Adoption? For or against it?

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Sarah	The adoption process isn't necessary agreeable however, I'm all for it. I believe it gives parents a choice to relinquish their child for whatever reason it may be, and it gives the child a SLIGHTLY better chance to have a better life than if adoption never existed and children were just left out on the streets to starve to death. Though I can understand how adoption can be viewed negatively, however, like my view on abortion, sometimes adoption is better than if parents did something out of desperation to get rid of their own child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bookworm_382	I'm for it. You are giving a child a home and a family this way. There are so many kids without a family. They deserve that as much as anyone. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wildheartedmustang	Ok I think that if you absolutly CANNOT take care of a child, then Im for it because it would be tough on the child. If you can and your just being lazy about it, then you should suck it up because your the one who was having sex... where do you think babies come from? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

FILA	My answer short and sweet. I would never adopt a kid if i was able to have my own, if my Miss. Future Wifey was able to. If we were both healthy and able to have our own, then damnit we will. lol. I don't hate the kids who meed adopted, its kinda sad, some moms leave there young, some dads run off, some never wanted kids they just couldnt keep there whore legs closed. Now If I wasnt able to, or Miss wifey wasnt, then possibly I would adopt, but it would be a baby, a new born, not a kid already like 6 years old. When you have a kid, along with the child you grow to. You might learn stuff you never knew about yourself, you'll make mistakes but you learn from them, adopting a 6 year old unless you have had a child thats grown up would be like impossible cuz then it would be like baby sitting the kid all your life. you dont kno anything about the kid or what hes been through, yea a piece of paper might say his history but its different if your not with him. A new born, the baby isnt gonna know that he or she was adopted or who its true mother is or anything. later in life you could explain it to him or her, but have a adopted new born it would be like yours. thats the only situation I would adopt in. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mexicanboy18	I'm kinda for it and against it. Kids do need parents, but I personally prefer to have my own children. My flesh and blood, you know? VIVA LA RAZA! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

23 year old texas female married	I am against it. It is not needed in most cases. There is no reason to separate a child and mother when most mothers are perfectly capable of taking care of their own young. While you are pregnant you are very hormonal and your emotions are very strong. It is easier to talk somebody out of a baby when they are confused and alone. Ask how many women if they would have changed their minds about adoption after holding their child or caring for their child. And then you have women that think they deserve a baby and that they are more worthy of having a baby because they are married. They are so blinded to see that being single and raising a baby is not a bad thing. They believe (or their religion) think a child must live in a 2 parent home. And we live in America there is no reason why anybody should be told that a married couple is more worthy of raising their baby then they are. Yes there are some women that truly don't want their offspring. And that is fine. The state can adopt them out and make sure they are going to good homes. Yesterday I got an email saying dear birth mother if you are considering adoption I would be the perfect mother to your daughter bah bah bah bah bah. I don't care that you want another baby. I am sorry you had your first 26 years ago and with your new husband you want to have another baby. Not my fault not my problem. Yes I blocked the person. I been approached by to many nutcases just grocery shopping that ask 'Can I adopt him/her' I have 3 kids. I don't know why I am asked about adopting my kids out. I find it offensive. Adoption is not the cure for infertility. Hire a surrogate or do it the right way and adopt a child out of foster care.-Allison Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kazi	I believe adoption is necessary. I adopted 2 children: my daughter is from China and my son was adopted through children's services. In both of their cases they needed a family. My daughter was abandoned most likely due to China's one-child policy and was in an ophanage and my son was removed from his first mother due to abuse. As far as I am concerned, as long as there are children without famlies who are willing or able to care for them then adoption needs to exist. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Janice W	For, it worked for us. Our son is adopted. I was unable to have any children. His natural mother never even saw him. He says that we are his parents and he loves us and shows it in so many ways. Friends that also could not have any children, watched what happened with us. They also adopted. We waited 3 years, they waited 7 years. This was in the 1970's in the U.K. adoption done through the state. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Daniel'sMommy61909	I'm for it I lost my son in November 08 And I think it happened to make me relies this is what i want to do...After I lost Him I said OK I want to be a social worker..I want to help children.. I have Decided I want to adopt Most Of my Children I have always wanted kids (maybe 8 plus) and I only Really Want to have Two By Way of birth I want a Very big Family and That's how i wanna do it There are more Kids then homes.....I want to help those kids because one day they are going to help Some kids(if i raise them right) And there kids will do the same and so on and so forth..and that's going to make the world a better place its not much but its a good start Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pro-life Princess	um, do you mean the status of adoption agency? if the children are in good or poor condition? I'm not sure, I don't know much about adoption other than pro-choice claims that it's "so horrible." or do you mean the morality of giving your child up for adoption? I don't think it's a very moral thing to do but sometimes you have to do what you have to do, I know in the bible moses was adopted so I don't think god have an issue with it. Were talking about giving a child to someone who can provide for them not abandoning them on the side of the road. Sometimes you have to do whats best for the child and if the mother knows she's not fit to care for her own child she's responcible for finding someone who is. I think adoption is much better alternative than being aborted because you are giving the child a chance to make something out of his or her life. Or do you mean would I ever adopted? Which I will actually one day : ] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ILUVmyLittleChuncksters	i think if u absolutly can not take good care of ur child and have had a looooooooong time to think about wat u r doing (u know about having a baby in ur future) then i think adoption is sumthing to consider it's way better than abortion (killing ur own child sounds like a great sin to me) b/c there r many ppl out there who don't want kids of their own but want to adopt one or can't have a kid and want to adopt one Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lucy da cat	I'm against it. As a trans-species adoptee (cat adopted by human) I have been through a lot emotionaly because of the confusion related to not fitting in with my family. I don't think anyone should have to suffer losing their mommy and then punished with so much confusion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Girly	I am all for it. Why should children be motherless and fatherless because their biological parents couldn't or wouldn't take care of them? That doesn't seem fair to me. All children deserve to be loved instead of getting lost in the foster care system. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥ kay.	It's funny how 99% of people who are for it will never know the pain, confusion, etc of being adopted. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sac_cali_916	i'm so for it beacause every children should have a loving and caring house, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

