Do you think that having another biological child after you have adopted one previously is right?

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Momofthreeboys	No, that would be ridiculous, even under the best circumstances, birth control isn't 100% effective and most couples who have adopted (or don't think they are fertile) don't use birth control. My husband's mom was adopted and her parents went on to have 3 more kids biologically after her. Maybe what you heard was that you can't have a biological child while (ie about to give birth etc) you are in the adoption proceedings but there is nothing wrong with having more than one child, however those children enter your life. Best wishes Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

thezookeeper	never heard that rule. I know a couple who concieved after adoption, they didn't think they could have children. They'll be adopting soon again. So, I don't know what you are talking about. Maybe that's just that particular agencies rules? I don't know. However, my personal opinion is that I think its fine. Why not? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tigerfly	No, I hadn't heard that. Personally, I can see the sense behind this although I would never criticise a family if it happened, I guess it's different on the inside. This happened to some extended family of mine a loooong time ago before I was born and, well, the adopted kid was thoroughly screwed up. She's very insecure and has difficulty maintaining 'normal' relationships. Just think how inadequate surplus to requirements the adopted child could feel if not handled properly. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Clive	I think that any organisation that attempted to enforce such a regulation would find themselves berated by the press while on their way to The European Court of Human Rights. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

genuine_duck@btinternet.com	No. As far as I know, there is no regulations against conceiving a baby after an adoption. Take a look at Angelina Jolie, she's adopted 2 despite having 1 of her own. As far as it's right, It only effects the adopted child if you treat the children differently. ie. Giving more attention to the conceived child. Provided they are brought up both equally loved and given the same attention and upbringing then that's all that matters. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ansearcher@sbcglobal.net	Iam both a Father and Step Father. Sure it is wonderful if you have both biological and non biological children as long as you show no partiality and love them both not making a difference between the two and insist that all your family members do the same. I commend you on your desire for both and may God bless you and your family. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The bitter wife	No I tried to adopt before & they never told me that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

belinda k	i think it is ok as my sons father and his sister is adpoted. Sence he was 6 weeks old and she was only 6 weeks too. So i think it is normal to do that Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

finance_coder	One of my friends is adopted; so is his older brother (brother by adoption, not by blood). But he also has four younger brothers who were biological. I think you're in the clear :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

realrepublican	Never heard of that. I don't see the problem. Some adopt because they can't have a baby at the time, but later they do. What, would they take away that child instead of having them in a loving home.? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Me	Huh, do you have a link or something? I wanted to adopt, too, but it takes so long and is expensive. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jonni_hayes	No I haven't heard that and know that in Illinois it has happened because I know of two families that have done that... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

khrystenat	My sister is adopted and I am a bio child of my parents, I am younger than my sister. If anything to have another bio child would be a great way to bond with the adopted child more, get them involved their baby brothers/ sisters life, creates more of a family unit. and this other sibling will never know the difference because the adopted child has always been there Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LisaFlorida	What do they say that they will do if you get pregnant after adopting? Take away the adopted child? Take away the biological child? Or do they require sterilization before you can adopt? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lovely Lady 27	No, that is stupid. It is your choice or good fortune to have a biological child. You adopted for what ever reason and good for you for giving that child a good home. I'm sure your current child will love having a baby brother or sister. Don't listen to people. The docs told my Aunt she could never have children. So she adopted then a miracle happened and she had a baby boy and their first child loved and still loves his brother and now they both have a younger sister. They all are very happy and you wouldn't even know he was adopted. It is your choice to do what ever you want. No one can tell you not to have a biological child. What if it happend by accident! That is just stupid. You go have your baby and live happily ever after with all of your children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lance	Never heard of that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Orla C	Nobody can tell you you can't have children, but I see some parents around today and I question whether they should be allowed to have children, either naturally or through adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jillian	no it's not that's crazy. adoption isn't just for people who don't have biological children or can have them or who aren't going to have them it's for whoever wants tog ive the gift of a family toa child who is not so fortunate Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mr. Taco	Who informed you of this? That isn't true. It couldn't be. How can anyone stop you from having a child after you adopt? That is impossible. If it WERE true, it would be a Constitutional lawsuit waiting to happen. In any case, I know at least two examples from people I personally know where they adopted a child, and later had biological kids of their own. Nothing happened, except that the adopted kid had some siblings to play with. p.s. Someone above made a good point. I admittedly presumed you were in America, but the fact is that a lot of people here are not. If you live otherside the United States, I easily could be wrong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

