone i just wanting to give you the facts on what being young parents can be it can be rewarding but its alot of work and its a never ending job. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowrocks	If you cant keep it then don't. making it have a miserable life with two teenagers is not the best life i think. if you want to keep the baby keep it. its your choice. good luck and sorry about no family support you need them the most now. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Monica	I think that with all the options available out there through social services you might want to consider keeping your baby, however the only right answer is in your heart. You also might want to consider and open adoption which is where you will still be a part of the babies life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

coleblondehead	You will get a lot of different opinions here, some people will say its ok, other people will judge you, the fact remains that if you yourself feel that you are not ready to be a mother and not ready for the commitment its better to give child to couple who will open their hearts and completely devote themselves to this child, I know this is not the easy way out, but as a mother of a 18 yr old with 2 yr old child I can tell you I see my daughter trying to make it, she couldnt do it by herself, so she left the child to me and shes going to school but kids today sometimes dont have parents to support them. If after you weigh all your options and you see that the babieslife will be different, have you talked to your parents about what youre thinking? Are there even parents in your life? Consider all of the option before making any decisions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cats3to2	I'm begging you. DON'T DO IT. It's something you will regret for the rest of your entire life. It's not too late to say no. You and your baby are bonded to each other. You are your babies entire world. That child will NEVER recover from the loss of YOU. YOU will never stop grieving for that child you lost. It's not what's best for the baby. What's best for the baby is to be raised by you. Look into WIC. Look into Food stamps, welfare, anything you can get to help you. Try to find other young moms who can tell you what help is out there. Read Primal Wound by Nancy Verier and see how damaging adoption is to you and your child. I've been through this. I was brainwashed. I thought my child needed the things money could buy. NOT TRUE. I thought my son needed 2 parents. NOT TRUE. I thought it was selfish to keep him. NOT TRUE. My boyfriend and I had no jobs and we had no family support. And I'm telling you, living in a shelter with your child would be better than losing him/her. You CAN raise your child. And you never know, people may step up to help you once they realize you need help. Good luck and I hope you are spared the grief that many woman have been coerced to live through by losing their children to adoption. And honey just look at all the thumbs downs that people advocationg adoption have gotten. It's because we have lived through it and know how awful most adoptions are. We know the lies about adoption aren't true. You are what's best for your baby. You really are. And your baby is what's best for you too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nameless	Obviously you don't have a great situation now, I would ask what your prospects look like a few years from now. Are you likley to be able to go to college and get a good job in the future? Or even finish highschool and get a decent job? I would suggest you try to parent for a few weeks after the child is born and make the decision then. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tam	You need to do what is right for you and your boyfriend. Nobody can make that decision for you. Giving a child up for adoption is not an easy way out, either. That is a difficult decision to make. I am an adoptive mother and I cannot imagine loving a child more. If you choose adoption, I am sure your baby will be loved and cared for in a wonderful way. Should you choose to keep your baby, it will be hard but you could do that, too. The choice really has to be yours. Best wishes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

luvnreggaeton	Okey well i know it would be hard without getting no support from your family that dont mean you have to adop the baby i mean your the mother of the baby ... your going to reget the moment you do it plus you'll stilll have the memory of this child.. wel its really your choice but if i were you i would keep it .. cause i know that its not the right answer for everything but just think it all through .. i know you want a better life for your baby that dont mean you got to adopt your child.. you and your boyfriend at lest should get a job and start getting everything ready for your new baby .. you can make the baby happy .. trust me i seen my friend who wanted to have a abotion and yeh she actully reget it noww.. she is still looking for her child .. noww but she cant find her .. she was forced to give the baby she had away .. DONT do it .. just trust me man the baby would make you happy .. she or he would be the best thing that happens to you .. you wont get suport now from your family cause they might think you wont handle this rightt... but you will.. you'll love the child