If a woman is capable of having her own children why would she adopt a baby?

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Ruthie	would you rather the child grow up in an abusive home? Where they won't be cared for or loved? Or would you rather the child go to a home where a woman can do good, maybe she just hasn't found the right guy to be the father of her child yet or as someone else said, she could have something genetic she wouldn't want to pass down on to her child. Most CHOOSE to put their child up for adoption and the only ones forced are the ones abusing the child so the birth-mothers rights aren't being taken away they are being given up (which is why it's called 'give up for adoption' not 'taken for adoption') Call me crazy but I'd choose the loving mother birth or not rather than the abusive one who didn't really want the child in the first place. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ouida B	First, you show your ignorance on this subject. No offense. I have a biological daughter and I adopted one. Why? Because I felt the need to share what we have to a needy child. Because we are our "brother's keepers". Because God would approve of it. If you'd seen abused children, like I have, you'd learn to respect and appreciate a girl/woman who knows she cannot provide for her baby or knows she's abusive and chooses to give her child up for adoption. What resources exist to help a girl/woman to raise a child until 18 or older? What if the child is special needs? What resources are YOU willing to provide? It's obvious that you are not a parent and have no clue of what it takes to raise a child. You must live in a friggin cave not to know that there are literally thousands of children that are not wanted and are abandoned. Do you really think there are more kidnapped children placed for adoption than unwanted? NO, YOU DO THE RESEARCH. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GlassHalfFull	The research you have done must be old, or about another country. The vast majority of domestic adoptions in the US are not because the birth mom didn't love the baby. If they didn't love the baby, they wouldn't care what happened to it. Rather, birth parents that decide to make an adoption plan get to hand pick a person or couple to adopt their child. The birth parents get to make all the rules. They decide how much contact they want (and most choose at least some contact), and can choose the family dynamic, race, religion, etc. You would be surprised at the age of birth parents. Most of them are not teenagers, but rather in their 20's and often early 30's. Many of them are not single, either. Some of them are married, and some have boyfriends. Furthermore, birthparents are not pressured to 'give up' their baby. Many times, the birth parents change their minds and decide to parent. About half the people I know who have adopted had a fall-through before adopting their child. Those who go into adoption go into it knowing the risks. We don't think of it as losing a baby, we know that either way, that baby has parents who love it. If you want more up to date information, contact your local adoption agency for a list of books that have been written in the last 5 years. Adoption today is completely different than it was 10 years ago, and ignorance to this is the biggest factor that gives adoption a bad name. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cybil_Bennet	What you suggest is insane. Kids aren't stolen away to be put up for adoption. Believe me, I know so many adoptive parents and the children were given up by choice, not by force or manipulation. And yes, there is a giant surplus of homeless children, do your own research! There are thousands of kids in foster care today because of it! I think adoption fills a void in society - giving children without families a loving home. Secondly, it is illegal to offer anyone money or items in return for a baby - LOOK IT UP! when that happens, it's because the mother is exploiting the people who wish to be parents. Trust me, the laws are set up for the bio parents a lot more than anyone else - even if you sign the adoption papers in many states it's not legal for several days, weeks, or even months. Now, if someone wants to give their baby to a new family, THEY have the power to choose who that family is. And if they choose a family who already has children, that is their business, not yours. You don't know any of these women's reasons for adopting. Did you ever stop to think that they might die if they have another child? Maybe they had cancer and it would be dangerous to have a baby. Or maybe they want to grow their family by bringing in someone who may not have a home otherwise. Lives change every day, and families are all different, you have no right judging something you know nothing about. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥Tiffany♥	I understand what you are saying but you have to think about the mothers that are giving up their babies. They went in for the counseling and they decided to adopt the child out. Granted some are pushed into but so many others do it of their own freewill. Is it ridiculous how much it costs? Yes and it makes it harder for those that can't have kids but don't have thousands of dollars to hand out. I agree that system is a mess but it is for the most part a wonderful thing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rowan	Maybe genetic disorders play a part in that desicion? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Golden Buffalo	childbirth sucks Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweetm12004	Maybe her reason isnt because she doesnt feel like carrying her own baby but she wants to help the children that dont have parents who can provide for them. I think its a great thing there are so many poor children who have nobody to love them and take care of them until somebody decides to adopt them and love them just like they were their own. