I'm thinking about giving my kids up for adoption!?

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larkspur	you should let someone adopt them,they need a good loving stable home,there are plenty of people who would adopt and love your kids..and im sure they could make it to where you could still keep in contact,pictures etc... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

boxysmiff	It sounds as if you have post-natel depression to me. If undiagnosed it can affect you for years. You should see your Dr, who would recommend counselling, I'm sure, & possibly anti-depressants. Only after you have done this should you think about adopting them out, but would doubt you feel the same way by then. It is a shame that you haven't got better support. Parenting is tough enough without feeling like you are going it alone. I hope you can sort it out, your children belong with you if they possibly can. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

annala	Yep, your children deserve better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Just a Mom	Do you have a crisis nursery near by? They will take your kids, no questions asked, and help you fix whats going on. Maybe you just need a breather. They can do that for you. They can also help you make an informed decision about what to do about adoption. Maybe it would help to go to parenting classes? Crisis nurseries can help you with that too. I will put a link up for the one in St. Louis. If you contact them, maybe they can help you find one in your area. www.crisisnurserykids.com Good luck no matter what, okay? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sigrid F	I don't think this a stupid but it is a life changing one. May I suggest you contact a local adoption agency or county services to discuss your options. There is always voluntary placement, a family placement with relatives etc. I take it that your ex boyfriend is out of the picture but would he have family that would be inclined to care for your twins. The upshot is that alot of infertile parents love the idea of twins so I don't think placing them would be that hard. The biggest challenge for you is how you can make a decision that gives you peace of mind, whatever you decide. Blessings to you in this process. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dontknow86	You do what you feel is right for them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mable	Maybe you could foster the kids to a family member. You may be sorry in a few years if you gave them up for adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Caleb C	Give them up 4 adoption plz. It'll be good 4 u and them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jennifer	Do what you feel is best for your children...other people's opinions do not matter because they are not in your shoes. There are plenty of families that would love to adopt your daughters and give them a loving home. My husband and I are getting ready to adopt in the near future and we want to provide a home for children who's parents were unable to. There are so many people like us out there...you will find someone. I would go to social services...they will be able to help you decide what is best for you and your daughters. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Crucio	Yes please get the children out of your care one way or the other. You should not be verbal abusive towards them. You clearly are not ready to be a parent and maybe never were. What about their father can he take them? Someone else in the family? If not finding a decent adoptive family to take them in would be best. Grant it at their ages its likely they might linger in foster care for a while perhaps years. Perhaps you can try and find someone in your life willing to take them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

learning-from-life	i'm very happy that you decided not to have an aborition but here are some things to consider. your income. do you have enough to support you three? your love. how much do you love them? don't get mad, listen. it sounds like you love them because you want more for them. if you're in a place that's not good for them, i.e. you have low income, you are abusive, you don't want them, than give them up for adoption. i know it will be hard but you're just not ready and there are hundreds of thousands of people in the world that want to adopt. make sure that you can always be there for them. you may give them up for adoption but make sure that if you want to take them to the zoo one day you can. make sure you're still a part of their life and make sure they know you love them very very much and you only want what's best for them. i hope it all works out okay. i'm sure they're sweet adorable children who only deserve the best. next time though, don't have a baby unless you KNOW this is what you want. you don't sound nearly mature enough for a child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mommy of Lily, Daisy, and Jayson	You need to ask yourself this What is best for my children? If you truly feel that incompentent on being these childrens mother then I think you need to explore your options. I would really hate to have your children grow up in an abusive household because you resent them. Do you have supportive family who would be willing to take the children on till you can get into a better way of life? Maybe a mother or an aunt who is willing to let your children live with them until you are ready to be their mother? I think if you really don't feel an attachment to your children and you are being abusive to them then it is no place for them. But you need to explore your options. Talk to family and see if they can help. Maybe you are just a stressed out mommy who needs a time out from the kids and after a little time apart you will realize how much you love and want them. It happens to all moms. My girls are going to their grandma's this weekend because I am ready to run my head through the wall if I don't get a break. But seriously talk to family and see if they can help. Being abusive to your children is not going to solve any problem it's just going to harm them in the long run emotionally and they may come to resent you when they grow up. I think this is of course a decision that can't be made on a whim and needs to be planned and carefully thought out. Speak with family first to find out what options are there and if after time apart you still can't be a mother to these kids then you need to speak with an adoption agency who will guide you and maybe you could even do an open adoption type of stituation. You need to do what's best for your children and if it's being raised by someone else then that may have to be it. Don't give up your kids just because you want to go clubbing or be unattached from anything because that's selfish behavior. Make a smart descision regaurding the wellfare emotionally and physically of your children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rebecca and lexie	You should give it to a member of the family. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