man .. when they see you doing all the best you could with the child they will start suporting you .. you just have to work a little hard to achieve what you want to get out off it ... Abortion is not the right answer... you want to keep it so you should.. just think how you can make your baby happy and you could be happy to .. your family could start loving the baby man .. Hope you do the right thing.. im sorry if this wasnt the answer you were looking for.. All the best x x xx Peace out x x x x Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Philippa	Just because you're not well off doesn't mean you both can't both be good parents. The most important things in your baby's life are his/her natural parents, love, being in a safe home and being with good role models. Check out what you are entitled to before deciding to surrender your child. If you decide adoption is the best option do your research first including finding out from natural mothers how the implications of surrendering your child will affect you. I have friends who chose adoption and it does affect them even though it was their choice. Anniveraries (sp) such as birthdays and Mothers Day are hard and they know they are missing out on so much not seeing their children grow up even though they are in semi open and open adoptions. One friend even had her adoption closed so she has been fighting to get it reopened again. I would discuss what I went through but I was coerced and my son's adoption was closed. What I would say is it did ruin my life as I never had more child due to infertility (issue with dh) and treatment didn't work. I suffer with depression and PTSD due to what happened and the lies are still coming out 27 years later that were used to push his adoption through. We have been in reunion for 4 1/2 years and he's lived with us over two years now but this will never replace the 23 years I missed out on. Btw the before anybody gives me negative points and accuses me of being bitter I'm not and I use my negative adoption experience in a positive way by being supportive towards other people. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

evilgirlia	It is truly your choice. But it is really a cruel thing to leave your baby for adoption When he/she is old enough to know the truth, they will feel unspeakable anger in their hearts. I didnt feel this but I know what its like because my older sister was given away. As soon as I knew this I started hating my mom. Now everything is ok but my sister is still pretty mad. I think it will be a lifelong regreat to give he/she to an adoption center. You dont need money. Just Love. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tish_part deux	realize that you have no control over what life your child will have once you relinquish. people lie all the time about what they have. also adoptive parents divorce, forclose on homes, get laid off... and OPEN ADOPTION IS NOT LEGALLY ENFORCEABLE. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ks4am	i was given up at 3months old and i think what your doing is a massive decision that only you and your bf but primerily you can make! The fact that you have not got rid of your baby is very thoughtful for human life - im pro choice b4 anyone asks! But u have massive decisions to concider and i dont think you should let anybody influence you as the lady said up above you will have to live with it forever and your child will also have to live with it forever Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Faith	Can you offer this baby your love?can you offer this baby your dedication?adoption is not the easy way out i don't think that giving up your child would tear your heart out in the most brutal way possible.you have not given birth yet but trust me on that one we're talking true heartache here that i doubt would ever go away.you obviously are being totally unselfish by thinking what's best for your baby but what makes you think you won't make it as a parent?adoption is an option yes but you should really look at it from all angles as once you have given your child up you won't be able to get him/her back and you may regret your decision.i have heard of people pining for their child for the rest of their lives after giving their child up.they just did not realise the enormity of what they were doing at the time.help is available don't think you'll be alone you will be able to turn to your health visitor for advice if you have trouble coping you can recieve support your health visitor may be able to arrange for someone to come each day to help you.but you may not need it.you may thrive on loving your child.i'm not saying it would be easy at times it will be hell but your little ones smiles will see you through.circumstances won't be ideal but you may recieve financial benefits.don't feel guilty about that you're pregnant now take any benefits offered you will need it.you will probably have a rough few years but then you will get back on your feet and you will have a beautiful child to be proud of.your parents may support you.maybe they say the won't at the moment but you wait untill they meet their grandchild.of course if you want to adopt then you are very brave i know it wouldn't be a decision you came to lightly and make sure you recieve counselling afterwards don't keep everything bottled up inside.you may regret adoption for the rest of your life but the chances of you regretting keeping your child despite the odds are slim. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