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Me	Because we're already overpopulated and there are children already living without parents...yeah. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather Leigh	To some girl that doesn't believe it unless she sees it.... Here is a blog listing "situations" and the prices for children. http://apathoftheheart.blogspot.com/2009/01/january-23-2009-adoption-situations.html Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Crucio	Certainly I think more people should adopt from foster care system, that said just because someone can have biological children does not mean that they have too. There could be many reasons someone who can have biological children might choose to adopt or even do both (have biological children and adopt as well). Our world is already overpopulated and if someone would like to adopt a child/baby that is already here instead of bringing another being into this already overpopulated world all the power to them. Perhaps they have a medical condition they don’t want to pass on. I know a couple the husband had this illness crones (sp) he had to have a bag put on for his waste, his brother, father, grandfather, uncles all have this condition so they (he and his wife) decided they did not want to risk it passing on to a child so they choose not have biological children. So if they ever do have kids they will adopt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MamaBear	I don't think it's any of my business to make judgements on what a woman should or should not do with her body. There's a case to be made that a woman who adopts a child who needs a home is actually providing more of a needed service than simply adding to the gene pool. "A woman shouldn't be counseled into giving the baby up but rather the resources to keep her baby." By resources, you mean my tax money. Do you also mean, we should provide the baby with a father, too, so they will have the advantage of a two-parent household? By resources, you mean I should pay to provide child care while the mother continues with her schooling? I should pay to provide medical care for the baby? Why should MY resources go to bail out an irresponsible teenager especially those that have multiple kids with different fathers before the age of 19? I have other charities that I feel are more deserving, and my own family to support -- I shouldn't be in a position to support their irresponsible behavior, too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PJ	The article doesn't say a thing about women adopting babies because they don't want to carry their own. Adoption is what it is. Young women get pregnant and don't feel they can keep their baby. Someone else wants a baby and adopts it. There is no reason to require someone to throw their baby in a trash can before an adoption can be arranged. It is very sad for the birth mother, and some of them never get over it. Some women have abortions and never get over it. Lots of people have problems. Sometimes adoption is the best option available. Coercion should never be allowed in adoptions. There is no way to protect every birth mother. And sometimes situations change and the birth mother looks back and feels bad about what happened. Most women that are capable of having their own children do not adopt infants. It is too difficult and expensive and takes too long. Do you also have a problem with adopting children out of foster care? A mother has given them up also - or had them taken away. Like a lot of things in our society, adoption is about money for a lot of people. Convincing those young mothers to release their child is how some of these places make money. It is wrong, but that is how things work in our society. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Andrea S	I think adoption is great. There are many kids out there who need a home. I know someone who has her own kids ands adopted ones. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jlv_rt	My ex-wife and I had 3 "homemade" children, and adopted a child from Korea. Why? Primarily because we felt that we could "change the world" for 1 little girl who had very little prospect for a decent life there. She arrived in the US at 5 months of age. There are LOTS of reasons to adopt (an infant or otherwise), and most of them are good. It might be "better" if more people were willing and able to adopt older children, but it is HARD. I know, because my ex and I tried that too (a 12-year old from India), and it was the "last straw" in our marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kaclat	some people just don't want to go through pregnancy but they still want to be a mother. She is saving some child that would probably die b/c of malnutrition or be abonded b/c someone doesn't want it. I would much rather someone adopt a child that isn't wanted than read another story about a baby found dead in a trash can... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

adrianny	o m g , I can't believe what your page says that's really bad I wouldn't sell my baby hell no , and i think like you adoption is good but not selling , good help that people that don't have heart , hope you were kidding about those mom's selling their baby's Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

