I want to adopt my friend's daughter?

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cheynachristine	Tell the girl, it sounds like it would be a huge relief for the girl. The baby needs a good life! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

yo	adopt!!!!! the little one needs a better life Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kaity B	Go for it!!!!!!!!!!! If her mother is that bad, and the little girl is so sweet, and you want the baest for her, go for the adoption!!!!!!!!!! It will make you a good, and happy person. Good luck!!!! Hope this helps!!!! :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ashhleeyy	Adopt her! Having a stable mother as a child is extremely crucial. You have no idea. Try to negotiate with your friend if she says no. It sounds like this was a meant to be situation. I am adopted and it made a huge difference. I wish you the best of luck!! =) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

littlebrunette	It seem's that for right now you are the truly fit for being her mother. Since the babie's 18 year old mother isn't responsible enough i'd say you keep watching how the baby is doing for a little while. At the end, the 18 yr old might feel tired of taking care of her baby and just want to party because she is a "teenager" (i know it's horrible but many teenagers do this). So be patient and the baby might come to you. If the 18 yr ols still seems to neglect the child then i think it would be best to confirm someone about it before she really hurts the baby. Tough situation! Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ARTmom	I would start with getting permission from the gal for guardian rights as if any emergencies happen and shes not there-who signs for the child. Check her reaction-that could help determine your next step Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Florida Girl	Go for it. I know alot of people like your friend. "Young Adults" think they can get pregnant and do whatever they want, not thinking about their children. It's sad really. You should adopt her little girl if she isn't going to full fill her child's needs. :) You seem like the more suitable parent. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cocoa_mutt	Good For You!!! Well first things first, does she agree? Tell her is she doesn't want to spend time and act like a parent, then maybe let you adopt it because you are not able to have children right now and you seem like you would be a fit parent. Tell her how much you adore her and that she either needs to grow up and be a parent(you can make it nicer) or let you have the baby. Good lick, and I hope everything works out with that baby and the hopefull ones to come!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JustAMonkeyWithANanna	offer her some cash and every time she has to sign something offer more then when the adoption is done boot her out of the crib. Just make sure its cash and not on paper. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LEAH!	You are amazing for wanting to adopt this little baby. But unfortunately, your only two options are: you can convince your friend to give up her baby (which actually might not be too hard to do, from the sounds of how she thinks of her), or get DCF involved and open a negligence case and pray you will be considered as a foster home. However, be aware that even if you take in this child for years and years, the mother can claim her back at ANY time, unless of course she's found to be abusive/negligent. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hasta Le Bye Bye	If you really think the child is being negleced, call Child services, talk to them about it, and they will evaluate her as a mother and then they will make the right decision. They will probably take the case to court, and you could file for custody. Or you could take the mother directly to court yourself and ask the judge for custody, and go for a child custody case. They will probably rule in the mothers favor unless you can prove she is neglecting. Your best bet is child services, they will rule in their favor most likely But im not sure if you would be able to get custody, though, but the child's mother wont. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Aimee M	Don't start thinking of her as your daughter yet - if your friend doesn't want you to adopt her you won't have a chance in court. Ask yourself how well her grandparents treat her - they most likely love the child and are doing a good job raising her those 4 days a week. Tell your friend how you feel before taking any legal action - if your friend wants you to adopt her baby, talk to the grandparents. It seems the first step here is getting their support because if her mother or grandparents fight for her in court, you won't win. If she has good grandparents, I would recommend letting it go and showing the baby love even though you aren't her mother. That might be the best thing to do in this situation. Adoption is a difficult process, even when a child has no mother at all. Maybe you can simply take care of the child without adopting. I hope it turns out well, God Bless, Aimee Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Yarr	Yay for adoptees who would rather babies be with an unfit mother who never takes care of them! First off, talk to the stupid teen to see what her reaction is. If she says no then tell her she had better start sticking around and actually taking care of HER baby and see where it goes from there. If she is still a crappy mother then talk to HER mother and see if her mom really wants to have this baby dumped on her while her stupid teen acts like a stupid teen. If the stupid teen's mom doesn't want to have to take care of the baby she might agree that adopting the baby would be a good idea. If she does think that is a good idea you could call child services and show them just how unfit a mother the stupid teen is. Consider it sounds like the stupid teen barely has any contact with her baby this shouldn't be hard. With the stupid teen's mom's help you could adopt. "Well that doesn't mean you can just take somebody elses child! It's YOU who is allowing her to get away with not spending time with her child. If you really cared about the child, you'd be doing everything in your power to MAKE her Mother take care of her, not trying to steal her out from under her Mother! STOP watching the child so her Mother HAS to take care of her and if you still can't have your own, then go about adopting the RIGHT way! YOU are way off base doing what you are, it's sick!" This made me laugh. Clearly its your fault the stupid teen is a crappy mother! Riiiight LMAO. Because clearly a stupid teen that doesn't spend more than a day with her baby is going to suddenly care just because the baby isn't being taken care of. It sounds like even if you weren't taking care of the baby the teen sure as heck wouldn't and then the baby would suffer. From the amount of time you spend with the baby she probably thinks your her mom already lol. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JustMe22Steph	I think you should offer to keep the baby for your friend if you friend goes away to college...just offer and say that it would take a burden off of her mother. Just be there for your friend, and the child will quickly realize who really loves it... :) Way to go so far though. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wva_butterfly	WQow, I know your heart must be breaking... It always seems to be this way too. My advice is, just jokingly ask your friend to give her up, and feel out her reactions. If she says ok, just pause for a few and ask her REALLY???? And if she says yes, then tell her, you would definately adopt her. But if she says No, then you need to seperate yourself from this child, because it is only going to cause more trouble. And a bad a mother as she sounds. maybe keeping the baby like you do, needs to stop. She is living her life and has it made... She will own up to her responbilities when everyone forces her to, by not being her baby sitter... But like i said, feel out the situation. Best Of Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Badspe11er	A lot of these people will hate this answer. But, your friend - the teenager - will probably let you adopt the baby for nothing.. or could be bought off for very little money !!!! If she agrees, get a lawyer involved, asap. Make it iron clad, and move away.. so her grandparents don't get involved. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