celtic.piskie	Honestly...... I'd rather have my mother than be rich. In time, you will get jobs. I have no family, and still, my daughter is the best thing that happened to me. It will be hard.... But personally,. I'd rather have my mother any day, than more money. Please do whatever you can, and you can be a good mother. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Daisey Duck	I think you need to give it some more thought. You say you do want to keep it. So before you make any decision talk to social services and see what kind of assistance you can get to help you. You can get help for medical bills, wic for formula, milk and other things. Your parents will probably come around after the baby is born. A lot of parents just kinda freak out when they find out their baby is pregnant, cause it isn't the future they saw for them, but once they see their grand baby their hearts usually melt. You're only 17, you won't be without a job forever. Your boyfriend can get a job to help out with some of the things the baby will need. It is totally your decision on what you do, just make sure it is what you want to do. Social services can give you information about adoption also, along with information on assistance you can get if you decide to keep the child. And no giving the child up is not the easy way out. It will be one of the hardest things you will ever do. Keeping the child isn't going to be easy either especially in the beginning but that will even out over time. All parents have an image of how they want their child's life to be, but if you ask most will tell you that it usually isn't the rosy picture they imagined, Just check into some of these things before you decide which way you want to go. Then you will be more able to make a decision that is right for you and the baby. good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anha S	I got pregnant at 17, had my eldest after I turned 18. Its not easy, I won't lie. Its even harder when you have a limited support system. But its very doable. I managed to get 2 degrees and raise my girls at the same time. There are resources out there available to you, and you have been given some great links about the effects of adoption on first moms and their babies. Remember, adoption is different, not better. I grew up just as destitute as I would have in my first family. Add in an amom with emotional problems and an absentee adad, and theres a definite mix for different not better. Should you choose to raise your baby, you CAN do it, don't let anyone make you feel like you can't or shouldnt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP	Ok, I just want you to know that I kow how you feel, I have been there. I was 19 when I got pregnant and I had my son one month before I turned 20. I am certainly not trying to be rude, but I must wonder, why are you wanting to relinquish you child? Unless there is abuse or neglect, there is no reason for an adoption to occur. Is it because you are single? So am I, and let me tell you, it is NOT as bad as people make it out to be. Now, I DO have the support of my family, and that helps a ton, but I am still the one that provides the support for my son, I am the one that raises him, and I wouldn't have it any other way. If you are wanting a "Two parent home" for your child? Remember, that the divorce rate is out of control, and more than likely, your child will end up being raised by a single parent anyway. Then what? You loose a child, your child looses his heritage (and YOU, which is all he really wants anyways) all for a situation which is no better than he would have had anyways REMEMBER! You will not always be single! THIS IS TEMPORARY!!! Is it because you are young? Honestly, people used to have children at 16 ROUTINELY and did a great job with them. It is an extreamly new development that women wait untill their 30's to have children. I am 21 now, and let me tell you, I am a wonderful mother. I love my son more than anything. Age is only a number, you CHOOSE to be a good or bad parent! REMEMBER! You will not always be young! THIS IS TEMPORARY!!! Is it because you are in school? So am I. I am in Nursing School. I go to school at night, so my mom or my aunt can watch Jayden. Going to school while being a mom is not that bad. So you have to move your schedual around a little, so what? I promise, it pays off in the end. Being a mom is SOOOO much more fun than getting drunk every weekend at a frat house. And guess what, you can STILL party sometimes, you just find a babysitter for the night. I have never met a woman that became a mother and COMPLETELY gave up having a little fun every once in a while. REMEMBER! You will not always be in school! THIS IS TEMPORARY!!! Is it because you don't think that you will be able to support the child? I thought that too. I had to move back in with my Mom, I got on Medicaid, WIC, and other government programs. You will get AWESOME scholarships and Grants for having a child. I will end up oweing next to nothing for school. You child does't want a fancy nursery, name brand clothes, and a trust fund, he wants YOU! You are ALL that he knows, and ALL that he wants. A baby is accutely aware of who his mother is immediatly after birth. This is the modern world, people will NOT allow you and you child to go without basic necessities. There are second hand stores that have REALLY cute stuff for next to nothing. REMEMBER! You will not always be struggling! THIS IS TEMPORARY!!! I really hope you do your research (and that does NOT mean asking adoption agencies what they think, they make money from separting you from your child) I also hope that you do not make a decision untill after your baby is born. There is NO rush, why don't you try to parent him for a while? At least then you will know... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shannon	A friend of my youngest brother "just" went through this. His friend and his g/f are terrorized by this.. The father is mad because he will never see his kid again (and he never legally signed his rights away) and he is depressed because his g/f is really really tormented every single day because of this. It does not go away... ever. You can hold and hide the pain within, but you can never let it go. So many people outside of you and your boyfriend will be affected negatively because of this. Most importantly, the baby, he or she will always wonder why you didn't want him. Because that is what adoption is for - unwanted children. Then the grandparents will be affected on both sides, even though they may seem cold now, they will be affected. Then your future "biological" grandchildren will be affected. And your future son or daughter in law. There is a very small chance that you will ever see the child again as open adoption is not enforceable. There are many ways they can be affected. It is hard to give your baby up, and if it is hard then you should not be doing it. Adoption is for unloved and unwanted children. If it is hard, then that must mean you love your child and want your child. Why give your baby away and tell him from birth he or she is unwanted if you love him or her? There is help out there, get it. Use that help to get yourself out of this jobless situation, finish school and go to college and get a career. You can do this with a child. There are no guarantees that life will be a picnic with another family. Divorce and job loss happen all the time. Heck, your child can be the sole reason divorce occurs and then the child may end up being resented. Or your child could be abused, happens all the time. Remember that your situation is not unique. Many girls have done it and done it well. You are already showing that you can be a good mom already worrying over providing the best. And you can provide the best even in your situation. Just try. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bash	Depends. By 'no family support' do you mean that your family will hate and never accept this child, or that they are just angry and hurt and sad that you got pregnant. Unless your parents are unimaginably cruel, I can't believe that they would never love or accept their own grandchild. You say you don't have jobs. Are you willing to get jobs? Are you willing to sacrifice some of your free time in order to support this child? As for the 'better life' scenario, just know that your child wants TWO things out of life: To be loved and accepted by his/her mommy and daddy. All other items are unnecessary. If you can provide acceptance, if you can provide love--and love means sacrificing your own wants and needs for your child in this case--then there is no reason for you to give your child over to someone else just for a 'better life'. 5 years from now, you could be married, with a great job and with a supportive family, while the potential adopters of your child could be laid off, fighting constantly, and taking their frustrations with each other out on your child. I'm not saying that is what will happen...I am saying that the notion that your child will absolutely have a 'better life' with someone other than you and his/her father is a false premise. I wish you well and I sincerely hope you know that your parents will love your child.....they may not like your choices....they may not be initially happy with your decision, but there is little chance of them abandoning their grandchild. If they do, on the off chance, decide to not recognize or support you and your child, good riddance....and contact your local Dept of Social Services. They will help you with food staples, medical care for your child, and even day care vouchers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

<3 Hello Seattle Skyline™ &lt	Whatever you feel like doing in your heart. Don't let know one say other wise. But seriously consider all the options. And REALLY think about it before you do it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mei-Ling	What CAN you give your baby? What current possibilities do you have? As opposed to what you can't? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

