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sam22254	He's your child name the child what you want to and let him know of the name you got him with that way he can choose latter if he wants to. my son has been fighting since 2 days before birth for his son and we have gone through the same thing. My son asked the judge to leave the first name the same but to change the middle and the last name. She didn't do it so my grandson birth record and his true name is baby boy myers great huh. The couple named him Hunter and used the wan-ta be father's first name as hunter's middle name and call his last name theirs which in no way can he be that. He's not their and will never be. We thought that with hunter being 3 their would be damage to him to have to learn to be call another name. So since my son has been seeing him for 2 years now he calls him hunter but trys to explain that him last name is the same as my son and his sister's. But until this couple starts telling the truth all it does his mess him up. So name your child the name you want but let him know that his 1st name that you know of is the other name good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ME!	I agree with your son in the Sheavonnee sounds like a girls name. I think it was smart of you to at least choose a name similar to his birth name, so if later he didn't understand, its a "nickname." But, if you son is happy with his name and glad you changed it, i think it is ok. I have nothing against changing the given name Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥HEARTS 808♥ TROPICAL BABE♥	Having never adopted a child I cannot speak from that standpoint...I do however know we as loving parents (whether adoptive or natural-born) make decisions on a DAILY basis that effect our children and we do it from a stand-point of Care, Concern and most of all Love. Some of those decisions our children think are Great and some..well, Not-So-Much! :-) But we do our Best. I feel...NO..I KNOW what you did, you did with a GREAT amount of Thought and Soul-Searching before making such a BIG decision in changing his name. Sean likes his name and thinks you made the right decision...HIS is the ONLY opinion that Really matters! Rest Easy my Friend...you did what you thought was right. At least Sean is happy with your choice of names, he could be like My Erick...HE tells me I should have named him Alex! :-0 :-) SEE..WE can't WIN! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Just a Mom	Let me go against the grain and say I agree with you changing it. I kept all of my kids' first names, but we changed their middle name (they picked them out if they were old enough) and we all, including Sarah and I, changed our last name. He wasn't ever called the name and it is really feminine sounding. You did what you could to keep it close to his name given at birth. And I don't think his name was all he has left, as another person said. He has whatever you choose to share with him left and I think that as he gets older, if you tell him this story, he will thank you for changing out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DevonChaos	Please let the poor dear keep his name. Like an above poster said, its all he has left from his life, prior to you coming in. Don't erase his past. Give him a nickname, and people will only know his real name when he wants to share. Don't be ashamed because it sounds like a girls name to you! Its HIS name. He IS Sheavonnee. How selfish of you to change it just because you don't like it. Shame on you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Randy B	I don't like the name and would have changed it myself. We did that with our last child although she was an infant at the time, not older. Then again, from what you are saying, your son never used that name anyway so it's pretty much the same in my mind. Given the fact that it had never been used, that he took quickly to the new name and stated that he didn't like his original name I wouldn't worry about your choice. Add to that the fact that he is well aware of his original name, so it's not like you are hiding anything, if he ever wants to change it himself he is free to do so. Sounds like a "win/win" situation, especially given his feelings. I really wouldn't worry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1	it's his name. it's all he has left. he has lost his family. do you really need to take away his name, too? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gaia Raain	I guess I'm coming at it from a different angle. I have an unusual name, and I LOVE it. My siblings have unusual names, and they love them. I had planned to name my kids unusual names (when I was planning to name them). I told my husband that if I've heard a name before, it was off the list. I saw your son's name and immediately thought it was cool. It could sound like a girl name, but 1. I hate any kind of gender discrimination, and 2. I've known lots of guys with girl sounding names, and girls with guy sounding names, and it actually seems to make them cooler (but maybe that's the feminist Oregonian rebel in me, I don't know. I think anyone who bends the "rules" is cool). HOWEVER, all that aside, I'm in no place to judge anyone for changing names. He knows what his name was, and I'd say that as long as he knows he's more than welcome to change it back any time he wants, it's all good. Hindsight is 20/20, right? What's done is done, so just make the best you can of what you've got. You know...just a thought. There is always the option of changing his name back on paper, but calling him Sean "for short". Just throwing that out there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

trying2behelpful	Interesting! It sounds like Giovani, the Italian name for Johnny. I haven't been in the position to change the child's name. (We adopted our daughter when she was newborn.) Typically I would say that it wouldn't be right to change a child's name if he was adopted at 2 1/2. However, I think I would have a hard time deciding on what to do in this particular situation, considering the fact that he was never really called that name anyway. I think that shortening the name to Sean was the best thing you could do in changing it, because it still keeps part of his original name. I also think that you did a good job by discussing this with your son instead of hiding it from him. I do think that if you have a good relationship with him, he will feel like he can change it back if he really wants to. It sounds like though you did him a favor by changing it. In my opinion, it does sound like a feminine name like he said! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sunny	I probably would have kept it and called him "Sheavon", dropping the "ee", or kept it, and called him "Sean", or kept it as his middle name, and called him, say, "Michael Sheavonee". Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	The name is very unusual - especially to American society. If he had grown in the US with his bio parents who gave him the name - and instilled pride in the name and in his heritage - the outcome may be have been different. I guess you'll never know. He may have still been teased - but when your parents instill in you that ownership and pride in your name - the outcome can be different. Children take so much info from their parents - not just through their words. Your concerns with it - and the change - to a child - would mean that their was something 'wrong' about the name. (if you didn't think it was wrong - your wouldn't have changed it). You've already now instilled in him that it was the right thing to do - because you believe in the need for the change. Children trust their parents - especially when they are young. So he's taken on thatstance - that it was the right thing to do. Do you know what I mean?? Not accusing or blaming - or anything really - that's just how the events have played out. If you wish to get support for the change - go ahead - but what's done is done. We can all find people that will agree with us - to make us feel better - it's what we humans do. (please don't take this as a dig - I'm just stating how I see it) Above all - you've done the right thing by being open and honest about it - and not making it a 'tabu' subject to talk about. Allowing him the option of changing it back - and keeping your own personal opinions (negative) on any change - is the way to go - but I doubt he will - when you changed it already - and adoptees rarely want to go against their adoptive parents. (that whole wanting to not be rejected again thing). Personally - I think you should have at least kept it within his name - like a second name perhaps. But he can also do that when he's older. Ultimately - the deed has been done. You made your choice. Now he must live with that - and adjust - which adoptees do. ETA: hmmm - a made up name. Bugger!!! That happens far too often these days - parents should take on board how hard an unusual name can be for any child. A hard case in deed. But again - when you are named and raised by your bio parents - I think it can be a little easier - as they are the one's that picked the name - know all the reasons behind the name - believe in the name - and that flows on to the child. KWIM?? If you had kept the name - your son may have picked up that you still didn't like it - and that could have been even more damaging. Unusual though - that's for sure!!! Hugz. Poss. xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No