Are You For Or Agianst Adoption?

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Miracles L	im for because know one wants to be alone and you can adopt an amimal thats in a hard time Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jaclyn...Macy arrived 1/21/09	For it. If it wasn't for adoption there would be loads of kids out in the middle of the streets. Kids dying. Starving. It wouldnt be good. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

.	For. You can't be against, like, Idk. How would you feel if you were one of those kids? - Everyone has a right to a good life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Judaee	I am an adoptive mother of three. It is a blessing from God! It is the next best thing to being with your biological parents. Much better than being a foster child, or living in a group home. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

armadura(conservative asskicker)	i am for it i would be a complete jackass if i was against it because i did adopt i hate it that people are against it ,y wife just found out three days ago she can never get pregnant which was never going to be a big deal to us the kid i adopted lost both his parents due to them being cowards by taking there own lifes he even told me he does not want to remember anything about them they where meth users who only cared about their drugs so i did everything for him changed his middle name to edward like mine since he is a male in my family and that is a tradition in my family and now has my last name he did not even want to go to his parents funeral which was fine with me so yes anti adopters you can thumbs down me all you want because i don't care what you think Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cindy B	For it! I adopted Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Camerons mommy [10weeks with #2]	No im not against it. children with no parents deserve them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

singing_in_the_rain♥	FOR!! how can someone be against adoption?? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

natim1	I think it's great. BUT PLEASE do not dress your children (seems to be a major problem for little girls adopted from China) in little "Chinese" dresses or shirts. I understand that you want your children to have culture, but that is really not the right way. I dare you to find any non-adopted Chinese child who actually wears clothes like that. It's like taking the kid to the local "Chinese" Buffet and giving them General Tsao;s chicken and fortune cookies and telling them that's a part of their culture. Take the time to do a little research, watch some NON-FICTION movies about China with them, or give them Chinese language lessons. But please, don't dress them as the stereotypes. It is HIGHLY offensive. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Spaghetti Cat (♥'s you!)	I'm all for it. If a child needs a home, then a child needs a home. Why in the world would you feel that someone shouldn't be giving them that home? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pregnant with my 1st!!	I'm all for it! I think adoption is an awesome thing! I don't see how anyone could be against it either. There are so many people who can't have children of their own and this is the only way they can experience being a parent. And if the children are not wanted or can't be taken care of properly then I think them being able to be given to a family who can give them the love and support they need is great. I'm also very against abortion and think adoption is a way better option giving the baby life and a family and home where they can have everything they need and want. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

momof2	i dont understand why someone would think it's bad....First of all these babies, kids did ask to be born. I am against abortion, I am against having babies and you can't afford them and keep having them and live off the system. People who want to adopt seem to be unselfish. To take someone into your home and love them and they're not yours is a beautiful thing. Personally I haven't had experienced with it. I have 2 biological boys of my own and would like to adopt if the Lord willing. It's just a thought. Adoption is not wrong. Wrong motive is wrong..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

WSMA	For adoption, as long as the child's real name(Surname),and identity are never hidden from him/her, and it is told that it's adoptive parents aren't it's real parents from an early age. None of this "oh we adotped you so now we're going to pretend your our child and that your real parents never existed and why we're at it, lets change your surname to our surname that way you can live a lie." crap that goes on in usa courts. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mystical	I think it is a wonderful thing for a child who has no natural parents for whatever reason - i also think it good for a young mother who is not ready to parent to have an open adoption where everybody is honest about everything from the beginning. I am beginning to wonder about other types of adoption. In china for instance people should be allowed to keep their children and pressuring a poor mother into giving away a child is horrible if she really wants to keep it. I don't know, after reading this sight I can see two sides. I feel empathy for those adoptees who feel like they lost their families. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

