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Contact an adoption attorney. You cannot ask for payment, but they can pay for your medical expenses and any reasonable lost wages. You will need to give the attorney an estimate of the lost wages, because it needs to be in the paperwork.
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momofone
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Well you sound like a very unselfish person....good luck to you as I know this has to be sooo hard. Well to start an adoption is usually done by the adoptive family getting an attorney for themselves and YOU TOO! You can find your own or go with the one they use, whatever makes you comfortable. They should be the one to pay the legal fees for you too. If you need help now, or after (some states it is up to 90 days post birthday) they are also obligated to pay....they are also obligated to pay for all medical fees as well. You really need an attorney to help you all explaining th laws in your state and how they apply to you. Good luck and god bless.
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StacieG
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Get an attorney involved and he/she will make sure that everything is done totally legally so that no one gets bit in the bum by a detail later in life. It shouldn't cost much & the adoptive family will likely pay the bill for it.
You're very wise and loving for looking into making an adoption plan for your children. You're blessing the children and the adoptive parents. Good for you!
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Krystal S
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You need to go through an adoption agency. http://www.birthmother.com/ This site may help. You do not want to do a private adoption. Legally it is better to go through an agency. They will guide you through the process and let you know of your rights.
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Chanele
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let the adoptive parents do all of the papers for you.....only thing you need to do is sign the adoption papers...which makes sure you really wanna give them up....but i hope you make /made the right choice...giving up both children??
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Aznq_t24
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First reconsider your decisions to make sure you are doing the right thing and this is what you really want. Consider all the pros and cons of this decision because once you have given away your rights as the legal parents/guardians of your kids, and you change your mind, it will be tough for you legally.
Oh and next time you decide to have sex, I'd go with what Marla said. Use abstinence or a condom please. Thanks! If you don't want kids, maybe you're right in giving them away. Just like sex and pregnancy, you can't undue the decision, so make this a wise one. Maybey you'll change your mind when you get used to being a mother.
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bigred
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You sound like you want to do what is best for your babies and yourself. You need to seek counseling to make sure you are comfortable with your decision. Is the daddy OK with you giving the babies up for adoption? Will he sign away his rights? On your profile you suggest you like to drink...have you drank while pregnant? Do potential adoptive parents know of this? Are they ok taking kids with alcohol exposure? All of this will be handled for you, babies and potential adoptive parents if you go through an agency. Contact a birth counselor at an agency www.bethany.org has one on line that you can chat with. they will help you sort through all of this. I am in the process of trying to adopt and know at Bethany they offer a lot of support and conseling to the birth parents.
best wishes
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Stephanie H
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google Adoption Agencies, and make sure you do your research.......tell the adoption agency that you know a suited couple that wants the babies. And make sure you make the couple pay for all of the paperwork and procedures.
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dtravelbiz
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WTF you are so going to regret this. You need to tie your tubes since you hate kids so much. And also have you tried using protection oral and condoms to protect yourself. WHere is the father in all this, does he have a say in where his kids go. Or you think you are the only that decides. Kids are not objects you don't give them away like a toy you buy and when you don't want it you give it away.
Wow, what is this world coming to?
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avgals
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you can do a private adoption with this couple that you have chose. It will be much cheaper if you just get adoption lawyers, and I would have the couple pay all the costs.
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Lady B
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if they r really good people give it a try
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meghananne23
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I just want to say THANK-YOU and KUDOS to you for making such a loving decision!!!! :) ** You are a hero to these precious babies!!!!
Thank-you for choosing life and making the decision. You are a wonderful person!!!
Ignore anyone who says you are selfish - you are definitely the opposite of selfish!!!! :) You are mature, responsible and wise to choose this loving decision.
I agree its the couples responsibility to find the atty, etc.
There is also this adoption hotline:
1-800-592-4725
(((HUGS))))
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kdanley
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You put your modeling career before your children? You might be pretty, but your attitude is very ugly. Love your children. Raise them well. Be a mother instead of a baby factory. One good mother is much better than a hundred pretty faces.
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Mrs B
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19 years? modeling career? don't like children but pregnant? seems to me that you are confuse and don't really know what you really want, if your modeling career was so important to you, why did you get pregnant at the first place then? take your time and think first don't rush into your decision or you might end up regretting it. Just because your sister know someone who is nice and is interrested in adopting doesn't mean that you are doing the right thing. GO to an adoption agency and start from there, have them read you all your rights so you know there is no coming back and no regrets. Good luck
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amy
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this is going to be very rude and blunt and well you kinda deserve it. ..... thing is if you didnt want KIDS- you shouldnt have had sex!! you are being so selfish!! how dare you give your kids up! i cant believe people even stoop this low!! imagine how those children will think! you need to stop thinking about your damn self, and take care of a WONDERFUL responsibility that has been placed on you! it should NOT be a burden! who cares about your modeling career!!! your a mother now! worry about that later!! no child is a mistake! EVER! God gives you a child FOR A REASON and you should FEEL blessed!! i just cant believe you are going to carry two kids for 9 months and then just hand them away the day they are born!.... you must have NO feelings whatsoever! and you will REGRFET this forever, and it will haunt you every day you live! AS WELL AS IT SHOULD!!!