alliemoroney	FOR im adopted and kids are put up for adoption for a reason to get a chance to live a better life with people who WANT them Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sizesmith	I'm for adoption, in many cases, but also for rights of mothers placing their children for adoption. I think that any mother who decides that she chooses not to parent should be able to meet the adopting parents, go to their home and visit, meet their extended family if she wants, and she should have written permission to run checks through the sheriff's office to find out if they ever move, of where they've moved to. I think that adoption records should be open, except in cases of abuse (then only until age 22 or so). I think that natural parents who lose children should also lose their rights to privacy when it comes to the kids, but I also know that it shouldn't be in "public" record, where only the adoptee can find it, with proper ID, but not newspapers, etc. I think that for-profit agencies should not exist, and that the state should handle adoptions if there's to be an agency involved. I think that every mother who's placing a child should be mandated during pregnancy, and at birth to know her rights, and that a period of 10 days after the birth (or relinquishment papers are signed-whichever is later), that she has a right to change her mind. I think also that open adoption should be legally enforceable, as if it were visitation rights as if in divorce, with hefty fines if the adoptive parents didn't follow. I wish that so many who seek open adoption for their child could easily be matched with someone like us, who honor open adoption, rather than by people who have tons of money and get to pay agencies that promote AP's to lie, because they tell them that they can check the box for open adoption, and that they don't have to honor it (this happened to me even before I said I wanted open adoption). And for the having their OWN kids, my adopted son is mine in my heart, and will always be his first parent's also in theirs. He is so precious to me, that I would defend him with my life, I would do anything for him, and I am his biggest cheerleader, and he is just as much mine as my biological son, when it comes to the heart. It would be fighting words to say he's not, it's just he has 4 parents, not just 2. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Philippa	Adoption needs major reform and I am against adoption in it's current form. My exceptions to the rule are if the child is abused/neglected or orphaned. I am involved with helping to keep families together as there many families being split because parents have either been falsely accused, parents suffer with depression so just need support and coercion is still alive and kicking. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jesse Ryansson	for this world "adoption" i don't even try to talk about it should not even be a option. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Omicester	Adoption can be good and adoption can be bad. What about orphans whose parents died? To me I think it's for couples or single women who can't get pregnant, don't want to give birth naturally, and don't want a surrogate. Doesn't a child get a say in it if he wants to be adopted why should we stop him. In my dad's home country it's very common that mothers die. My mom was an orphan at 4 but her grandmother took care of her and her 5 siblings. What you would call foster care adoption is even more common cause half of the people there are live poverty but give birth to like 7 kids and then send them to wealthy relatives to care for. I'd rather go to non-relative parents that wanted me than with selfish relatives that were stuck with me. Adoption can be cruel because of the way the system is and how some adopted children wonder about their biological family. I'm still for giving a child a loving home no matter what. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SJM	I am against it. I'm all for children who need care finding it in private homes. I am against transferring titles, however. Children should not be transferable property. A birth certificate should be a record of an event, not a title of ownership with a transferable quality. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