allchildrenareangels	ask the mom. Sounds like she doesn't want to be a mom. Michelle Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nick	Give up. do NOT try to steal a baby, how cruel are you? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

12	Kiddnapping is easier. Jokes look this is a difficult process. you are trying to enter. if you approach it the wrong what you could cause her to leave and then you might not see the child ever again. Thats how i see the situation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MAG	well first i would say she can't live in your house...then she probably wouldn't be relying on you as much to take care of her baby. but i would also contact a social worker to check things out with her and keep close tabs it would be really difficult to do adopt this child unless for some reason she became a foster child. then I am sure if you appealed, you would be the first choice Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Princess Leia	I would say you need to sit down with your "friend" and have a heart to heart. As hard as that may seem, if you really feel like this woman is being neglectful, then you need to talk with her. I wonder if you are enabling her by doing things for her that she should be doing herself. I know you want a child, but but allowing her to party and watching her daughter in hopes you will grow closer to the girl is not right. This girl will benefit more if you try and reach out to her mother, instead of taking her from her. If it's really THAT BAD, get back up and call on Child Protective Services. In that case, the child's grandparents will take over the child. It's about what's best for the child, NOT YOU. Of course you've fallen in love with the girl, but why don't you work on helping this mother first? She is your friend after all, right? Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♪ ♫sadeyes♪ ♫	You are trying to legally kidnap that child. If you have an issue with the way she parents, you need to call child protective services. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

heaven and emilees mom	it would be hard its hard to take rights away from a mother in the first place not to mention the father and you cant for get the other family members that will want her if she was taken from the mother in the first place Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Joze	How old are you? You have to take consideration if you yourself actually wanting to her mother. Get yourself your own baby! It's a lot more pleasurable, SUCCESS! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DevonChaos	She and her daughter need to move out. Immediately. There is no reason for her to stay with you if you are going to start feeling this way towards her daughter. This child is hers, and even though you don't find her actions to be those of a good mother, this doesn't entitle you to her child in any way, shape, or form. Get it out of your head. This child isn't yours. This child isn't even up for adoption. Perhaps you should have them both leave so that you can get yourself back under control. This isn't going to end well if you let them stay with you. You are doing her no favors by letting her stick around while you are making plans for her child. Does she know you feel this way? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cantstopLinnyG	More like a nightmare for your "friend" and HER daughter. Have her move out, then have your own baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sunny	You need to ask your friend to move out. Maybe she can move in with her grandparents. I think you might want to look into creating your OWN family, and possibly some counseling. It's not healthy to covet other people's children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iiidontknowdoyou	Well that doesn't mean you can just take somebody elses child! It's YOU who is allowing her to get away with not spending time with her child. If you really cared about the child, you'd be doing everything in your power to MAKE her Mother take care of her, not trying to steal her out from under her Mother! STOP watching the child so her Mother HAS to take care of her and if you still can't have your own, then go about adopting the RIGHT way! YOU are way off base doing what you are, it's sick! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

forever&always	Hmm....well keep in mine it's not YOUR baby. There are plenty of children in foster care that would love to have a mommy! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lol sup	Then you better hope and pray your friend doesn't find out because I guarantee that you'll never see the baby again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Only Mama Knows	Unless your friend gives you permission and gives up her legal rights to be the mother, I don't think you have much of a chance to adopt the baby girl. I know you mean well but the courts would not just give you the baby because you want to adopt her. Also there are the grandparents who would probably want to seek custody too if they feel their daughter is not an appropriate mother. You need to keep things in perspective and that even though you help to care for this child, you are not her mother. I think you are also enabling the mother of the child to go out and "still be a teenager" if you are offering to take care of her child and letting them stay at your house. She has no reason to grow up if you keep giving her a place to stay and caring for her child. You need to give her some tough love and tell her she needs to care for her baby and that you need time to get your own life in order and do things. Good luck. I know your heart is in the right place. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No