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saloon girl
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Seems to me you are on the right track. Have the adoptive parents contact an attorney and as has been suggested have them pay all the expenses. As long as you trust the adoptive parents and have a connection to them, I do not see why you would need to involve an agency.
Please be more careful when having sex. Pregnant models aren't too popular.
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corcoranfaire
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First of all congrats on thinking of the children first and considering adoption. I am sure it is a really difficult decision, but I know there are lots of us out there who would love to add to their family with adoption!
It is nice you know/trust the parents, but I am suprised however that your twins are due in a week and the family that wants to adopt your children haven't already started it off/gotten an attorney yet to help with this (I know my husband and I would be on the phone to an attorney that same day if we ever had the chance). I would give the prospective adoptive parents a call and let them know they need to get to hire an attorney who specializes in adoption quickly so that you can proceed/dicuss things before the twins are born. You, the father, the attorney, and the prospective parents have a lot to talk about. For example: do the prospective parents have a room set up, do they have the car seats, do they plan on taking the children home from the hospital, are you going to name them or will they, do you want an open or closed adoption (make sure to get it in writing), do they want to be there when you give birth (all of these and many more questions/answers are usually thought about ahead of time). In addition, you might want to ask for them to pay the medical expenses for the birth (all done through the attorney) unless you are on Medicaid or your parents health insurance already covers the birth.
If those parents don't get going on getting an attorney, I would question if they were really willing to take the steps to proceed other than saying they wanted the twins. If it doesn't work out with the prospective adoptive parents or they don't step up, there are tons of agencies that you can call who could find a family that would jump on the chance for those babies.
Congrats again, I hope all goes well for all of you!
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lwrymatt
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if u wanted to start a job then ?WHY DID YOU GET PREGNENT??!!! if you didnt wont kids then take birth control pills or stop messing around with guys.your the kind of people i hate the most.
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vmarie84
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I'm glad you find a modeling career more important than taking care of children that you bringing into the world.
The first person was right. If you don't want that responsibility, than keep your legs closed.
I think to choose a modeling career over your children is selfish. You should put them up for adoption. They don't deserve you. And one day when they find out that a modeling career was more important to you than they were I hope you feel the pain of what you did.
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patricia
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if u really think its what u want to do than do it but i did and i regret it every single day,but u need to talk to a lawyer thay can do the adoption process for u
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copper + todd
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Well if your going to be so busy with modeling i think you should have them in a better home. But i also think you should keep them at the same time because TWINS!!! that is adorable they could be so cute. But... ya go through somethin online or call an atorney!
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Cindy B
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I AM ADOPTED....so I know that what you are doing is the RIGHT thing to do! Do not listen to people who tell you that you are selfish. Giving a child up for adoption when you are not ready to raise a child is the most UNSELFISH thing a human could do. I have always respected my birth mother for giving me a better life than she could provide herself. It was the reason I chose to meet her when I turned 18.....because I wanted to thank her for not ending her pregnancy with me and for giving me a better life.
You don't need to go through an agency. The only benefit of doing that is if you were only part way through your pregnancy. I think having the couple contact an adoption attorney is sufficient.
ONE THING that I would advise is to have the attorney bill the couple for some individual counseling for you once the baby is born. It's not that I think there is something wrong with you, but you need to take care of yourself. Giving a baby up is hard to do, and you need to have a healthy view of what you have done for yourself and that child. You should not live your life feeling guilt over something that was a GOOD thing to do.
Best of luck! You can e-mail me if you have any other questions that I could help you with!
:)
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granny042505
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you will regret later on those precious babies are a part of you
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cafe_au_lait
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What a bunch of judgmental people.
If you're really pregnant and want to provide your twins with a happy home and you don't feel ready to take on motherhood, good for you ! You are very selfless. Go through an adoption agency, make sure your children are adopted to the best family they can have. The families will be extensively screened to make sure they are suitable.
I do find it hard to believe that this late in your pregnancy you're just now wondering about the adoption process. It makes me think that you may be one of those women who pull adoption scams. How wonderful does twin boy and girl babies sound ! Especially having a biological mother with 'model looks' . You would be a dream come true to prospective adoptive parents who desperately want to have a baby to love. I hope that is not the case here.