adoptedparent26	As an mother who has adopted my son. my son was taken from his mother because of abuse. He was 2 when he was taken and we adopted him at 4 years of age. He sees his bio brother and gets to see his other sister to. I am for adoption when it is to the right people and for the right reason. I didn't adopt to get a child. We adopted because he needed someone to love him and we were trying to keep him in the family. I have a bio daughter that is 4 and i love both of them and can't see my life with out either one. As he has our last name on his birth certificate and that makes him happy. He was so happy when we went to the judge and we had his name changed. I left his first and middle the same. I know who his bio mother is and where she lives. So at some point in his life he can have the information. Sometimes children get the wrong home and get abused again. I think that the adopted parent need to go threw a better back ground check. These agencies making lots of money from a child's adoption is wrong. Happy Children should be the concern. Not the money they make from them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

charlie_gurl	anonymous - adoption is not murder, think your refering to abortion there Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mom to Foster Children	Only for it if it's what in the best interest of the child = Foster Care where reunification can't be established. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cambria	I am not against it, but I think everyone involved needs to be made aware of the issues involved in adoption and need to be made aware to the difficulties that the child (and all members of the triad) will face due to the issues of adoption. I don't think adoption as an idea is wrong. There are many cultures where adoption is commonplace and, because it is handled in such an open way and, usually, because it takes place in communal based societies (ie. the Yapese), things are not nearly as complicated as when it happens in societies where people try to pretend that adoption has no effect on anyone and that everything is happy happy happy. So, while I don't think adoption is inherently a bad idea, there are bad effects that are inherently associated with it in most societies and I think all parties need to be made aware of it and, if they choose adoption, they should have resources available for all members of the triad to help handle the issues. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Randy B	Essentially I'm for it although the system is not perfect. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather B	Both: I'm FOR keeping kids safe and finding homes for children who need them I'm against finding babies for waiting customers and the £1.4 billion industry that trades in infants in the USA Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

celtic.piskie	I am completely for a system that provides children with homes that they NEED. At the moment, we have a system that provides CHILDREN to homes that can pay for them. Children are being brought, sold, advertised, and even paraded in sick 'viewing' days to prospective 'parents'. More like purchasers. The system is set to make money, and to get children given up so they can be sold to the highest bidder. THAT is completely wrong. No-one should be against children gaining the homes and love that they need. But no-one should be for children being sold and brought according to their age, gender, and 'desirability'. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

devon_chaos	I am against adoption in its current form. There are far too many things wrong with it. There should be no exchange of money when it comes to a life. I understand legal fees, and the like, but there are agencies making a great deal of money for our children. This is just plain wrong. International adoptions are even more corrupt at times. I have read so many horror stories. Really, things that made my flesh crawl. I think a great number of reforms need to be made before adoption can be a place to find homes for children, not finding children for parents. If we keep up the good fight, perhaps someday it will happen. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PhilM	I am opposed to adoption. This is not a position I've arrived at quickly or rashly. For years, I was more ambivalent about adoption. I've become increasingly of the opinion that adoption is wrong, always, and that we continue it simply indicates a lack of creative thinking in our society. I do not believe children should stay in abusive or neglectful situation. Nor do I think children don't deserve love and affection. I just think the institution of adoption has become hopelessly messed up. It screws with children. And I think we need to think of better alternatives. That said... I am not opposed to people who adopt. I am not opposed to people who support adoption (in some ethical forms). I am not opposed to first mothers who relinquish their children. My opposition is reserved for the institution of adoption, and for society as a whole (and certain members of it) who refuse to see the dark side of adoption. I am opposed to some of the attitudes out there (whether among adoptees, APs, or FPs) and would like to see them changed. That doesn't mean I want everyone to agree with everything I've said. But I cannot accept the conclusion that adoption is simple and good. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cantstopLinnyG	As an adoptee, I am against adoption, with the exception of Foster Care adoption, or if there is NO one in the child's natural family to raise the child. Here are a few reasons why: http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_facts/adoption_coercion.html http://www.nancyverrier.com/pos.php http://www.amfor.net/acs http://www.babyscoopera.com http://www.keepyourbaby.com/the_primal_w... http://www.cubirthparents.org/edd/index.... http://www.thegirlswhowentaway.com/ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No