I am pregnant with twins but i cannot handle two, i want to adopt the other out..Is that normal?

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Stephanie	you'll regret it...speaking from personal experience, 15 years old, now 22...and trust me there is more help out there than you think...just dont be scared to ask for it...churches are always a good place to start with help...they will give you loads of information on who or what can help you....I know its scary, but think about if the one you keep finds out you adopted out his or her TWIN sibling...and you dont want to know the feeling of wondering who or where your baby is...trust me Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Geo	Your 18 'but' you will have to look after both of them, what kind of mother could you call your self for doing this what will the kids think of you when the understand a bit. You can get government help in funding and care. It may be ur hormones playing up. * I got a feeling this question is made up look at her previous questions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*LDY LEX*	YOU PROBABLY CAN NOT TAKE CARE OF 1 EITHER... DONT YOU THINK THAT IT IS WRONG TO SEPARATE SIBLINGS! WHAT IF YOU WERE A TWIN, AND YOUR MOM GAVE YOUR SISTER/BROTHER AWAY, HOW WOULD THAT MAKE YOU FEEL.... HOW DO YOU THINK THE OTHER CHILD WOULD FEEL... SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE JUST THINKING OF YOURSELF, AND NOT YOUR UN-BORN CHILDREN.... IN THIS CASE YOU SHOULD JUST GIVE THEM BOTH UP... THAT WOULD BE BETTER THAN SEPARATING BLOOD.... MAYBE THE NEXT TIME YOU DECIDE TO HAVE UN-PROTECTED SEX, YOU WILL FULLY THINK OUT WHAT MAY OCCUR IN 9 MONTHS.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

K/M	Huh??? Sorry, hun, you are pregnant with 2 babies. AHHH...didn't you think about the possibility BEFORE you got pregnant??? Give both up for adoption. Are you married?? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Peace Yo	THIS PERSON IS A TROLL. She states in other posts that she has a 15 year old daughter which would make her three at the time of birth if what she says in this post is true, that she is 18. DON'T FEED THE TROLL! She has now set her profile to restrict us from viewing her other questions but she has A LOT of conflicting information which makes it CLEAR that she is a liar. A three year old mother? Pah-lease. Why do people do this? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

diana g	as i followed everyone's elses leads about her questions, i see that her questions became private in the middle of looking at them..... interesting.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

karaokediva1960	If you feel that you cannot take care of both, then perhaps you are not ready to take care of either. You are only 18 years old. You are still young yourself. Ask someone in the family if they would be willing to help you and if not, then by all means put them up for adoption. I know that it sounds cruel by not letting you keep one, but how can you choose? How will you love one less than the other? I think if you have to put them up for adoption, it would be better for them if they could be together. At least then you know that they would be looking out for each other as they grow up. Ultimately this is your decision. Regardless if anyone agrees with you or not, these are your children and you have to make a decision that you can live with. Good luck and God bless. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥ Natalie's mommy ♥	I wouldn't do that...then the other one is going to think you hate it! i say if you can't take care of both then give both away... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*'★Gina★'*	ho no you should never do that, youll be very sorry if you do`? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TraditionalValuesStrongWorkEthic	Have you considered adopting them both out ,letting them stay together, to one loving family who can provide for them? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