If these babies exist, I hope they have the opportunity to grow up together in a happy home with parents who love and want them. good luck.
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quirky
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You do not have to go through an agency. The couple will need to hire a family law attorney that specializes in adoption. It is customary for them to pay for your medical and pregnancy related expenses- but they can not pay you to "buy" the baby- it has to be for pregnancy related things only..(otherwise it is considered illegal/bribery).They will pay the attorney. You can have an open adoption where the contract says you are allowed to visit, etc. You should know your rights- even if you decide to give your twins up- before you do.
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SORA
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THINK REALLY HARD WHAT YOU'RE PLANNING ON DOING. THINK AND WRITE DOWN THE PROS AND THE CONS ON A PIECE OF PAPER. ALSO, TALK TO YOUR FAMILY, ASK THEM FOR ADVICE. I TRULY HOPE THAT WHATEVER DECISION YOU MAKE IS REALLY THE ONE THAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
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in COGNITO *
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DO NOT USE AN AGENCEY. they will milk the couple dry!!!!!
If you are sure of your decision then you should be able to get by with an attorney. They'll still need to find an agency on their own to do their classes. Which should start before the baby is born. If you place through the acency they will charge them $15,000 to $25,000 placement fee eventhough you found the couple yourself.
You'll also need a birth parent assesment where you acknowlege that you have been informen of your rights. If you want to do right by the couple do it privately through an attorney and just do the necessities through the agency.
You'll need an attorney to write up a "right to consent " contract which allows you to give them permition to seek routine and emergency medical care. Include in this document that these people are to care for your child pending the adoption.
Most of all do not accept any consideration (money or elaborate gifts) from the adoptive family. This can put you both in jail in most states.
Aside from all of that I think that it's great that you have decided to bless another family rather than chose abortion.
Good luck in your delivery and your future relationship with your soon to be extended family :-)
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Neen
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have the couple get an lawyer! It is great that you are smart enough to know that you can't handle this.
Maybe invite the mom in the delivery room with you so she can be there too.
I would have them call a lawyer right away to get this started.
PS. Please don't listen to rude people who have left comments... They need to realize that some people make mistakes and that you are living with that now. You didn't abort the babies you did the right thing by keeping them. If you can't afford it or know that you can not take care of them you are doing a good thing by giving them to a family that can love and support them.
TO THE RUDE PEOPLE, you don't like what she is doing then F off, don't answer her question.
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ElioraImmanuel
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You are doing the right thing. I'm proud of you for giving these babies life! I've always wanted a boy and girl set of twins!
You are mature enough to realize that you are not prepared to parent these babies and that is okay. The family you've found needs to hire a lawyer. Make sure it's an open adoption if you wish to remain a part of the babies' lives.
Don't listen to the mean comments people make. No one is perfect. I pray you learn from your experience.
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3peas in a pod
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Sounds like you are doing the right thing. Since your modeling career is much more important than you children. You need to have the adopted parents hire a lawyer.
Since you dont like kids then maybe you need to keep your legs closed!
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RavenScout
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So have you found your wedding photographer? Any problems with your belly piercing showing through your dress? You might have to remove it, or take it out for the ceremony for the best look. At least during the ceremony and pictures. Then again, I can't imagine being pregnant with twins and having a belly button ring in. At a week until delivery that must look wild!! I'm really surprised your Doctor hasn't had you remove it. So like, the doc totally told you about drinking and partying while you were pregnant right?
Sorry, but I'm a little angry, and hurt right now, and I'm feeling very protective of all the women in this category that have answered your question.
Shame on you. The thing is, karma is a *****. It will always come back to you. When you think it's done with you for this one, it won't be. This was low sweetie. I hope it serves you up a mighty good lesson.
I hope you never need anything in your life. I hope you never look to others for human kindness, or understanding. I'm sorry, but if this is the ruse that I believe it is then I have no understanding for people like you that would come to a public place and claim such a thing. Even though you don't know them. May you never know the pain and heartache these women know. The open arm of understanding, friendship, and love that they are so needing and willing to give freely of is apparent as everyone asks and answers such personal questions about an issue that is at the core of such pain.
I hope I'm wrong. I do. Forgive me if I am. You opened an account yesterday answering four questions. One of which you say your life is wonderful as you are engaged to get married to a wonderful man and expecting twins next week and how excited you are. In your profile, you talk about your boyfriend, how you love to party, like to drink, but you don't smoke. So which is it?
Again, my apologies if I'm incorrect about you and you are doing what you say you are here in this question. However, if this is crap, may your higher power take mercy on you and you fully understand one day what your actions are capable of. May you then take responsibility and find a way to make it up to others.
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