FlutterMeBy	Adoption is a PERMANENT solution to a TEMPORARY problem. You and your boyfriend can both get jobs and get fiancial help to care for your baby. People automatically assume that adoption= better life. Both of my girl cousins got pregnant as teens. One 15 and the other 17. Both worked and both had support from their boyfriends. The 15 year old actually married the father( court+ parental permission). I'm not saying its not hard- raising a child, no matter the age is hard but you could try. If you find that no matter how hard you tried then maybe adoption. Just know this, even if its an "open adoption" that does not mean that child will even know he/she is adopted. You can't undo adoption. Adoption is permanent. My mother was down on her luck, she was married but unemployed. She fell pregnant. She tried, honestly she did. She ended up getting a job( my father already had one but not enough to support another child) but something happened and she lost the job. She decided to give her baby up for adoption- about 9 months after the birth. She regrets it to this day. Her luck changed and she didn't know it at the time but if she went back within 60 days she could have gotten my sister back. Thanks to that, I lost a sibling. She don't even know she's adopted. Her adoptive parents haven't told her and I doubt they will. She's 22 now for goodnes sakes. She should be told because of our medical history I HAD to have it with my pregnancy. What if something happens and they realize they don't have the necessary info? Adoption isn't an easy way out, not when you are giving up your baby on your own. My mom did it out of love and the misconception that her life wouldn't change for the better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Robin	I am a former "teen" mom. My daughter was born 6 weeks after my 17th birthday. I finished high school mid-term my senior year. We married, but divorced after 18 months. At 18, I was on my own with our daughter. I had no help from my parents. And for several years, I had no contact with my family either. Her dad & I never considered giving her up for adoption. As an adoptee, I didn't want 2 holes in my life - not knowing my birth mom & not knowing where my child is. I also didn't want my daughter to grow up wondering why her mother gave her up; or if her mother didn't love her enough to keep her (as I grew up wondering). Nor did I want to wonder if her adopted mom was abusive like mine was. However, when her dad & I divorced, my a.mom tried to convince me to relinquish my then 1 year old. When I refused, she tried to have her taken away from me. That's why I cut them from my life for many years. I went back to community college on my own. Graduated. And have been able to support myself & my kids well since. It was a struggle for a couple of years. On the other end, when my daughter was graduating high school & I was off on vacations, my friends kids were starting kindergarten. You may not be able to give your child the life you imagined RIGHT NOW. In a couple of years you will. Your child won't remember the first couple of years. Your child will always miss YOU if you relinquish. Adoption is no guarantee that your child will have a perfect home with perfect parents, free from abuse or divorce or financial trouble. Today, my daughter is an amazing woman with her own business, a loving wife & mother to 2 of my beautiful grand kids. I have the sheer joy of watching them grow, of playing with them. Of getting to KNOW their personalities as they develop. I don't have to get to know my daughter as a grown up. I already know her. I watched her grow up. I wasn't a perfect mom. She didn't have piano lessons & gymnastics. She went to summer camp & played volleyball and graduated with honors & went to college in Ireland for a year b/c she figured out how to do that on her own. We did OK. It wasn't the life I imagined at all. It's been better than anything I could have dreamed of! Read the book The Girls Who Went Away by Ann Fessler. I found it in my local library. You have time to think this through. It's not irresponsible to parent your child! Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Felicita1	If you want to keep your baby, then NO you are not making the right decision. Age is not a barrier to being a good mother. Plus there ARE a lot of supports and resources out there that will help you achieve much in life: in fact, did you know that mothers who have and raise their children while young (i.e. like you) do as well if not better than if they postponed childbearing? Read the latest research that supports teen mothers. You do not know you won't be able to give your baby the life you want. Many 17 yr old mothers do. Colleges have scholarships for single parents, on-campus daycares, parent resource centers -- and if your highschool does not have an on-site daycare and other family-friendly features such as parenting classes for credit then you should consider switching schools. Has anyone told you about the trauma that comes from surrendering a baby for adoption? Even if you feel it is "what you need to do" for your baby, the trauma and loss can be crippling. PTSD, severe depression, a 50% chance of grief/loss that does not diminish over years or decades, secondary infertility: Women were not meant to give away babies they love and want. The only situation where giving away your baby makes sense is where the mother neither wants nor loves her baby despite having ALL access to all the resources she needs. And yes, this can happen -- 2% was what one survey showed. If you need help in accessing resources you need -- resources that older moms take for granted -- just ask! PM or email us. Many of us moms here can help you find help in your community. The bottom line is that if you want to keep your baby, you can and your baby can have everything you want him to have if you work hard at it. If you have access to your school's database for science articles, I have 3 references below of recent research articles that fully support teen parenthood. The recent research is showing that the stigma against teen moms has no validity. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aloha.girl59	My opinion is that you and your bf should find jobs and support your child together. You will not always be 17. You will not always be broke. But if you surrender your child to adoption, you will always wonder what he is doing, how he is, and if his family is taking good care of him. "Adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." In this case, the temporary problem is your lack of income. That WILL change. You won't be young and broke forever. I'm a single mom. It's hard raising a child by myself but it's also wonderful! My son is the best person in my life and he makes me happy every single day. He also frustrates me and drives me nuts sometimes. Whose kids don't? But trust me: you'd rather be driven crazy by your baby than give it away. And don't listen to the person who suggested open adoption. Though it's a lovely concept, it's not legally enforceable. That means that if the baby's adoptive parents suddenly decide that they don't want you in the child's life anymore, they can move away and stop all contact and you're stuck. You have no legal leg to stand on because the law says that YOUR baby belongs to them. Pretty sucky, huh? I know you want to give your baby the best of everything. That's admirable. But do you know what your baby will want more than anything else when he's older? YOU. He'd rather have you than a pool, a stable full of horses, fancy vacations to exotic places, and every video game system imaginable. YOU are his mom and he will want to be with YOU. Keeping your child and parenting him isn't selfish; he's YOUR baby! You don't owe him to anyone, regardless of how much they want children and how long they've tried to conceive. I know I'm just a faceless person on the internet and you don't know me. So just think about this: before you make any huge decisions, concentrate on your pregnancy. You want to have a healthy baby, right? Eat right and be healthy and give birth. Once you do that, hold that baby in your arms and see if you can really let him go. If it makes you sad to even think about it then, imagine how difficult it would be a year down the road when he's taking his first steps and you're not there. Or 7 years down the road when he learns to ride a two wheeler...then drive a car...go on dates...get married. You want to be there for those events, right? Do what you need to do now so that you can successfully parent and support your child. Contact agencies about receiving WIC and food stamps if you qualify. There IS help out there for you...you just have to take it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwillow20	I see all the " I think adoption is right " people are giving advice, and I'll bet not one of them has given a baby up. Well, I have and it is harder than you can imagine and it doesn't really ever get better. It's a pain that you can't recover from. It is your decision but make sure you talk to lots of first moms and ask them how they cope, year after year without their babies. Open adoption is not legally enforceable. That means if the aparents promise you can see your baby, they don't have to abide by it. There are services out there that you can apply for. Ask for help from your extended family. Good luck with whatever you choose. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lori A	I just don't want people to think I'm taking the easy way out. Oh your not. This is by no means the easy way. What you are about to do has major back lash for what seems like (and possibly could be) eternity. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nolan and Evelyn Mommy	Im 17 and just had twins 6 weeks ago, my BF is still with me and we are getting married in June. I don't think you should because at first my mom wanted me to give them up for adoption but now they are the love of her life mine, my BF and dads. Not to mention my Bfs mom and dad. I would suggest getting a job and trying to support the baby. You made the baby and you should have known the consequences when you had sex. REALLY THINK about what you are going to do!!!! E-mail me if you have any other questions i would be happy to help!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cantstopLinnyG	A baby only want his or her real Mother. Not things. Just YOU. You can get a job. You cannot get your baby back. Ever. The pain will never go away for you, or for your baby. Please go to these links to see how adoption can affect your baby and you. And do NOT email anyone who contacts you. They do not want what's best for you, they only want YOUR baby. Many women are young mothers, and are GREAT mothers. http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_facts/adoption_coercion.html http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org http://www.origins-usa.org http://www.motherhelp.info/index.htm http://www.babyscoopera.com http://www.keepyourbaby.com http://www.cubirthparents.org/edd/index.... http://www.thegirlswhowentaway.com/ http://www.nancyverrier.com/pos.php http://www.youtube.com/user/adoptedthemovie Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No