truckdrivergirl	For it. I was adopted when I was 3 wks old. I never knew my real parents, and don't really care if I ever do. I got great parents, family and friends and I'm tankful for all of them. Your real family don't necessarly have to be the one s your blood realted to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Diane W	I am for children having their basic needs met and permanence; however that needs to happen. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	I am against finding babies for desperate infertile couples wanting a 'child of their own' - which they can never truly have - but still adopt to live the fantasy. Babies aren't dropped from the sky - they come from a family that they are bio related to - and they need to know that - and be allowed to grieve the loss of that - no matter the circumstances. For a child to be adopted - they've had a pretty rough and sad start to life. I am for finding loving understanding families for children that really need them - that allow the child to know who they are - and allow them to feel however they wish to feel about their own adoption - as it's about them - first and foremost. I am against questions that are asked by people that have NO idea what it feels like to actually be an adoptee. Those questions and the ignorant answers that they provoke - are hurtful to those that have lost families - to make new ones. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kiki	I'm adopted, have an amazing adoptive family so in that sense I'm for it. However, I could never give my own child up for adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kate	I am an adoptee, domestic, was in foster care from birth till the age of two, when my only foster parents, adopted me. I myself am against international adoption as often international adoptees struggle with loss of culture, not knowing native languages and so forth. People thinking that they'll have horrible lives in their native countries, but brining them to America will serve them better, not the case in all international adoptions. I wish more would adopt locally through the foster care system as we in our own country have numerous infants, toddlers, children and teens awaiting a loving home. Yes, many kids in foster care have many struggles, but if you spent a day in their shoes you would not be able to make it a day. To think that adopting internationally that the child will have no questions, emotional struggles that adoptees go through, BS. They have issues, just like any adopted individual from any location. Here in our own country we need to rescue so many kids, that suffer beyond words, yet people assume they are fine in care. They suffer just like any international adoptee. There is no difference. So save the children in our country first, that is all I ask. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather B	I'm For finding homes for needy children Im Against finding babies for needy adults (which in the USA involves money$$$$ and therefore prone to corruption and unethical practises) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The brain	Against any adoption that is not ABOUT THE CHILD.... Against International adoption because you are removing children from their culture and families and their are no restrictions on the children, so people are paying $30,000-$50,000 for kids that might have family members in their country. Against domestic adoption that is not from foster care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

myst1998	For the most part, I am against adoption. Yes there are reasons for children to be adopted or taken from their families but the majority of infant adoption and adoption in general is not promoted for this reason but as a way for people who can't have children to build a family. I have nothing against those who want family of their own, discover they cannot for whatever reason, DEAL with those issues and then find a way to help children who need care. What I have an issue with is those who go into adoption blindly, not listening or being open minded to the feelings of others and the information out there about how separation between mother and child is detrimental. I am against adoption where people who cannot have children pretty much coerce a mother for her baby and pay for it, unethical procedures, changing birth certificates so a child's life becomes a lie in a sense and unnecessary adoptions. I take offense to the way mothers who have done nothing wrong yet have had their children taken JUST to satisfy another's needs are put down by the rest of society. I am against the purchasing of children. So yes, I am against adoption but I have reasons for it. Honestly, ask yourself why there would be so many people against adoption who are mothers, adoptive families and adopted persons if there wasn't a legitimate reason? I for one used to hold the same view of many because I was uneducated and naive about adoption issues. I have learned through research, my own pain and the stories of others that adoption is far from the glossy perception that has been sold to the rest of society. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SJM	Oh, I just loved not knowing who I was for 21 years. How could there be a downside to that? What self-respecting human being wants to know anything about their own family? Yeah, it's all good. ETA: I esteem myself highly enough not to be satisfied with a judicially fabricated ancestry. Thank you for your concern. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mei-Ling	Do both count? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lori A	For or against What you call adoption I am against. opinion Because it is full of secrets and lies. Is no longer about the children. Takes advantage of everyone who is involved with it. reasoning I tried it and didn't like it. Question for you; How much did your cousins cost? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cantstopLinnyG	Im for people who look at undecided and resolved questions to see if there are 9 zillion other questions exactly like this! This question should be aborted. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kateiskate	As an adult transracial, international adoptee, I would have to say as a whole I am not against ADOPTION per say, but I am against uneducated people making uninformed decisions about adoption. I am against the false view that adoption is only sunshine and unicorns. I am against coercion, deceit, and ignorance. I am against human trafficking. I don't think that's unreasonable. I also think as an adoptee and therefore the victim of adoption I deserve to feel however I want to about adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anha S	I think I've answered the same question multiple times just this weekend, but ok, I'll take another whack at it. I'm pro adoption reform. I'm pro adoption from foster care, as those children who's parents rights have been terminated are in a real need of a loving and stable home. I'm anti unethical adoption, which includes pre birth matching, and a whole laundry list of coercive tactics meant to talk a frightened woman right out of her baby. The amount of money that changes hands during some forms of adoptions helps to fuel child trafficking, and provides incentive for these agencies to get womb wet infants at any cost. I am against unnecessary adoption, as in a woman who would parent if she felt she had the resources and support available to her but relinquishes because she feels backed into a corner. I'm against using adoption as a permanent solution to what is often a temporary problem. People don't remain young forever. They grow up. Financial situations can be changed. etc. I'm against adoption in the way that it strips a person of their identity, culture, medical history, family ties, and language. When adoptees can walk into their local registrar, apply for their birth certificate, and come out with the people's names on it who actually conceived and birthed them, I will be ecastic. I will never be against providing a home for a child who really and truly needs it. But I think so much about adoption needs some real attention and work, and that will never be accomplished as long as the negative side gets brushed away. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Opedial	Are you with me or against me? Do you like black or white? Is your answer yes or no? There are all shades of gray my dear, questions like this only aim to put people into a box of thought, suggesting their are only two said boxes of thought. There are many things to consider, such as I like adoption but don't like the profit adoption agency, or I do not like adoption, but understand as a last resort I have to use it...the list can go on. So think about it, listen to what people have to say, and don't ask ALL or NOTHING questions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