candy licker	I don't think thats true. My sister is adopted and she is 5 years old than me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

soulsearcherofthetruth	I have never heard of this before. How can they have the right to tell you that you cannot conceive if you adopt? In addition, why is it okay for a person to adopt after they have had children. Sounds pretty shady to me. If I were you I would consult a lawyer. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jenz	well in our country,it is not against any rules or laws..you can have both your biological and adopted child... but these rules are different to other countries,so.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mamsy0	no it makes no diffrence Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wiggles	No I have not heard of this and I have many friends that A) are adopted and have a younger sibling that is a biological child of the parents, or B) are the biological child and have an older adopted sibling. They are all well-adjusted and healthy adults now. Adopting and have biological children all depends on the parents. If they treat all the children the same, well not the same because every child is treated uniquely, but with same love and affection, and attention, then there usually isn't a problem. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ronald M	No. I mean you should be able to do it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lorri	Whats wrong with it??? all kids need love and parents whether they're biological or adopted. Just make sure you don't treat them differently.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

krystalkf	??? who are they to tell you if you can or cannot have a child? plus, what if it were unplanned? i would check into that because that doesn't seem logical. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ambrosia	why would it be? that is bull! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lisa	no that rubbish nobody can say 'no you cant have children'!!! Thats just not right Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Princess of the Realm	Never heard that. In fact it sounds stupid! I was adopted as a baby, then my parents had 2 biological children, my 2 younger brothers. No big deal. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

preggo	I'm the oldest of three children. Both myself and my younger brother were adopted. My mom had had several miscarriages and thought she could not conceive. This was an issue for them while adopting me. My birth mother specifically wanted a family who could not conveive to adopt me. She didn't want the family to have a biological child and an adopted one. She thought there might be some discrimination or preference. However, my mother did have my younger sister several years later. I don't think this is against any law, it doesn't sound like it could be in the US anyways, but depending on the agency you are going through, perhaps your specific agency has regulations. Some people will say parents love all their children equally, so there is nothing to not wanting to mix biological and adopted children. But I think at least some people, if they really look into their hearts, do favor one child over another, even in families where no children are adopted. Doesn't the oldest usually get just a little more pressure and the youngest a little more help and sympathy? In my family, there is definately a difference between the adopted children and the natural one. Personality is definately a lot nurture, but also part nature. We three kids are quite different from each other both physically and mentally. But my sister is just like my parents, both in physical and mental aspects. Things like intelligence and certain preferences are passed down. My brother and I also have more mental issues than my sister, who is very well-balanced. I think many adopted children will go through some mental issues, such as depression, at some points in their lives, just because of the experience of being adopted. So I think it is wrong for someone to say there will be no difference in the children. But I also think it's wrong for them to tell you you can't have another child. My birth mother was right. My parents have always been the best with my sister, partly because she is so much like them, partly because she is the youngest. But I know that they love all of us and I am grateful to have been taken in by a loving family who had much better means to support me than my birth mother did. Maybe she and I look alike and are more alike in personality, but living with her I wouldn't have gotten to go on so many vacations every year, wouldn't have been taken to museums and cultural events, would have gone to school in a poor and troubled school district. I'm sure I would have a similar personality, but I wouldn't have turned out to be anywhere as near as intelligent or healthy as I am today if I had grown up with her. So maybe my parents do show some favoritism, but I am thankful to them for taking me in and giving me a really good start in life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No