onlyme212529	If its that bad then I think you are doing the right thing by considering adoption instead of keeping them and something potentially harmful happening due to your temper(not tryin to be mean about this so sorry if it comes off that way) You should talk to the father of the kids.If you are not together then I'm sure since he wanted them he would be MORE than willing to take custody of them,but if not then I think adoption is the right thing to do. Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*Edward Cullen*	see if one of ur nice friends or a relative would like them or sumeone u can trust Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Spencer D	look there your children and someday they may grow up to be strong and healthy women. i mean there your kids and i think you should keep them Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crystal9rocks	I wouldn't espesially if they are 5 that would mean that they would remember what you looked like and they would have already grown close to you and think about how you would feel about that. But its your decision. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tsunami	why not adopt them out it would be good for them and they are young take care and let yourself at ease at least you didnt' abort them and they area live. maybe some day you can explain to them what circumstances you had give them the option to find you and take care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Deo Gratias	Is there a family member that could care for them? That's always the best choice in a bad situation like this. Thank you for choosing life; I hope you and your children have a brighter future. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lucy	It sounds as though you are keeping the kids only because your family wants you to. Would one of them consider taking over custody of them . Make it more like an open adoption. That way you could see them if you wanted. This boyfriend does he have any say in this ? I think you should consider your options. Myself Im helping raise one grandchild because her mother is unable (due to addiction)to care for her. In this situation custody is split between myself and the babys other granmother. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowwillow20	Get a physical and see about getting some counseling. Do you have any family to help you? Does the dad help you? Get some help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I Have Pringle Tin Hands!!!	That is so wrong that you were turned on by the idea that your Ex-Boyfriend wanted you to have his kids and you only went along with it because of that... That is just so wrong and i truly believe that giving them up for adoption would be more than the right thing to do because then they will be with people that really DO want children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

courtnjonfigueroa	No matter what anyone thinks you need to do whats right for those kids! Adoption is a good way for them to have a better life! Atleast your trying to do whats best for them!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Freckle Face	Khandy, Your girls are 5 yrs old. They know you are their mother. I really think giving them away would be very harmful for them. Are you getting help? Get counseling and go to your doctor for help. Do you have any family to help you? Explore all of your options and get help. IDK, i torn on this one. Don't abuse your girls! Get yourself together, you're a mom now. Your girls need you. If you aren't going to get help and if you continue to verbally abuse them, then maybe you should consider adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cutiepie81289	yes give them up for adoption atleast they'll have a better life. I'm sure you aren't looking at them with loving eyes you are looking at them with hatred cause you don't want to be tied down with kids. You were stupid to have children with a boyfriend and now your kids are suffering because of it. Give them up so someone that can't have children will give them the world and more love then ever! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lillady	you know what Ill give you your props for having the balls to put this question on here and being so honest. because your going to hear a lot of bullshit. but i really dont know what to tell you. you ultimately make the decision. But they are 5 and they know who their mother is. Just stay strong in your decision. Good Luck to you!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AFI07	you should have been responsible and never had the kids, i feel so sorry for them to have an immature parent like you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brinde	At 5 years old that would be so hard for them... They now know who you are and know you are their mom. If they were way younger, i would understand.. but yo have kept these girls for so long that it would ruin them mentally for the rest of their lifes. you may regret your decision of giving them away in the future.. i would say keep them and love them. go get metal help. it seems like you need it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Char	If you can not care for them and think you might harm them with your verbal abuse, yes let someone adopt them! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kaleb	Well abuse is never a good thing, b/c those kids didn't ask for you to have them, they didn't have a choice on rather or not to be here on this earth. If there's any advice I could give you, I would seek some therapy help. Go in and have some sessions with a professional. Abuse can stop if your willing. And right now they're 5, that's a hard age to deal with. I see it this way though, there's a reason for everything, and there's a reason you had those twin girls. I know things get hard and tough, but you just need to hang tough and stick through. Be patient and kind. But like I said some therapy sessions would be helpful I'm sure. Good luck with everything. Email me if you need someone to talk to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Robster	I think they would be better off with someone else. It's good that you are considering their welfare ahead of your own. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No