monkeykitty83	I strongly support adoption from foster care. I feel that in many aspects of adoption, reform is badly needed, and I think some current practices need to be re-examined and a better solution found (like amended birth certificates should not be necessary) and some practices should be halted all together (like pressuring mothers out of parenting and into placing.) I think older children should have a choice between adoption and permanent legal guardianship, and that guardianship as it is now established under law also needs reform to be a viable option. I'm not against providing children who need homes with loving and stable families. I actually think that's a really good thing, and there are many foster children in particular who could really use it. Some children can't be raised by their biological families, and alternate arrangements need to be made so those children can still be nurtured and cared for. I support adoption for those children who are truly in need of permanent homes and stable family situations. So I would actually consider myself pro-adoption, with the caveats listed above. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥♥Rita♥♥	For adoption?? Against adoption?? If only the end result and ideology were really THAT concrete. Sometimes adoption is great, it works often for all involved. When all falls in to place, it is very placid. Sometimes though, it is not great. Not all children who have been adopted throughout history were at risk of harm but their n/parents were led to believe that. You only have to read the heart wrenching stories of mothers/fathers and adult adoptees who will tell you ADOPTION HAS NOT BEEN GREAT FO R THEM. Your cousins from China may have wonderful thoughts on adoption, they may have been "rescued" from some intolerable drama in their home country. Often times though, the foreign mothers have the same stories to tell as American mothers, Canadian mothers......all mothers who have been lambasted by the adoption agency whose primary role it to find babies for the families who are willing to pay huge amounts of money......FOR A BABY. I do not have a problem with adoption, private, public...whatever. I do have a problem with the lies which have lined the adoption myth and led the masses to believe that babies are being rescued from some horror....and bunches and bunches of loves and hugs will fix it all....... I hear all to often from families who just want that "perfect white baby"....and nothing else will do. We have many children in foster care who want and need a home.....but only "healthy white babies" will do but that "perfect little angel" minority baby may be okay...but case by case is how the families want to approach those scenarios. Are families needing children....or are children needing families. That should be the question....and then only after much apparent reform has been handed down to adoption agencies. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No