some girl	So someone can type "Birth Mother with a 1/2 Caucasian 1/2 African American baby Girl. $20,000.00" in some kind of blog and it's supposed to be believable? Where are the facts? Or evidence? Or proof? I can post blogs saying husbands are selling their wives, but does that make it true? Now if I could provide actual proof to this, it'd be different. And maybe the woman IS helping an unfortunate child. Maybe she feels it's selfish to have her own when there are already so many that need loving families of their own. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kate	Because like myself, I would be capable however, due to my health I do not want biological children. However, even if my health was in good standings, I would still prefer to adopt over having my own biological children because being a foster child, then adopted, suffering from many issues a lot of other foster kids suffer from I at least understand what they are going through. My parents are foster parents, so I've been raised with foster kids. Also, I mentor many foster kids who are teenagers that suffer from FAS, etc. It is believed I have FAE Fetal Alcohol Effects as a biological family member told me my biological mother did some things during pregnancy. Even if that is not the cause of my health issues, I still have brain damage from brain surgeries. But a lot of kids suffer from a lot of mental issues and no one seems to care, often they do not get the help that they need and bang, they turn to drugs and trust me I do not blame them. But that is why I want to adopt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Indian-vision	You are a bit late with asking your question. Sunny first discovered this site and posted the price tags that has been put on babies. Later another questioned was asked by Lou. You may want to go back and read responses to the orignal question posted by Sunny. BTW, yes the price tag on kids are sick. Serenity- Wish your e-mail option was open. I did not get a chance to respond to Sunny as i am blocked as well but i responded in Lou's subsequent question about the same. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Grace C	doesn't the mother of the child have to agree to do this? without her consent i don't think this can be possible. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JayB	There are FAR more orphans then there are parents looking to adopt. It's not even close. So no, a mother who chooses to adopt certainly does not raise demand for adopted babies. That's just ridiculous. They are currently over supplied. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dubmaster07	I still don't get why it's so wrong to you, not only is the adopting woman getting a huge load off her back (or womb), but she is giving a child who was orphaned or abandoned a second chance.....why is that so wrong again? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tiffany G	How is adopting a child ever wrong? Not every person is only interested in adopting an infant. I think if a woman adopts a child, then that is keeping a child out of Foster care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wanderingshopper	Why bring more children into the world when so many already need homes and families? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JoHn S.	Why create another life, when one already exists who needs a home? Don't you think it's possible that more babies would be 'thrown in the trash' if adoption weren't available? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

icehockeymom7	There is indeed such a thing as a "surplus of unwanted or abandoned babies" as you put it....go to China. Go to India. Go to Ethiopia. Go to Russia. I have 3 bio children, so I did not adopt "just because I did not feel like carrying a baby". I adopted my daughter from China because I wanted to parent a child, and she was a child in China (among thousands of others) who did not have anyone to parent her. This is the motivation of many, many AP's. We are not all selfish baby stealers who hide in the bushes looking for the nearest pregnant person to leap out and steal her baby. I think perhaps you are the one who needs to do some research. The statement that there is not a surplus of abandoned babies in this world is completely false. You are correct in stating that in terms of the U.S., but you are very incorrect in applying that statement to the rest of the world. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shadez b	First of all I think adoption is one of the most unselfish things a person can do. That said, I don't think kids should just be up for sale just because their mother is a single mom. Some of the best people in our society came from single moms. Our president did! I think it should be for the kids also that have been abandoned or whose mother chose to give them up for her own reasons, not because she was talked into it. Just "buying" babies is so wrong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Will S	Maybe her family has genetic diseases that she doesn't want to pass on.. good for her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bridget S	I have two wonderful daughters, and eventually I would like to adopt at least one more child. I have no problem getting pregnant, but think there are so many kids who needs good homes. Also, I have no intention of adopting a baby, after two, I've had enough of that stage. I'll likely wait to adopt an older child, as long as the age order is kept the same, so the next child will be younger then our youngest is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Serenity71	That's the often unspoken thing about people who have kids and want more through adoption. I don't get why they want a new born baby so badly. Maybe its because there's a different mind set where I live towards adoption these days, you have to prove you're NOT doing fertility treatments or intend to have any biological (or at least any more) to become an potential adoptive parent. (Indian-v; Sunny blocks out a lot of adoptive parents so they couldn't comment or see her questions while they're logged in...so most couldn't respond in the question she posted, pity since all here agreed it was wrong what that company is doing. Goes to show you can't judge everyone because they might not agree with you in when you ask a question.) If you fall pregnant and your in the adoption pool your application is suspended or your no longer considered for a child being considered for adoption, can't do both. They look for the commitment you have towards being an AP. Right or wrong that's how it is. (No profits, involved, no direct contact with lawyers... all done through government social services.) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No