New_Mama06	I think you should at least try to take care of two before you decide to adpot one out... I understand your alone in this but there is goverment help out there.. And a lot of good people who are willing to help you just need to find them... Good Luck.. Please just give it a try before you make up your mind. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amosunknown	Why does it matter what we would do, you've already decided you wont deal with two. Of course adoption is the only other option. Personally, I think its wretched. I would never scorn one child and love and care for the other. I certainly wouldnt make children and not be prepared to die for them, or at least live for them. What we can handle is decided by ourselves, not situations. We can handle anything, including the cost, time, and stress of any number of children. It breaks my heart to consider your situation. Iam sorry for you and for them. Some times all a person can consider best is the lesser of all evils. In your case, adopting one out and keeping the other. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*<;^;FISHN N THE DARK;^;>*	nope thats wrong, if u cant handle it u shudve kept ur legs closed... face the concequences..... dont do that, it is just wrong and so r u for thinkn that... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Beth	Oh my GOD! I just read all of the other questions that this person has posted. I think you're full of it! You talk about your 15-year-old daughter??? Click on her avatar and read all of the questions that she's posted. What is wrong with you??? You are so full of it. Your other questions go against your question that you're asking now. How in the world can you be 18 years of age, if you claim to have a daughter that's 15 in most of your other questions? You're a sicko!!! Um...you added details to your question, in a lame attempt to defend yourself, then you block everyone from being able to see the questions that you have previously asked, where it clearly shows that you LIED? I feel sorry for every single person that answered this question and truly felt sorry for this person's story. That's the real shame here. There were some obvious, HONEST answers to your bogus question. What are you doing now...laughing at the people that were being sincere? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SCANDOFONZnyc	THATS bad twins are very special they can feel each other pain and sorrow if you take one away u taking half of there soul if u was in NYC i take care of u and the twins dont send one away keep them both any way u can Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Morgan	You would be better off putting both of them up for adoption. Once theyre born, how are you going to choose which one to send off? It would be an incredibly hard decision to make. It's not cool to sperate twins. You got yourself into this, so you need to live up to your responsibilities. It's either both or none. You'd be horrible to choose one baby over the other. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wiser1	Don't adopt out just one. They will resent you later. If you can't handle two babies (you can, you don't want to), adopt them both out so that they can be together for life. That's the kindest thing to do, honey. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

marisol g	well I know for a fact i wouldnt. i mean how can u decide which one to give up for adoption. Besides they need to be together. You should of thought of all these stuff before u got pregnant all the possabilities. its too late now. but think about it really good. My sister had twins when she was 16 and no one helped her because she lived in florida and all of our family where here in california and she did it. It was hard but they are the most healthy beautiful babies i have ever seen. Good luck I hope you keep both Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kinky_dreads	i guess if your being honest about it, it does sound like too much for a young mother. But I would think more than twice about seperating the two Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

babymama.	What are you going to tell the other twin?? What if the one you adopt out decides to find you if you do give him up?? How will you choose?? I don't think twins should be separated either. Maybe you should give them both up or keep them both. They didn't ask to be brought into this world. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hugsandhissyfits	so what is the question?if you dont want us to tell you any different.I think its sad.If you can take care of one you can make do with two I think you are awfully young.Need to give them to good home for adoption. Twins are close and bond so tight...... NO its not normal!!!:) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tom S	Not normal... you'll think of something.. women have been doing it for years..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shutterbug	I feel sad for you that you feel that way. Keep them both, or adopt them both out...you'll regret it later in life if you adopted out just one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

YoooHoooo	Your a liar and a TROLL. Please read her other questions. I thought you had a 15 year old daughter. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mary A	I hope you are just joking with this...if you can't take responsibility for both of your children give them both to someone who can.Your child you keep will end up hating you when they find out you gave away their twin. And when the baby is born get birth control!! Updated: I just read your additional details and I do know what you are going through.I had a child when I was 19.The answer is you do what you have to to make it work.From now on it is not about you.You created a life.It doens' matter how it happened, but you have to stop thinking about yourself now and think about the miracle you are carrying.If you can't take care of 2 why do you think you can take care of 1?I stand by my opinion you should give them both up,and if birth control failed stop having sex. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ella (& her dogs)	Technically you can, I saw a story like this on tv once. The twin who got adopted out really resented her mom. I would say either give them both up or not at all, just my opinion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tisha	Twins have a special bond. I don't believe they should be broken up. I suggest you either keep both or put both up for adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rmkc	dont do it! either let them be adopted by the same family or keep them both. you need to think about the future of these babies, and how they would feel if they found out that they had a twin that you gave away, and how the other one would feel if they knew that you chose their twin over them! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

D M L	I suggest you re-post the question the day after you give birth and feel confident you can point to the the 'other' baby you want to 'give away'. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

short cherry	I'd tell you to keep them together. They will always have each other for support. It's sad that you want to separate them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ski chick	No it's not normal. It is selfish. If you can handle the grown up behavior of sex, then you need to accept the grown up consequences that are part of it. If you can't take care of 2, then you can't take of 1 because the same all-about-me attitude that's making you want to give up one is going to take over and the baby is the one who will pay for it. Don't separate them. You'll regret it later. Right now you are too selfish and immature to see it, but in 10 or 15 or 20 years when you are grown up you will think "What did I do?" He will find out eventually. How are you going to explain your actions to your shocked, bewildered son that you gave away his brother? Do the right thing and give them both up. And don't tell us not to judge you. You asked us to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No